23/03/2024
How do you help such a guy?
I’m sitting in my car, outside my own house unable to get in. My wife doesn’t want me there anymore. She just told me this isn’t my home anymore.
I had to work early this morning and when she woke up she called me. I didn’t see feel it vibrate. She called 4 times and texted 5 times in the next 15 mins. I finally felt it and when I answered she just screamed at me for the next 15-20 mins. No amount of apologies or explanations were enough. She wanted me to leave my work and come home immediately. I was in charge of a huge event for my work this morning and I couldn’t leave. She wanted me to choose her and I get that but if I would have left I would have been fired. I’m 95% of my household income. I can’t get fired. I’m already behind on every bill I have.
By the time I finished my event and went home about 2 hours later, she emptied my bank our bank accounts into one she has just in her name…Every door is locked and I’m not welcome in my own home. I could break in but that would just incite violence. She has a violent streak.
It’s so easy to just say, “Well leave”. I can’t just leave. My daughter is there and she is my whole world. If not for her I would have taken my own life long ago. I don’t can’t threaten her financially because she has my daughter. I can’t take the house, the cars or anything from her in response because she has my daughter. And I will never do anything to hurt her.
It would be so easy if I had family or friends around to go stay with. The problem is, I’ve burned every relationship with my family and friends becuase of her.
I have been told so many times over the last 12 years, “it’s me or them” when something happens that she doesn’t agree with. I’ve choosen my wife and daughter everytime. To the point I have no one left.
So now I’m just sitting outside my house in my van, with no where to go, no one to call, no money, on no sleep. Can someone make it make sense?
