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Maria Ekesi Arinze, founder/Coach

23/02/2024

IT’S A WRAP!

Our February Valentine School tour ended yesterday with St Patricks Secondary School Asaba Delta State.

We discussed on the inspiring topic

“Becoming Aware of the Greatest of Love “

Thanks to the Principal and the entire School management for giving us the privilege of speaking to these young mind.

This sums it to a total of three(3) schools we visited and shared deep insights and teachings about Love.

To God be all the Glory🙏

On to the next.

Please if you are in Asaba and you want to be part of the team and also a volunteer, please send us a message on WhatsApp or Directly on messenger.

Speaker/Coach/Founder
Maria Ekesi Arinze

15/02/2024

VALENTINE WITH TEENS

Yesterday, 14th of February, 2024

Topic: BECOMING AWARE OF THE GREATEST OF LOVE

Venue: Infant Jesus Academy Asaba Delta State

Host: Maria Ekesi
Speaker/Coach

06/09/2023

Parents can teach their children healthy s*x education through open, age-appropriate, and informative discussions. Here are some elaborate ways to do so:

Start Early and Age-Appropriate: Begin discussing basic concepts about body parts, privacy, and boundaries at an early age. As children grow, gradually introduce more complex topics that align with their developmental stage.

Use Correct Terminology: Use accurate and appropriate names for body parts to reduce shame and stigma associated with them. This helps children develop a healthy understanding of their bodies.

Create a Safe and Judgment-Free Environment: Foster an atmosphere where children feel comfortable asking questions and sharing their thoughts without fear of criticism or embarrassment.

Be a Role Model: Demonstrate healthy relationships and boundaries in your own life. Children often learn by observing their parents' behavior.

Use Books and Resources: Incorporate age-appropriate books, websites, and educational resources that explain s*xual health concepts in an understandable way.

Teach Consent and Boundaries: Teach children the importance of consent, both in terms of their own boundaries and respecting others' boundaries. Use examples and scenarios to illustrate these concepts.

Discuss Puberty: As children approach puberty, explain the physical and emotional changes that come with it. Share information about hygiene and self-care during this stage.

Discuss Relationships and Communication: Talk about healthy relationships, communication skills, and the importance of mutual respect and trust in any relationship.

Address Online Safety: In the digital age, discuss online safety, including the potential risks of sharing personal information and the importance of being cautious online.

Answer Questions Honestly: When your child asks a question about s*x or related topics, answer honestly and age-appropriately. If you're unsure, offer to research together to find accurate information.

Be Non-Judgmental: Avoid shaming or making your child feel guilty for their questions or curiosity. Reinforce that it's natural to have questions about these topics.

Encourage Critical Thinking: Help your child develop critical thinking skills to evaluate information they come across, especially online, to discern what's reliable and accurate.

Gradual Disclosure: Consider having ongoing discussions about s*xual health rather than a single "talk." This approach allows for more in-depth and nuanced conversations over time.

Respect Privacy: Respect your child's privacy and boundaries, especially as they grow older. Let them know they can come to you with concerns or questions without fear of intrusion.

Remember that teaching healthy s*x education is an ongoing process that evolves as your child matures. Adapt your approach to their age, maturity level, and individual needs, always prioritizing open communication and a supportive environment.

Maria Ekesi
Founder/Coach
Child Time Matters-CTM

06/09/2023

Parents can control how their children use social media to ensure their safety through various strategies:

Open Communication: Maintain an open and honest dialogue with your child about their online activities. Encourage them to talk to you if they encounter anything uncomfortable or concerning.

Set Age-Appropriate Boundaries: Ensure your child uses age-appropriate social media platforms. Many apps have age restrictions for a reason.

Privacy Settings: Help your child configure privacy settings on their profiles to limit who can see their posts and information. Teach them the importance of keeping personal information private.

Parental Controls: Use parental control software or built-in device features to monitor and restrict screen time, app usage, and content access.

Education: Educate your child about the risks associated with social media, including cyberbullying, online predators, and scams. Teach them how to recognize and respond to these threats.

Supervision: For younger children, supervise their social media usage by being friends or followers on their accounts. This allows you to keep an eye on their interactions.

Time Limits: Set daily or weekly time limits for social media use to ensure a healthy balance between online and offline activities.

Encourage Critical Thinking: Teach your child critical thinking skills to evaluate the credibility of information they come across on social media. Discuss the importance of fact-checking.

Model Responsible Use: Children often mimic their parents' behavior. Be a role model by demonstrating responsible and respectful social media use.

Report and Block: Teach your child how to report and block users who engage in inappropriate or harmful behavior online.

Friendship Criteria: Discuss with your child the importance of only accepting friend requests or followers from people they know in real life.

Regular Check-Ins: Schedule regular check-ins to discuss your child's online experiences, challenges, and concerns.

Digital Detox: Encourage periodic breaks from social media to reduce dependency and stress.

Trust and Empower: As your child grows, gradually give them more autonomy and trust, while still providing guidance and support.

Stay Informed: Stay updated on the latest social media platforms, trends, and potential risks, so you can better guide your child.

Remember that fostering a safe online environment is an ongoing process, and it's essential to adapt your approach as your child matures and their online habits evolve.

Maria Ekesi
Founder/Coach
Child Time Matters-CTM

30/08/2023

Why your Child won't tell you their Secrets.

28/08/2023

How do you raise a RESPECTFUL child?

26/08/2023

Every child is a divine appointment!

24/08/2023

Building friendship with your children and maintaining parenting boundaries (The complete video)

23/08/2023

As a parent, how do you become friends with your children and still maintain parenting boundaries?

22/08/2023

If God recognizes the importance of earthly and physical parenting which made him send Jesus Christ as a Man and not as a God, chose Mary and Joseph as his earthly parents, then you would agree with me that every parent is just a caretaker and a guardian who will give account of how well they did as guardians to God's Children (our kids).

20/08/2023

As a parent, is attendance to church Compulsory or Optional for your children?

Maria Ekesi

19/08/2023

A good mum is not the mum that looses herself for her kids.

She is not the mum who beats herself up because she thinks she is not doing enough as a mother.

She is not the mum who forgets that she is also human and as human, she is not expected to be perfect as a mum.

A good mum is one who knows herself, knows her strength, affirms positively to herself, takes Care of herself and takes care of her health.

A good Mum is one who appreciates her little efforts in raising her kids. The one who recognizes the sacrifices she is making for her kids and the one who knows that she is doing enough.

A good mum is one who knows her weaknesses and her shortcomings as a mother but refuses to dwell in it.

The one who wants to improve as a mother, the one who buys parenting books, goes to parenting seminars, reads her bible and is available for any good transferable knowledge and skills for positive parenting.

As a mother, you need to love yourself first before you can be able to love your children.

Be kind to yourself as a mother!

Maria Ekesi
Coach/founder Child Time Matters-CTM

18/08/2023

As a Parent, how do you know if your child is TRAUMATIZED?

Some parents are Keen in knowing and understanding their child's temperament while most parents are not.

The advantage of knowing their emotional build up is that it helps you identify the nature of the child.

You know when they are happy, when they are sad, when they are angry, and when they feel unsafe around something or someone.

Knowing this will help you handle the situations and their emotion and reaction to these emotions.

The signs and effects of trauma differs in children . However, trauma in kids triggers them to act in a way that is uncharacteristic for them.

As a parent, how do you then know when a child starts acting off?

That is why I always preach about having close relationship with your children and spending time with them.

You should know your child better than anyone else and you should know when something is off about them.

When a child experiences physical, s*xual or emotional abuse, the trauma which comes from these awful experiences include but are not limited to

Being scared of a particular individual or not wanting to be left alone with a particular person. (This person can be a teacher, relative, or a family friend), Fear and anxiety, Depression, withdrawn behavior and s*xual knowledge that are Inappropriate for the child's age.

When a child experiences bullying. The physical consequences such as bruises and physical injuries can immediately be noticed, but the trauma of bullying leaves a child in fear, low self esteem and loneliness.

There is a refusal to be in the space or environment where the bully was done.

When it occurs in school, the child starts to avoid school and classes, they start to perform badly in academics and starts to loose concentration in everything.

They start to distance themselves from everyone around them just for them not to be in anybody's black list to avoid being bullied.

Domestic Violence. Parents who are always engaging in physical and verbal abuse or violence put their kids in risk of trauma such as fear, nightmares or trouble sleeping, trouble forming attachment with the parents and loss of appetite.

It makes the child feel unsafe living with the parents and tries to avoid being in the scene.

The effects of trauma on children can vary based on the the cause and also the age of the child. The way one child responds or reacts to a situation may differ from the way your child reacts to the same situation.

It is advisable that parents learn about their kids temperament, their emotional build up, reaction to changes and frustrations.

Traumas can be life threatening and should be handled in theost effective way.
Maria Ekesi
Coach and founder

18/08/2023

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18/08/2023

Fathers, claim your spot in your daughter's life. I advocate for a close Father/Daughter relationship.

Listen and learn how to have your adorable baby girl by your side❤️

Maria Ekesi
Founder/Coach

17/08/2023

Father/Daughter relationship.

Every father has a relationship with his daughter, which is either good or bad depending on the kind of father he is.

But since we're not here to talk about good/bad dad;

As a girl/lady, what is(/was) your relationship with your father like?

Most girl child have a deep feeling of love and admiration for their father but lack ways and means to express it.

Some girl child, have a deep sense of love for their father, but are expressionless with it because he in one way or another tries to maintain some certain level of discipline and authority in the house, which gives the girl cold feet to get close to them, say, or discuss some personal or private matters with him.

In Africa especially the Nigeria Igbo parents;

Igbo Dads do not joke with their daughters. A typical Igbo Dad has a somewhat obsession with their daughters which they don't know how to express. He does not know how to say no to whatever the daughter asks for (except the obvious bad ones) but would still try not to appear lenient while doing so.

Now, the both parties love, care, and respect each other but there is a gap or should I say a vacuum which they both need to fill for a better and admirable father/daughter relationship.

Sometimes, the daughter tries to take a step in having a closer relationship with her father, maybe by calling him on phone and towards the end of the call says " I love you Daddy", (and he replies with "Amen" or Thank You instead of replying, " I love you too") she still goes further to initiate taking personal pictures with the Dad, and he allows that just once in a while after much pleading and wooing. Maybe she then goes further to buying him gifts, and he stops her because he thinks she doesn't have enough to give him at the time being.

You will agree with me that it's not in the place of a daughter to build that kind of relationship with the father. I mean she can try but it's quite easier when the father/daughter relationship is spearheaded by the father.

It will be easier to get a lady by a show of love and affection (money, gifts, attention) but it's not so easy to get a man through same means. We as girls know what our love language is, but sometimes we don't even know what the men love language is, so we try to express love and affection the same way we want to be loved. (But since we're not here for love matter...)

As a father, it is easier to have your daughter by your side, you just have to loosen up. Express your love and affection to them. Trust me, if alot of fathers do express love and affection for their daughters, then I think alot of girls would actually be able to differentiate between true love and lies from other men.

Fathers, do not wait till they are old enough to see how authoritative you are, start from when they are still infants. Play with them, ask them some personal and engaging questions, show them that you want to be involved in evey aspect of their life and growth.

Most daughters cry alot when their fathers die because they know they don't even know him too well, they know there was never any form of closeness and they couldn't express their love for them because they were too bottled up and always appearing unapproachable.

Fathers, make yourself approachable to your daughters, they have alot of gists, love, friendship and experiences they want to share with you. Get close to them and be a good listener, give them guidance and always try to follow them up after the last conversation.

Daughters, if you don't have a close relationship with your Dad, it's not late. I understand they can be mean sometimes, but because we all live once, try as much as possible to have a good memory of him.

Maria Ekesi
Founder/Coach, Child Time Matters-CTM

03/06/2023

Some of you go as far as forcing your child to be modeled into your neighbor's child. Some of you , the names you give your child is because mama nkechi's son who is always coming first in class bears the name. Shame!

27/05/2023

Every Child is a DIVINE appointment.

Happy Children's day God's gifts!

06/07/2021

Treat your boys the same way you treat your girls

Pamper them

Love them

Speak positive words to them

Watch their mood swing and listen to them talk about everything.

Don't raise boys who would take their lives Because the society says "men don't cry"

Save your Boys!

27/05/2021

Happy Children's Day Celebration to all the kid's in the whole world.

Mama loves you immensely 💓

Celebrate a child today 💕

05/04/2021

We at child Time Matters-CTM Decided to spread love and some Food to the kids on the street. That's our own way of celebrating the resurrection of Christ and the price he paid for us on the cross of Calvary.

Thanks to all who made out time to Join in the outreach. May God Bless You Richly.

08/03/2021

It's Monday
Have you watered your Flower today?

06/03/2021

Every Saturday we Talk about what challenge (s) you face as a parent.
What are those things you need to share with us which you think creates a gap between you and your child. That thing that makes you think you're not doing enough as a father or mother. Or those areas you think you need to improve or do better as a parent/guardian.

Let's talk at the comment section or My DM.👇

What are your parental fears???

Maria Ekesi
Founder/Host
Child Time Matters-CTM

05/03/2021

Dear Parents/Guardians ❣️

Foster your child's Creativity by exposing him to influences that can provide him with inspirations.

The ability to think is great, the ability to creat your thoughts is greater.

Creativity involves thinking outside the box. Most times, smart and creative kids do not give you a Yes or No answer, or even give you an answer you expect to hear, but what ever they say, leaves you in awesomeness of how far their imagination can go.

The world of imagination creates unique images in their head. Allow them to day dream.

Most times creativity is daring to do what others see as impossible but you already have a perfect picture of it's realization and your only option is to make it come through.

Noise is a big distraction to a child's creative mind. Everyone can have a thought randomly, but a creative thinks with his mind and soul, although not yet realized physically but the beauty of his thoughts drives him to try out new things, things alot of people will not buy.( Agree to).

That's why it's your duty to not just create a Serene environment for them, but you have to encourage them in all ramifications. He needs your non-critical acknowledgement of what he is trying to accomplish.

Give him an environment that allows his creativity to develop and not be stifled.

Make your child a reader. The saying"readers are leaders" is underrated. Among it's many benefits, reading expands the intellectual horizon of your child, exposing him to new information and experiences that could potentially capture his interest, drive his passion and stimulate the urge to create.

Have supplies and tools he can be creative with easily available. Such as art materials, musical instruments, computers,toys.

Limit distractions and disruption that Rob time from your child to think, reflect, and use his imagination. There should be time for plays and time to imagine new things.

Praise your child as a creative person and be a role model. Show interest and enthusiasm in whatever he writes or creates, no matter how shabby you think it appears. Let him know you encourage him being a risk taker. This will make them want to do more, no matter the risks.

Tell your child stories about a creative person or persons. How they started and what they accomplished and how they got there.

Encourage your child to join competitions related to his interest. Advice him not to take loosing as a failure but a reason to do better sometime. Gently remind him that there can only be a few winners.

Finally Reward your child for finishing his creative work. You can buy his painting or his short story. Then help the world know about him by sharing on social medias and showing to your friends.

Maria Ekesi
Founder/Host
Child Time Matters

05/03/2021

Some IQ questions I ask my students

1. If you were the teacher for one day what would you teach your students?

2. If you could live today one more time, what would you do differently?

3. How would the world work if people had not invented the concept of money?

4. Can you be rude with someone who was rude to you or should you stay polite?

5. Can you be happy without money?

6. If you were to change one of your mum's character, what would you stop her from doing?

7. If you could give colours different names, what name would you give them?

8. If you had a magic wand, which three wishes would you make?

9. What are some things that adults don't understand?

10. What invention do you think the world needs?

You should ask your Children these questions too to see their replies. It will help their cognitive development and Critical thinking.

Please feel free to post their replies on the comment section 🙏

Maria Ekesi
Founder/Host
Child Time Matters-CTM

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Dear Lord! Please save our nation Nigeria from doom Save our kids and unborn generation from this injustice and perpetration of human rights. Save us from these killings and brutality Nigeria is our land , we have a say We choose who leads us and who doesn't We say what we want and what we don't We just stood up for once for a nation we love with our blood A nation we pray gets better A nation where everyone will be valued, irrespective of tribe or religion A nation of equality and tranquility All we asked for was for transparency and the need for the government to understand that we the youths can decide what happens and what doesn't. And what do we get? They try to stop our protest of end police brutality with Military brutality! Rather than the commander in chief of our nation making a public appearance to address the issue, he has been mute and the only way he responded was to heartlessly and brutally deploy soldiers to release fire and arms on innocent peaceful protesters, whose only defense was the national flag...ahhhhh What a shame to the world What a mockery they have made of democracy Nigeria has been justified beyond every doubt that we are just a democratic state with a tyrannic features. We're not just a failed state, but also a state that will never allow the youths to arise and shine!!! A state that will kill millions of youths rather than listen to Their cries of ending police brutality. We're our own very enemies!!! I Pray God sees us through! Maria Ekesi Founder: Child Time Matters-CTM #EndCorruption #ENDSWAT #SaveNigeria #ENDSARSNOW #endpoliceterrorism #EndBadGovernance #powerfulyouths #EndPoliceBrutality #childtimematters