16/02/2024
WHILE GROWING UP, BOYS DIDN'T LIKE ME, NOBODY COMPLIMENTED ME - MARIE AGYARE-WISEBORN SHARES
Taking you guys on the journey, when I was a little younger in year 8 or so. And I know we have many young viewers that's why I'm telling this story.
When I was in year 8, I was in a predominantly white area, I mentioned that for a reason. So, a lot of the boys will be telling the girls, oh you look nice, you look nice and I was just always sitting there and being like what about me? A lot of the boys will be telling the girls oh you are nice, you are this you are that and I remember one time in PE the girls will look at me and be like oh Marie why is your body like this. and I felt so low, I felt so ugly.
And sometimes, when you allow your definition of beauty to be determined by the people you see around you, you'll always like to measure up to them. So I was trying to measure up to the king of girls I saw in my school. You know I said to my self they have long straight hair they have this they have that, so let me also do that so that I can also hear that I'm beautiful
Because if the boys see them and say they are beautiful, I should also follow their example and do what they are doing.
And then there's this predominantly black area so coming from a place where I always felt I'm not even nice so coming to this predominantly black area I was a new girl there, I remember in the white area where I was formally, nobody looked me twice nobody would even mind me.
One day, I was doing athletic training and then I came to school, and this boy, he trained in the same athletic Club as me, and then, one day we were sitting and then this boy goes, you know Marie, she has a body.
And when he said that, it was like though I had now become visible . Prior to that, nobody looks at me, nobody minds me.
And so, for some of the girls out there, it may be that people only call you beautiful because of how your body looks, and I think that's so so dangerous, because your body is not completely who you are, your body does not define who you are. And it's to the point that sometimes when I see people post pictures online and I'll just blurr out their faces just their bodies. And I'm like you are more than your body
You do not know how precious and valuable you are to God, that he gave you his only son that you are just seeing your beauty only in your body. So that was me. That was how I saw my beauty it was only in my body how my body looks
Because prior to that, nobody complimented me, i found out that because I allowed other people to fool my understanding of beauty, it was impacting how I carried myself, I will draw more to tighter clothes, I will draw more to clothes that will show the figure and x, y, z. So as time went on, I didn't have peace of mind and heart
Because you are just doing something for somebody to tell you something. And when they don't tell you that, you are like rahhhh I put in all these efforts they didn't even notice me, they didn't even look at me,
And I really want women of God not to be in that place, especially young girls. Don't allow yourself to be subjected to a particular standard because you want somebody to tell you you are beautiful. And because they kind of hold that in their hand, whatever they tell you to do, you will do it so that you will hear that you are beautiful.
There was a time my friend and I decided that we were going to do a modesty fashion line it never happened. But I believe that God was using that as a tool to really transform me
Talking about modesty, you can't talk about beauty, without talking about modesty. Modesty to me is also part of being beautiful outwardly
Transcribed - Rechabites MEDIA
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