30/07/2024
Hey family....
How have you been...
It's a day to my birthday, I'm super excited.
36 in a bit....
I wanted to write about something else but came here, read something on Ninnah Ninnah page....and I could so relate.
You see damaged people, you can't help them ...
I have my own fair experience and I thought to share.
It has to do with one of my son's teachers though, intentionally, I don't go for PTA meetings, my hubby does that but I'm involved in everything else, their assignments, assessments etc...
So last year valentine, I just had this prompt feeling of gifting my sons teachers..
So when hubby and I went perfume shopping at Lagos ,I bought three signature perfumes for my sons teachers( I have three sons though)....
Two sent their appréciation, one never did, she ate the thank you and very much 😂 😂 😂
But that's not what we're talking about anyways our bonds grew, and we exchanged numbers, when I'm less busy, I'd go through their WhatsApp status.
So, on this particular day, let's call her lady x ...she wrote some things that were suicidal...
I reached out immediately to her and told her to come home that I was at home.
She explained to details of the sour relationship between her father and her, she gave him all her savings and he came up with stories, how he was robbed BLA BLA BLA.....
He emotionally abused her ego and would call her pr******te always....
Anyways , I can't go further with what she told me, I ain't a snitch anyways... she was in pains...
She wept profusely while narrating her ordeals in the hands of her dad.
I tried my best to console her, so I remembered I had some money I wasn't really using....I told her to es**rt me, let's change it...I gave her some money.
The remaining money with me , I took her out, we went to a camerounaian restaurant and ate grilled fish, chips and plantain.
Hubby and one of his colleagues joined us too...making four of us...
I paid for everything, food, drinks and all...
We left.
Fast forward, I will always check in on her, most Sundays I would invite her over for lunch with her daughter ( she's a single mum)....
Her daughter bonded with my second son so we'll cos they were in the same class.
So that night, we discussed till the wee hours of the morning, my hubby was speaking to her cos she was mentally unstable...she had gone through so much.....
Her mum would call her phone often, I had to pick up and tell her mum that she's with me.
She said it's because of her father, he would lock her out....
Anyways the man locked her out, so herself and her daughter slept in my home.
Her father sent her out of the house so she moved in with me...and her daughter too....
They had rent issues so the landlord evicted them, she moved her things to my place....after awhile her younger sister joined ...
So, we had extra three mouths to feed in this chaos....
And the tragedy began....
For the first two weeks, she was cool but you know a snake is always a snake....
By the third week, she would see my hubby and Waka pass...no greetings, even me sefff...
When I spoke to her, she said she had mood swings 😂 😂 😂 😂
She would use my hubby's bathing soap, when I asked her she said she loves how supple and rich it makes her skin feel....
Skin care is expensive....she will keep hers and use mine....when mine is exhausted...I would buy ND she would still use....
She uses my bags when she goes out.....
When she gets back, she would call her daughter to narrate all the things that happened in her absence.....her daughter became a monitoring spirit in my home.
On one occasion...I tried talking to her about her daughter's misconduct, she told me..." My daughter has told me the truth" so Ayam lying.... 😂
I'm sorry, her daughter is quite manipulative....on one occasion, it was after Sunday service, we all got back from church so I had left over potatoes and egg sauce...I told the kids to eat it first .... Till when lunch is ready ...
Like, make Dem use am hold belle....
When I was done cooking, they all ate to their fill....her daughter ate twice.
When I lay down to sleep, she entered my room, if you see the way she tapped me...as if I owe her...
So I got up...and scolded her...how dare you walk into my room, you can't knock....we are age mates, right?
Is it up to 15 minutes you had lunch?...you're hungry now now....
Fambam....did you know what she did?
She went outside my gate and stood there and was crying profusely till her mum came back in the evening..
This was happening around past three.....she stayed outside my gate till past 6 in the evening.
When I reported to her mum ,she told me" my daughter eats five times a day"....
Wowwwwwxwxx
I was so shocked, I swallowed whatever I wanted to say.
She would hide her cereals and give her daughter only....
But I had four kids, my hubby....and three extra mouths to feed ( herself, her sister and daughter).
One of the times, I came home lately so I entered kitchen late...I didn't even know my hubby was in the room....I just dashed to the kitchen...
She called her daughter to their room, gave her golden morn, my hubby was observing....and called her...
I pay rent, water, light, dustbin bills...
I buy toiletries...you use my wife's skincare etc...infact you don't bring anything to the table yet you had the mind to do this.
You are an ingrate and you're wicked....too wicked.
My kids are hungry and waiting till when dinner is ready, your "precious"daughter will eat....then go and be burning my light...watching TV in my air condition right...
Even if the golden morn is small ....why not give zillie a spoon out of it?
I picked my kids ...it's not the same way you gave birth that we gave birth right?
You have 24 hours to leave!!
I don't want to return from work and meet you.
That night i begged my hubby tire....
Her younger sis and I called her brother in Abuja and we all begged...
He agreed....
I don't dish her food....I just dish for myself, hubby and kids.
They dish their food....
Bags wey I never remove label.....hanty will rock them to church and leave them in disarray.
I gifted her clothes...I even made some for her myself.
I remember when I made one boubou for church, she liked it, I made for her and her sister too...with my fabrics.
I saw shege banza promax.....
While I was away....my hubby couldn't tolerate her mess, he gave her an ultimatum to leave.
My kids would be hungry, she would buy food for herself and her daughter....days that my hubby will get home late from work.....( And I was in Lagos).
I gave her makeups....
I gave her stuffs....body mists, perfumes, jewelries etc.....
I planned a surprise birthday party for her in my home, I came to Ruby Felix saloon to make my nails....it was in her salon, I arranged for everything to surprise lady x.
We got her cake, drinks and hubby still took us out later at night to flex.
She goes on our Friday dates with hubby and I ..
It was when she started misbehaving ( not greeting my hubby , that he told me not to invite her anymore, you speak to me whenever you like, then I'd clear your bills....it fittn't work).
I borrowed 200cfa from her ....and some few times, maybe days I got home And I had no coins....she would make sure she collect to her last dime....yet enjoying lots of freebies in my home ....
How pathetic!!!
She started dating a colleague of my hubby....he wanted to marry her, we all were planning on when to engage her....but hanty f*****ed up.
She was promiscuous....
I remember I was at Aghaelinam Jennifer home, when my hubby told her to leave, I was cruising in Lagos...
I remembered sharing it with her, she was angry , she was just saying babe, you get mind oOoOO....
She said....babe...you have mind .
She for slap me sefff.....
Even when my mum head I was feeding three extra mouths.....she said if she enters cotonou, everyone will hear her voice.....that I should tell her to leave asap).
Guys, the day she parked out, she parked to the last pin, the broom she bought.....some stay at home put ONS I gave her..... 😂
After her sister and herself packed...she still slept a night to look around so as not to forget a pin.
She blocked me on WhatsApp.....
Recently, our paths crossed, hanty did as if she has never met my hubby and I....
We went to change money at the bureau de change.
I've moved on.....long ago....
But she's damaged ..very damaged.
Because of her, I made a vow with myself, never to help anyone with accomodations.
I help you from a distance, I can't bend my back for anyone again...
Never!!!!
From lady x, I learnt it's not everyone you help, learn to say enough is enough and be at peace with yourself.
You see ungrateful people, flee from them with your life.....
Learn how to say no to damaged and ungrateful people......
Even, if you skin yourself alive, you haven't done enough!!!
( Would write about her sister soon....omooooo if I help person again with accomodations, make I know wetin cause am)....and her daughter too.
Anyways I'm more than enough and I'm perfectly perfect with all my imperfections.
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Hope you got some value?
Loads of love,
Iphiee 💜
