LifeCoach

15/11/2022

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14/11/2022

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05/11/2022

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03/12/2021

Have you ever seen a person display unwholesome behaviour and you are like what is wrong you??
It could be hyperagressive or passive aggressiveness,callous etc

Maybe just maybe they trusted someone who gave them hurt instead of healing.
A part of them died on the inside and is decaying in their heart space.......u get the picture?

Your heart is your life navigation system.
Guard it dilligently.

When the enemy wants to distract you from fulfilling purpose -his modus operandi is to come after your heart by messing with your foundations.

Hence through the generations we see the corrosive effect of identity distortions, shame,abuse,rejection in family systems and the soceity at large.

It is an age old script.

He asked a whole Jesus are you really the Son of God?
Prove yourself na jump off the cliff.
Of course Bros J paid him no mind.
God is too secure.

I am forever thankful Jesus came to repair the faulty foundations and connect us back to the Godhead.

If you are struggling with relational trauma i.e Somebody did you dirty and it is paining you in your chest.

Please meditate on Jeremiah 30 v17.

"For I will restore health to you.And I will heal your wounds,says the Lord'

If you are ready to shed off

1)Relationships that have lost their meaning
2)Files that can not take you to the next level
3)Familiar but limiting patterns.

Growth requires change

Hit me up.

28/11/2021

Maybe you are not stuck maybe you are committed to a pattern that does not add value to you.

If you grew up with a lot of unmet needs.In real time you meet someone and think i didn't get my needs met then so this person will be different
Your subconscious mind sees this person and the person looks so familiar.These are the unresolved wounds in your life signaling and mirroring themselves to you .
Just like when you meet a Games of thrones fan and go you are my Gee...lol ok let us concentrate.

We gravitate towards what we know.
What you don't repair you repeat.

Repetitive compulsion.

Let us meet Sumbo she hooks up with the wrong folk.When you have not processed your hurts you will keep meeting those who mirror those hurts.
Because you think this time I will get what I didn't get from the previous relationship or unmet needs in my formative years.
Let us say for instance you grew in a home laced with confusion,shame,emotional volatility you think now because I am an adult i can do better but newsflash you can't control the other person.

You think oh there is no chemistry with this person he seems boring.Truth bomb because you are used to chaos and emotional volatility Peace looks boring to you (lemme let that sink in)

You think you can make that unreliable person change.I am gonna help them change.
Stop putting that kind of pressure on yourself.

Meet a healthy person or one who is willing to work on doing some deep excavation work on his or her unresolved wounds.
At their core they are not emotionally present.You will end up thinking you are unlovable.
This is completely outside of your awareness.
Because you felt powerless and helpless as a child you think I am going to help them change now.
So you stuck being the fixer or ride or die ..
Get off the train.
please ride or die for Jesus
Happy Sunday

22/11/2021

How will you rate the quality of your ex*****on at work today?

Here are 3 tips to help elevate the impact and quality of your work:

1.Focus on YOUR focus:Write all your distractions on a notepad.If you struggle with being easily distracted.Focus is a tool of high achievers..Pinpoint your distractions and be intentional about minimizing them.
2.Create a schedule for the next day and work from it.Have your day planned out a day before or a week before.This will help you not be easily side tracked.Focus and forcefulness aid the quality of your work.
3. Look at the last 7 days and 30 days respectively.
What did you work on?
How many core goals were able you to achieve?
Core goals does not have to be 79 things.
Quality over Quantity fam.

I hope you found this helpful?
Which tip will you be engaging this week?

19/11/2021

Are you breastfeeding toxicity in your relationships in other to keep it and pretending to be happy?
Are your relationships an incubator for trauma and pain or a fertilizer for healing
Hear me well....when God gives you a blessing you won't have to exchange your mental health as payment to keep it.
What kind of friends or relationships do you have in your corner?
What happens if one of you gets healed in the area where both of you where both broken or wounded?
Someone once said we date or partner with our unfinished business.
Do you like them because of their dysfunctions so you both swim in a pool of drama all day everyday?
What happens when one of you does the healing work and can fly?will they accommodate you in your flying season and not just your limping season?
Is your partner someone you can build With?
I hope this causes you to have some introspection
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16/11/2021

I have never been a fan of the divide and rule tactic used by most leaders in the work place.
A common template we see is the use of demeaning statements,manipulation,bullying triangulation and projection.There is the also use of intimidation and fear simultaneously to exert control and dominance.
Say hello to the perfect recipe for a toxic workplace culture.
When the people have to manage danger or threats from within the organization ,
the organization itself becomes less able to face the dangers from the outside.
When you are too busy putting out little fires everywhere instead of using that same time,energy and focus to cultivate trust and cooperation internally.The organization will no doubt suffer.
When an organization has people protecting themselves from each other (say hello to chaos and dog eat dog culture).

The organization will grow weaker as a result.
True human leadership protects an organisation from the internal rivalries that can shatter a culture.
A wise friend of mine once said a house divided against itself cannot stand.

Think on these things.

15/11/2021

Work does have to be a place to be dreaded.It can be place to feel valued.If the leaders provide cover from above and the people on the ground look out for each other.
This pattern can translate into the company achieving great success and outinnovating their competitors.
If the leaders can prioritize the wellbeing of the people and have a listening ear.
The people will feel like they belong.They will work with their heads and their hearts because they want the organization to thrive as well.
Work place hurts do happen.
It can impact your general demeanor,morale and ability to perform.
Most of us have encountered emotional wounds at work in varying degrees.
Coping skills and a strong support system is crucial in helping to alleviate the sting of the wound.

We need more organizations that prioritize the care of human beings.
Empathy seems to have gone extinct these days.

As an employee or a member of a group take a slice of courage pie and take care of each other even when your leaders/bosses do not.

Become the leader you wish you had.

Be a cycle breaker dear One.

18/10/2021

Do you do things in order to blend in despite not wanting to?
Do you tend to hide parts of your identity?
Do you want to stop living in fear,doubt and lack?
Are you ready to heal deep rooted wounds from your past?.

Fear of being visible?
Do you struggle to execute on your plans and projects?
It is time for a 360 degree transformation.
Break out of your dysfunctional patterns and make better decisions.

07/10/2021

Did you know that the major cause of disappointment and hurt is improper people placements?

We have ..
Friends
Associates(peers,colleagues),Advisors,
Mentors,
Additions (people that add value to you)
Accessories (people that are just for decoration)

Managing your relational circle entails you define and align your relationships accordingly.

Define your relationships so you can align your investments and expectations accordingly.

Some of us confuse associates with parasites.

Frustrations come from failed expectations.
Define your relationships so you know what to expect from it.

I love fruit inspection i.e look at the fruit of a person's character then you use that to identify the tree.You know an apple tree from the fruit it produces.

If you are allergic to apples you stay away from apples.

Define people based on the fruit they produce not who you want them to be.To avoid stories that touch.

Stop mismanaging your gifts and time.Do not give it to people or places that do not value you.

Get the right people on the bus and the right people on the right seats for this journey called life.

Does this resonate with you?

07/10/2021

Core material is the way our internal experience is organized.Composed of our earliest feelings,beliefs and memories.The core material is formed in response to the stresses of our childhood environment.

When you see a person continually fails to learn from their mistakes or have recycled traumas.

The person is still wearing the same sunglasses based on his prior experiences so nothing can change until he/she changes her core material by creating conscious choices.

If you grew up continually swallowing up your feelings of hurt and anger,you become an adult with an angry and hurt child inside you.
This repressed feelings will spontaneously contaminate your adult behaviour in real time.

If you looking to know what parts of need to be worked on .send me a DM requesting for the deep dive form.

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02/10/2021

When we make a decision,we should stop and ask ourselves:
Am I making this choice out of authentic freedom or I am stuck in a unhealthy pattern?

Am I doing this to make myself look better to people?
Am I doing this to prove a point?
Am I doing this to inflate my ego?

This is how we take ownership of our lives.
This is how we retain agency of our minds.

These questions will help you filter whether your decisions are coming from a place of insecurity or wholeness.
You can have good intentions but make wrong decisions.
You can be a compassionate person but self neglect.
You can do a good thing but in an unwise manner.
When you decide to revolutionize your decisions....you revolutionize your life.

01/10/2021

Heal yourself and heal your world.

I have noticed that they are five major wounds that are inflicted on the human race and they are rejection,abandonment,humiliation,betrayal and injustice.

These wounds are accompanied by masks to hide these wounds.

The strength of the mask depends on the depth of the wounds.The mask represents a person's belief systems ,coping mechanisms and repressed emotions.

For example someone with the abandonment wound that has not been resolved will wear a mask of codependcy.
Their greatest fear is being alone.They will jump from one relationship to another.Even when they find themselves alone they must find something to keep them busy because if they were sit still with their inner narratives will scream loudly at them.

Some common masks include :the bully,the show- off,the entitled one and the workacholic.

Creating a mask is a coping mechanism to protect yourself from uncomfortable feelings.
The first step to wholeness is to recognize and accept there is a need to x-ray your inner conditions.

Note that your ego will do everything to prevent you from looking into the 'Pandora box' where the wounds and unmet needs reside.

Each time we encounter a situation that awakens and touches an open wound we add another layer.The longer you wait to do the heart work the deeper the wounds become.

Thus it becomes a never ending cycle.

The truth will set you free but it may p**s you off in the beginning.

A true vision cannot stick on a messy heart.

I dare you to rip the bandage open .

Keep becoming,

Penny

30/09/2021

If you are keen on living a life of true legacy,you manifest from the overflow of who you are
Put systems and structures in place where you are continually self improving.

Stagnant waters are toxic.

If you are the same person you were at the beginning of 2021..
You need to have a board meeting with yourself.
Focus is a currency of a well grounded visionary and leader .
Be brutal about preserving your focus.
Stop leaning into parameters that shift your focus.
Your daily decision helps you build your legacy
Do you relate with this?

28/09/2021

Do you tend to go with the flow to avoid conflict or confrontation?
Do you sometimes "tune out" or feel scattered when relating with someone or a group of people?
You literally feel your ENERGY leave your body and you dissociate.
We usually talk about the flight or fight response but not much light as been thrown on the fawn response to relational trauma.

If you find yourself constantly over-explaining or over-sharing to people who are committed to misunderstanding you.
Please receive deliverance in Jesus name amen.
It is ok to allow adults sit with their 'perceived' disappointment of you.They will be ok, just give them a glass of ice tea.
The need to overexplain is due to the fear of rejection,gaslighting and stonewalling.
You find yourself performing or auditioning for acceptance and approval.
The core wound activated here is the abandonment or rejection wound.

Elvis has left the building.We are not doing that anymore.

You will never unlock your full potential at this rate.

To overcome the fawning response :

1)Notice your unique patterns
2)Are they people who arouse the fawning response in you?Consider limiting exposure to them whilst you address it.
3)If a boundary has been crossed you will feel it in your body.Verbalize the boundary.

Can you relate to this?



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26/09/2021

Your subconcious mind is the garden which all that you sow and allow to be sowed shall be born.

Who inspires you?
Who supports the energy of abundance or lack thereof?

All experiences are energetic exchanges.
As you evolve become more responsible for your most valuable asset -ENERGY

If you struggle with people pleasing and creating healthy boundaries .

You know what to do..inserts winking emoji