Ask Yourself

25/09/2021

While there won’t be new episodes, we’ll keep “Ask Yourself’s” accounts up and our episodes up on Spotify (http://bit.ly/askyourselfph) and YouTube (http://bit.ly/askyourselfph-youtube). Feel free to check them out in case you need a breather or want some prompts to reflect on. Let’s all continue learning something new about ourselves. 💜

15/09/2021

Failure sucks, but it sucks more if you’re in denial about it! When it comes to failure, what matters more is what you do next rather than the mistake itself. It can take a lot of humility to admit when you’re wrong, but once you do, you’ll likely find that there are people willing to help and sometimes even forgive you for your mistake. 🧡

Why do we need to talk about failure? Find out in our latest podcast episode:
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13/09/2021

Where we direct our energy affects the choices we make. What would you do if things worked out in your favor? 💫

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08/09/2021

Do you celebrate failure? A benefit of failure is that it gives you a chance to learn, and it also means that you tried something outside your comfort zone! That’s definitely worth celebrating 🌟

Finding it tough to cope with failure? We feel you, and that’s why we wanna talk about it. We open up about failure in our latest podcast episode:
➡️ YouTube: https://youtu.be/x0NWIlWL3i8
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06/09/2021

Who can relate? 🙋‍♀️

Sometimes, we tend to put ourselves at such high standards that we end up being harsh rather than motivating. 🙇‍♀️ While it’s hard to turn off that critical voice, you can try thinking of how you would talk to a friend if they made the same mistake as you. Would you be hard on them? Remember that you deserve compassion too!

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02/09/2021

Unlearning perfectionism is a huge part of how we’re better coping with failure. For one, trying to be perfect is just setting yourself up for failure because it literally cannot be done. While you can do your best, at some point, you just have to let go and not be hard on yourself for being human! 🙌

Full episode on dealing with failure here:
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31/08/2021

Join us as we reflect on our own stories of failure, from the funny embarrassing moments to the more serious experiences of coming up short against our desired standards. Together, let's work on recognizing how we can grow in failure rather than act in fear toward it. 💜

Episode 17, Failure sucks but we need to talk about it - out now on YouTube!

https://youtu.be/x0NWIlWL3i8

Failure tends to be attached to shame—even if no one is meant to be perfect. But as we’ve learned from Brene Brown, with shame, “The less you talk about it, ...

31/08/2021

Failure tends to be attached to shame—even if no one is meant to be perfect. But as we’ve learned from Brene Brown, with shame, “The less you talk about it, the more you got it.” Join us later at 8 p.m. for an episode that recognizes how we can grow in failure rather than act in fear toward it. 💜

26/08/2021

Feeling misunderstood can feel painful. But we do not have control over other people's interpretations and reactions.

Know that your self-worth does not rely on other people’s opinions. You can decide what matters to you. Surround yourself with people you can trust to uplift you and support you through your journey of self-discovery and self-appreciation. 🌸

Ask yourself: What do I appreciate about myself? What makes me feel good about myself? 📝

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16/08/2021

More questions than we’re used to, but necessary food for thought on the life each of us want to lead.

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We talk about trying to be true to ourselves in our podcast on YouTube and Spotify—subscribe and follow! Feel free to message us for anything you’d like to share with us about our discussions. 💜

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13/08/2021

You’ve probably heard about it: An ad from a plastic surgery company brutally pointed out the physical “flaws” women have gained during lockdown, from acne down to belly rolls. The backlash was swift, but the damage has been done. The ad ascribed these “flaws” to the , but it gave women another thing to worry about: our body image as we try to survive a deadly virus.

The ad ends with a friend on a video call saying “Anong nangyari?” after seeing the woman’s appearance. If there is a , it’s that we need less judgment and more empathy. Less “Anyare?” and “Tumaba ka.” More “Kamusta?” and “I’m here for you.”

Yes, advertising generally preys on insecurities to sell. At the same time, those who produce ads have a unique opportunity to recognize the hurt we feel and find ways to encourage us to uplift each other. This issue also reminds us that businesses have the choice to use their platforms with purpose. This means remembering that behind the video views and sales are actual human beings.

We live in a time where we’re exposed to great physical and emotional insecurities. Ask yourself: How are you working on those insecurities? What are you doing to be kind to yourself? In navigating personal and societal challenges, what can you do to be more attuned to what others feel?

09/08/2021

Quick reminder that we all have different adventures — all exciting, valuable, and filled with learnings. 🌱

How would you describe your journey so far? What lessons are you learning? Share them with others and you'll find you're hardly alone in what you're feeling.

If you need an idea about charting your own path, we talk about the realities of hitting certain life goals in our podcast. (Hint: Trying to meet society’s expectations ain’t it!)

➡️YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GGLnxTeiPBs&t=2s
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02/08/2021

Ask yourself: What support do I need this week? Who might I ask for that support? 📝

We don’t have to go through life alone. Sometimes, all it takes is to take the first step and ask for help. 🧡

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01/08/2021

Saying no is one of the hardest things to do.

In the Tokyo 2020 Olympics, Simon Biles, known as the greatest gymnast of all time, pulled herself out of the competition.

She knew herself: Her mind was not in the game and it was affecting her performance. She put her safety and wellbeing first and in the process, she showed the world that setting boundaries is one of the greatest signs of strength.

When you find yourself overwhelmed by the weight of your responsibilities, ask yourself:

☑️What boundaries must I set to lighten the burden in different aspects of my life (work, relationships, etc.)?
☑️What positive difference will it bring me if I am able to set these boundaries?
☑️What is the most realistic next step I can take to begin expressing my need for this boundary?

26/07/2021

Ask yourself: What can I do to reward myself this week?📝

Gratitude and little rewards can serve as positive reinforcement for us to keep going. Remember to also appreciate yourself for the efforts that you put in.

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22/07/2021

Hi there! We just wanted to say how grateful we are to everyone who’s engaged in our posts, listened to our podcasts, and messaged us to give feedback. We know your time is precious, so thank you for giving us even a fraction of it! 💜

Here’s a refresher on why we started this little passion project! Don’t forget to subscribe to us on YouTube and follow us on Spotify ✨

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19/07/2021

Ask yourself: When was the last time I showed up for someone who needed my presence? 📝

We may not always fully know what the people around us are going through. But we can try to be a supportive presence to remind them that they are not alone.

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14/07/2021

In negotiating your job offer, you need to take stock of your skills, knowledge, and past experiences. But it doesn’t stop at making a list! ✍️

Here are two things you should highlight:

1. Elements of these past experiences that fit the job the you were offered
When talking about your potential contributions to the organization, focus on these elements. You want to show that you are bringing in skills and experiences that respond to a need the company is looking to fill.

2. Hobbies, interests, and passions that are uniquely you
These may not be listed on your resume, but if they matter to you, then they may contribute to your uniqueness. Think about what you have learned from your hobbies, interests, and passions. How can these learnings contribute to the job that you are being offered?

More about career and life goals in our podcast eps out on YouTube and Spotify! Follow Ask Yourself:
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11/07/2021

Quick reminder to start this week open to imperfections and the possibilities they bring. 💜

Via Brené Brown

08/07/2021

Snaps for everyone who’s gotten through a job offer negotiation! It takes courage and knowing your worth to be able to do it 💪

If you’re building yourself up for one, we got you. Salary negotiation tips are in our latest ep on YouTube and Spotify:
➡️YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aBQKatOY7w4&t=1s
➡️Spotify: http://bit.ly/askyourselfph

06/07/2021

Negotiations are about respect and trust—and some behaviors can ruin the connection you have with a future employer. 😳 What's the line between confident and cocky? What can you say about other job offers you’ve gotten? Should you give a specific amount when asking for a salary?

Our latest ep answers these q’s—just head to YouTube and Spotify:
➡️YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aBQKatOY7w4&t=1s
➡️Spotify: http://bit.ly/askyourselfph

04/07/2021

Ask yourself: What would I start if I were not afraid? 📝

A first draft is a draft—it will not be perfect. Remember that you can always start over. Don’t let the fear of not getting it right the first time hold you back! 🧡

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01/07/2021

A job offer negotiation is a give-and-take, and sometimes you won’t get everything you asked for. Rather than make demands, do ask questions—respect and communication are key. 🤝

Learn more about how to handle a job offer negotiation in our latest episode:
➡️YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aBQKatOY7w4&t=1s
➡️Spotify: http://bit.ly/askyourselfph

29/06/2021

When you get a job offer, make sure to review all elements before accepting or rejecting it. 🔍

This is by no means exactly what you’ll find in every job offer, but are some of the elements you can consider in a negotiation besides the salary. Knowing what is important to you in a job or your career can help you figure out which of the elements you would like to negotiate!

More tips in our latest episode:
➡️YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aBQKatOY7w4&t=1s
➡️Spotify: http://bit.ly/askyourselfph

27/06/2021

Ask yourself: When was the last time I celebrated progress? How might I reward myself for the progress that I’ve been making? 📝

We tend to celebrate only when we've accomplished our goals, but the work that we put in is also worth celebrating! Recognizing those small wins trains your brain to know that there is a connection between what you have achieved and what you did to get there. In short, rewarding yourself for any little progress will help you and your brain to stay motivated 🏆

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24/06/2021

Got that job offer, but don’t think it quite meets your needs or goals? 🧐 Ask yourself these questions to get through the daunting—but doable—process of a job offer negotiation.

Learn more in our full episode here:

➡️YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aBQKatOY7w4&t=1s
➡️Spotify: http://bit.ly/askyourselfph

22/06/2021

For those switching jobs or seeking new careers, this one might be interesting for you! Episode 16, "When should you accept a job offer?" - out now on YouTube 👍🏼

https://youtu.be/aBQKatOY7w4

You get the job offer... and then what??? 🤔Usually, we focus our time and energy on trying to get the job. But once we get the offer, what elements should w...

20/06/2021

Ask yourself: What choices did I make this past week that I should thank myself for? 📝

Our brains are wired to dwell on negative events, which is called the negativity bias. It takes work to overcome this bias but it is possible! You can start with more positive self-talk. There are definitely good choices you made this past week—you’re still here after all. 🌱

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17/06/2021

Feeling anxious about a salary negotiation? 💵 Ask Yourself co-host Niña Guno has been there. She's learned though that sometimes, to reach your goals, you just have to take the plunge.

Learn more about salary negotiation tips in our upcoming episode, “When should you accept a job offer?” out on June 22 on YouTube and Spotify.

Check out our past episodes on career, money, and more here!

➡️YouTube: http://bit.ly/askyourselfph-youtube
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15/06/2021

You get the job offer... and then what??? 🤔

Usually, we focus our time and energy on trying to get the job. But once we get the offer, what elements should we take into consideration? How do we negotiate assertively while still staying true to our authentic style?

"When should you accept a job offer?" will be out on YouTube and Spotify this Tuesday, June 22 at 8 p.m.

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13/06/2021

📝Ask yourself: How can I give myself a break this coming week?

Just like our phones, you also need to recharge 🔋 Running on empty simply isn’t sustainable. Make yourself a priority on your to-do list too!

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11/06/2021

"Be out there with us."

We asked our LGBTQIA+ friends how allies can better show up for them. We learned that even small actions can make the world safer and more inclusive for q***r people. Read on for what they have to say 🏳️‍🌈

09/06/2021

You made it to the middle of the week! Tag a friend who needs to hear that they deserve a break 💜

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06/06/2021

For organizational psychologist Adam Grant, expressing gratitude doesn’t always have to be in the moment. Sometimes it can take time before you fully appreciate what someone’s done for you. Saying “thank you” is never too late—when someone’s had a lasting impact on you, let them know!

Ask yourself: Who can I say thanks to this week? How might I express my gratitude? 📝

03/06/2021

You’re almost at the end of the work week! Whether you’re q***r, questioning, or an ally, show yourself some love with these affirmations from ***rspaceph 🌈

02/06/2021

Happy Pride Month! 🏳️‍🌈 This June, we’re taking the time to learn more about being better allies when it comes to gender issues, which also cover LGBTQIA+ issues. Pride, after all, is a protest, and we need all hands on deck.

Allyship is NOT about being a savior or a spokesperson—this isn’t about you. It is a journey and it is a commitment. Check out this post if you want to get started!

Source: “How Men Can Become Better Allies to Women,” Harvard Business Review

30/05/2021

If there’s anything we’ve learned from a year of Zoom calls and isolation, it’s that our interactions need to be intentional if we want richer relationships. Priya Parker, who teaches communities how to gather better, has us thinking about why we want to connect with people and how we can meet in ways that are more meaningful (whether online or in person).

For this week’s journal prompt, ask yourself: What kinds of connections do I want to make this week? Who should I reach out to? 📝

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27/05/2021

We totally get wanting to keep an interview quick and snappy. But even if a CV is important, interviews are a chance to tell your story and for recruiters to see how you’re different from other applicants. In short, it’s your time to shine! 🤩

But how do you avoid oversharing—or undersharing? Check out “Should you be yourself at a job interview?” out on YouTube and Spotify.

➡️YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SQrsTTmQAAI&t=680s
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25/05/2021

Yes, you should ask questions during a job interview! More than just trying to impress an employer, ask questions to know if the company is a good fit for YOU. If you’re stumped for what to ask, try any of these questions we’ve listed. 🙌

Get more personal tips from career coach Elizha Corpus Consulting in “Should you be yourself at a job interview?” out on YouTube and Spotify.

➡️YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SQrsTTmQAAI&t=680s
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23/05/2021

It’s totally valid to want others’ approval — we are social beings after all. Brene Brown, of course, puts it best, that being liked and loved are different things.

As we navigate being our most wholehearted selves, ask yourself: What are three things I value about myself? Are the things I'm doing or the people I'm with reflective of these? 📝