Knowing your OUTCOME will change the game!!! If you want to make a lasting change it starts with where youāre focusing your time & energy. When we are solely focused on the goals it often feels like weāre checking off boxes but rarely FEEL any different. Resultsā¦ know your outcome! Purposeā¦ know WHY this is important to you!! Massive Action Planā¦ giving yourself endless action items to get to your outcome. Remember, the action items arenāt the outcome themselves! When you KNOW the results you want and the purpose behind them you will try everything on that list in order to make it happen! #knowyouroutcome #knowyourpurpose #takemassiveaction
The last two were the hardest for meā¦ which one was it for youšš¼7. Do you feel like you missed out on your passion or calling bc so much if your energy has been spent hiding your strugglesā¼ļø8. You have so many dreams and possibilities but you donāt know where to startšÆYouāre not crazy!Youāre not too much! Youāre not a hot mess!Youāre not a drama Queen!And YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Tag someone who needs to see thisšš«¶š¼ā¤ļøāš„ #adhd #adhdinwomen #adhdproblems #adhdlife #adhdsupport #adhdhelp #adhdawareness #adhdeducation #adhdmentor #trauma #addiction
If you want to change the way you see yourself you MUST CHANGE the way you SPEAK TO YOURSELFšÆ You are amazing! Maybe one of the reasons why youāve struggled for so long is because you didnāt understand yourself. If you spent the same amount of time learning about your ADHD as you do hating on it your life could look completely differentš¤ÆRead that againā¦ let it sink in, you spend the same amount of time but you end up in completely different places. The question is, where do you want to end up? I needed some guidance and support to help me (bc my mind was my biggest limitation) - I know what youāre going through and Iād love to help. My Self Love Club is designed to help women maximize their potential (I know I know a triggering word - but letās flip that switch). Take my hand & let me show you how badass that brain of yours truly is šš¼š§ I know what itās like to fear my own mindā¦ to think Iām crazy, broken or damagedā¦ which is why Iām the perfect person to help you appreciate yours & show you that you are none of those thingsā¤ļøāš„ What you actually are is pretty f**king impressive, isnāt it worth taking a look? #adhdinwomen #adhdhelp #neurodivergent #adhdsupport #adhdwomen #adhdawareness #adhdsuperpowers #adhdsupport #trauma #addiction #lifecoach
No one could have convinced 19 year old me that she would someday share the parts & pieces of her that almost killed heršā¤ļøāš„ā¤ļøāš©¹ #adhd #healing #trauma #addiction #suicideprevention #suicideawarness #womenwithadhd #energy #grateful #aligned #vulnerable #authentic #mystory #neurotherapy
Did you know you can REDUCE THIS RISK by 87% just from administering treatment prior to age 10? Early treatment & intervention can actually lower our chance of developing an addiction to even lower than our neurotypical peersš¤ÆTreatment meaning: meds, therapy, strategies, neurotherapy or education intervention. I think a lot of parents think a diagnosis will end up labeling their child but Iām here to tell you that the more you UNDERSTAND about your/their brain and the way it works the better you can help them avoid truly damaging labels later in life. #wedorecover but what if we didnāt have toš„¹š¤š«¶š¼My daughter is 9 and we can already see the addiction marker in her brain. Left to her own devices she would slowly start to struggle just enough that only she will notice. It will cause internal damage, negative self image and low self worthā¦ this is the gateway to addiction friends. I still remember the tears welling in my Dads eyes when I told him we could do MORE than just educate our kids about addiction and how heavily it runs through our family. He just celebrated 40 years sober, Iām coming up on 8 years myself. Iām so incredibly proud of us but what if we could change the future for generations to come. What if we CAN reduce addiction, overdoses, suicides and so much moreš«¶š¼ā¤ļøāš„š„°This is just one of the MANY reasons Iām so passionate about launching The Brain Buddies Foundation and helping kids well before age 10! EVERYTHING IS CONNECTEDš«¶š¼ā¤ļøāš„ We will get QEEGs into schools across the US (to start) giving parents ACCURATE information to what is really going on in their kids š§ - Do they have these genetic markers? Even early education, awareness and adjustments to behavior can help reduce this statistic. This is truly a THE MORE YOU KNOW situationšÆš§ š«¶š¼š#soberAF #nonprofitorganization #thebrainbuddiesfoundation #qeeg #addiction #trauma #neurodiv
For anyone who has been called ātoo muchā of anything in their lifešš¼ My family got me the best gift this year, The MOST EXTRA AWARDš which is displayed proudly in our kitchenšš¼šš¼ Itās taken me a lot of negative self talk, personal growth and a tribe of women constantly reminding me to get to this point! Including this little manās Mama, one of many women in my life who are constantly reminding me that they are here for ALL OF IT & a bag of chips!!!! They encourage me to be MORE of who I am! They believe in my crazy dreams, they believe Iām going to change the world and they are helping me do it. They constantly tell me the world needs MORE OF MY MUCHNESSš„¹ and I just need women out there to know tables like this exist!Stop trying to make yourself smaller to sit at tables that think youāre too much! There are tables like mine where you can be AS MUCH AS YOU WANT & we will cheer you on instead of holding you backšš¼šš¼ Tables like this exist & I encourage you to find one, pull up a seat and embrace your true authentic self. Sheās such a badass, just you waitšš¼š«¶š¼ā¤ļøāš„We are the movers and the shakers! We are the f**king Trail Blazers & the World ChangersšÆ If someone is too intimidated by all that you are FIND YOUR OWN DAMN TABLE! You are too freaking amazing to sit across from someone who canāt see that! Remember you donāt lose anyone - they lose out on getting to know the real YOUā¼ļø#toomuch #adhd #trauma #addiction #mytriberocks
Every f**king timeššš If the action doesnāt hurt when Iām doing it- like head banging in my kitchen itās going to be a minute before my š§ puts it togetheršš¤·š»āāļøšš»āāļø Same rule applies to #mysterybruises Does this happen to anyone else? I had no idea people (like my husband) ALWAYS KNOW WHERE THEIR BRUISES COME FROM - I was actually flooredšš³š¤Æ#adhdproblems #adhdreels #adhdwomen #adhdlife #adhdhumor #adhdawareness #toomuch #highenergy #mysterypain #adhd
CAN YOU RELATE?!? I donāt fit in anyoneās box bc I was never meant for a life of containment. I was made to be loud, to be bold and to SHAKE SH*T UP! I spent years, decades even, hiding who I was and forever trying to make myself smallerā¦ whatever I could do in this world to take up LESS SPACE. I ended up a depressed, overweight, alcoholic who had lost herself completely.I never thought needing to lose šÆ pounds would be the thing to save my life but here we are. I owe it all to that woman who was scraping HER rock bottom ~9 yrs ago and decided to finally let someone help herššš It wasnāt until I started living my life out loud that I started falling in love with it. By the time I was finally diagnosed with ADHD at 39, I had already learned to LOVE all those crazy ADHD behaviors that we tend to hide & mask from othersā¦ which only hurts us BTWā¼ļø If you want others to love & accept you - it starts with taking those steps for YOURSELF! Itās a rocky road learning to love your neurodivergent self in a neurotypical world but Iāve got a great head start and Iām happy to share with anyone who needs itš«¶š¼ā¤ļøāš„š„° #ADHD #toomuch #extra #notenough #sheiswhosheis #adhdproblems #adhdsupport #adhd #trauma #addiction
By the time I was FINALLY diagnosed with ADHD at age 39, I had already received several MISDIAGNOSES! Itās important to know that trauma AND/OR addiction CHANGES the way ADHD presents itself, especially in women! When I went for my ADHD evaluation last year I was open & honest about how hard my life has beenā¦ mayyyybe a little too honest. I ended up with a diagnosis of Bipolar2 disorder and CPTSD! This should have been a red flag for my evaluators but it wasnātā¦. Which means more education & awareness is needed. I straight up asked if my addiction (7.5 yrs sober) had anything to do with it? She told me no- WRONG! I asked if the trauma, CPTSD diagnosis, had anything to do with it and again I was told no - WRONG! So here I am setting the record straight. Letās first address the trauma bc if you are middle aged and just figuring out you have ADHD - you have trauma! Itās hard navigating a world that wasnāt designed for us, it creates challenges & barriers, it creates a great deal of shame & self loathing as wellā¼ļø The C in CPTSD, stands for complex, meaning the trauma is still prevalent in our lives, again this is common among ADHDers because we struggle with time blindness. This means we are stuck reliving our trauma over & over no matter how hard we try. Our brain has trouble recognizing how much time has passed so more often that not it feels like it happened YESTERDAY! Knowing all of this is important. It could be the difference between a diagnosis and meds that can help you orrrr staying stuck in the hell youāve been living with no way out. Just remember addiction of ANY kind can intensify the symptoms of your ADHD making it look more like a psych disorder instead of a neurological disorder! Trauma of ANY kind can intensify ADHD struggles sending more red flags as a psych/mood disorder vs a NEUROLOGICAL disorder! There is a strong link between trauma and developing an #addiction. A NIH study found that more than 70% of adolescents in treatment f
I fought through everything I have so SHE DOESNāT HAVE TOšš§ š„¹When we know better, we do better! Elsie is really smart and it would have been years before we saw her struggles reflected in her grades. It only took a few months after my diagnosis to recognize what I was seeing in Elsie. We had her evaluated last spring for ADHD, sheās also dyslexic like her mama, grandma, and great grandfather. Dyslexia is pretty common among ADHDers, 1 in 4 with ADHD also have dyslexia, thereās way more to it than just flipping letters, writing & reading. #themoreyouknow A month after her eval we did a QEEG on Els & it confirmed everything from her eval spot on! It also showed that Elsie had extensive brain damage from our car accident in 2015. She was 27 months old and seemed completely fine at the time but she did just witness her mom being pulled from the dashboard bloody & unconsciousš I expected trauma to show up from the accident but actual brain damage specifically in her areas of weakness. She could have spent her whole life not knowingš¤Æ I canāt stop thinking about what these scans could do for children & their futures. Imagine having an accurate road map of each childās brain & a guide on how best to help them. Birth trauma, brain damage, neurodiversity, trauma & addictionšÆ Elsie has had 38 neurotherapy sessions so far & she will even tell you itās changing her lifeš«¶š¼š„¹š Neurotherapy is similar to physical therapy but for your brain! It is literally teaching our brains to function differently! I know how much itās helped me & how itās changing my life and nothing makes me happier than knowing she has the rest of her life to enjoy this!!!! No suffering for 40 years until she finally figures it out. Just like everything we do, it starts with us but it doesnāt end here! I will do everything in my power & with the help of the Brain Buddies Foundation #nonprofit we will get QEEGās into elementary schools across the US. Give kids acc
Iāve been off my ADHD meds for 7 weeks and Iāve gained 15 poundsš³š¤Æš³ I noticed my clothes werenāt fitting the sameš¤ We started a new workout program last week and I forgot #adhd to weigh myself so I did it this am. Waitā¦ that canāt be right?? Iāve gained 15 pounds in the last 2 months! How did that happen? My eating habits havenāt really changed and we even started working out again. And then it HIT ME- I havenāt been taking my Adderall š¤ÆItās a goal of mine to help women get meds if they need them but also NAVIGATE LIFE WITHOUT THEM & feel just as good. So what would you do if you went off your meds and noticed youāre gaining roughly 7.5 lbs a MONTH? Do youā¦.A. Go back on the meds to regulate the weight Or B. Focus on your health and fixing your metabolism naturally? My favorite part about partnering with BODi is that this community has taught me how to LOVE MYSELF THROUGH ITā¤ļøāš„ I wouldnāt trade that for any amount of abs or muscles bc Iāve had both and Iāll take the self love ANY DAYšÆ I choose B and I know just how to do itš«¶š¼ Iām starting over with replacing some bad habits with better ones, I would love to help you do the same if you need itš #adhd #adhdmeds #adhdproblems #selfloveclub #selflove #notpregnant #5yearspostpartum #csectionmama #trauma #addiction #refresh
I tell my clients ALL THE TIME- If itās heavy for you - ITāS HEAVY #endofstory Your trauma, your pain and your perception is YOURSā¼ļø No one can shift or change it but youš«¶š¼ No one can tell you how to feel or how to healā¤ļøāš„Iām sorry the world has left you feeling unseen, unheard and invalidated. I know how that feels but youāve got to keep going! A year ago I was taking my ADHD eval and BECAUSE OF MY TRAUMA I received a bipolar 2 diagnosis! TRAUMA CHANGES EVERYTHING!! It changes the way we are treated, it changes the way we experience life and it changes our neurological disorder to look like a mood disorder! Itās a big freaking dealā¼ļø Stop telling us we donāt have it and just guide us in the direction to deal with it. If you are not the person to help us, please step aside because the HELPERS are out there. If youāre part of the problem please remain seated so those who want help can find the ones that have made it through to the other side & are happy to share their secretsš«¶š¼ā¤ļøāš„šš¼I have finally been able to heal from all the trauma Iāve endured but that only happened by facing it head onā¦ ignoring it or telling us to ignore it only makes it worsešÆTrauma is trauma and it is specific to the person itās traumatizing. Itās NEVER your place to tell someone else what theyāre experiencing or how to feel. Please keep your opinions & judgments to yourself for the remainder of the ride, thank you š Weāre all just trying to make it to the stationš«¶š¼ā¤ļøāš„š§ š#gaslighting #narcissist #trauma #addiction #adhd #traumahealing #adhdawareness #traumaandthebrain #traumaandaddictionrecovery #QEEG #neurotherapy #depressionsurvivor #traumasurvivor #nonprofitorganization #thebrainbuddiesfoundation
By the time I was FINALLY diagnosed with ADHD at age 39, I had already received several MISDIAGNOSES! Itās important to know that trauma AND/OR addiction CHANGES the way ADHD presents itself, especially in women! When I went for my ADHD evaluation last year I was open & honest about how hard my life has beenā¦ mayyyybe a little too honest. I ended up with a diagnosis of Bipolar2 disorder and CPTSD! This should have been a red flag for my evaluators but it wasnātā¦. Which means more education & awareness is needed. I straight up asked if my addiction (7.5 yrs sober) had anything to do with it? She told me no- WRONG! I asked if the trauma, CPTSD diagnosis, had anything to do with it and again I was told no - WRONG! So here I am setting the record straight. Letās first address the trauma bc if you are middle aged and just figuring out you have ADHD - you have trauma! Itās hard navigating a world that wasnāt designed for us, it creates challenges & barriers, it creates a great deal of shame & self loathing as wellā¼ļø The C in CPTSD, stands for complex, meaning the trauma is still prevalent in our lives, again this is common among ADHDers because we struggle with time blindness. This means we are stuck reliving our trauma over & over no matter how hard we try. Our brain has trouble recognizing how much time has passed so more often that not it feels like it happened YESTERDAY! Knowing all of this is important. It could be the difference between a diagnosis and meds that can help you orrrr staying stuck in the hell youāve been living with no way out. Just remember addiction of ANY kind can intensify the symptoms of your ADHD making it look more like a psych disorder instead of a neurological disorder! Trauma of ANY kind can intensify ADHD struggles sending more red flags as a psych/mood disorder vs a NEUROLOGICAL disorder! There is a strong link between trauma and developing an #addiction. A NIH study found that more than 70% of adolescents in treatment f
Things I wish I would have known prior to my complete ADHD Eval. Actually if Iām being honest this is something I wish MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS would pay more attention to & do more researchā¼ļø I received a BP2 diagnosis AND a CPTSD diagnosis. They straight up told me my addiction (7.5 years sober now) didnāt have anything to do with my diagnosis #FALSE They told me my trauma, which theyāre well aware of since they gave me the diagnosis, had nothing to do with it either #FALSE #AGAIN So here I am sharing what I wish I had known a year ago! TRAUMA AND/OR ADDICTION CAN CHANGE THE PRESENTATION OF ADHD & it often leads to a misdiagnosis - particularly in womenā¼ļø When you pair ADHD with EITHER trauma & addiction the symptoms can often be intensified to look more like severe depression (I had suicidal thoughts & thoughts of self harm for decades) and intense anxiety! Thatās right ANXIETY & DEPRESSION are often symptoms of ADHD which is why for so many of us traditional psych meds donāt help usā¼ļø Knowledge is Powerš«¶š¼š§ ā¤ļøāš„ #adhdwomen #adhd #bipolardisoder #trauma #addiction #wedorecover #severedepression #severeanxiety #adhdawareness #mentalhealthawareness #lifecoach #adhdproblems #adhdevaluation
