Our Collective Vagina

02/04/2024

It’s Sexual Assault Awareness Month. May all abusers d*e a painful shameful death.

31/03/2024

Girls are rarely raised to be themselves. They are always moulded to fit someone else's interest.
"If you behave like that no one will marry you"

"Be like this and that to protect the family honour"

"Don't dress like that, you'll distract the boys"

"That's a male career it will make you unattractive"

"Learn this and that our religion does not allow girls to do that''

Etc ...etc...

Nobody even asks or tries to find out who they are as a person .

May we raise a generation of girls that's themselves.

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31/03/2024

PSA:
If you're in someone's home auditioning to be a wife- Go back home!

27/03/2024

The downfall of Diddy is such a wonderful sight to behold.

25/03/2024

I MESSED UP AND I RUINED MY MARRIAGE

I'm not looking for pity or understanding here. I know I'm not getting it. Me and my ex-wife have a 14 month old son. After he was born our marriage fell apart. She said I wasn't pulling my weight with childcare and chores but at the same time she expected me to know what to do without her telling me. It was bad. We argued a lot and I ended up telling her that her life would be harder without me. She got really quiet and I thought that was the end of the argument. It made things fall apart and we are getting divorced. We're living separately, each got a new apartment. As for our son the law in our state [Kentucky] is that 50/50 is the default for custody. It is automatic unless one parent proves neglect on the part of the other. We don't have that so on the advice of both our lawyers we are splitting time and doing alternating weeks since we separated. We usually switch on Mondays with the daycare pickup and drop off.

I knew being a single parent wasn't easy but I didn't really know until now. This is where I realize how badly I fu**ed up because I'm drowning. The weeks I have my son I don't get anything done and I can barely even function at work because I'm so exhausted. I spend the whole week I don't have him catching up and I can't even get everything done. My apartment is a mess and I can hardly keep up with errands and chores. It sucks. I realize I fu**ed up because I thought since I was having a hard time my wife would be too and we could call off the divorce and work on things. But she doesn't want to. She says her life is easier without me and she is the opposite of me and can apparently keep up everything fine. She says she isn't exhausted anymore and realized it's easier having one person to take care of instead of 2.

I know I messed up and should have been a better husband. I can't even ask for less time with my son because I can't afford the child support. Right now neither of us has any because of 50/50 and equal income but if we go off 50/50 my lawyer says the person with less time will get child support. I hate myself for fu***ng up so much. Wtf did I do?

Source: Reddit (TrueOffMyChest)

22/03/2024

Pan African men are some of the most egregiously violent misogynists you’ll ever come across. Because how do you understand systemic racism, then turn around and use the same rhetoric on African women? The math isn’t mathing. They just have to admit that they want the black african version of White Supremacist Imperialist Patriarchy. They don’t have a problem with systemic oppression, they have a problem with the fact that they aren’t on top of the ladder of that oppression.

Their main gripe is that white men are standing, sleeping, sitting on their necks in different angles and they’re powerless to stop it because they are being sold out by their fellow african men while also employing the masters tools to marginalize 50% of the only population who could have freely partnered with them to fight white supremacy.

The same men who swear Africa needs emancipation from neo colonial powers, are the same men seeking to keep african women subdued, oppressed, and compliant. Just like their current masters do to them.
At this point, identifying as Pan African as an african woman, is self sabotage. It’s no wonder so many of the young female pan african activists are fading themselves out of the collective fight to only fight for african women. And rightfully so. Only a fool will help the jailer tighten the reins on their chains, and there are no fools here.

22/03/2024

Gambia’s National Assembly has voted to advance a bill that would overturn a 2015 ban on female ge***al mutilation. 42 of 47 parliamentarians voted to move the bill forward. About 75 percent of girls and women in Gambia between the ages of 15 and 49 have been subjected to ge***al mutilation. Globally, more than 200 million women and girls are estimated to be survivors of female ge***al cutting, which can involve removing part of the cl****is and l***a minora and, in the most extreme cases, a sealing of the vaginal opening. Medical experts say the procedures, which do not have medical benefits, can cause a range of short- and long-term harms, including infections, severe pain, scarring, infertility and loss of pleasure. Above all else, it is a violation and desecration of female autonomy, and our human rights. Another bid where girls and women suffer for the purity culture that benefits men’s egos and their nonexistent moral code. The nerve to force us to be having this debate in women’s month. Absolutely gut wrenching

22/03/2024

Ask a man to describe who a good woman is, and watch him describe a slave. It’s gonna be about how malleable, subservient, meek, she is. How amenable she is to his every whim.

17/03/2024

Femicide in Kenya is getting rampant and a week ago a perpetrator, one Jowie, was given the de@th sentence. He unalived one Monica by separating the neck from the head.

In December 2022 a medical student was unalived with an axe and there was a running joke about how when a lady is not loyal you just axe them( "shoka" ). This has been a trend with all the former unaliving of ladies. The jokes even run on radio.

A comedian joked about how Jowie will suffer in prison and suddenly the internet is at rage that people should be compassionate to him and his family and that you cannot kick a man when he is down. The comedian was insulted and dragged for apparently lacking compassion.

The compassion was not extended to the real victims- the families of the unalived and the unalived. God forbid that a [email protected] suffers the consequences of his actions!! Patriarchal societies will always centre m.£n and their feelings.

This is why we need feminism, this is why we need to centre women in our struggle.

16/03/2024

The irony is that in other cultures she’s considered naked for showing ankles and that clavicle. And that, ladies is the scam of modesty culture. There is no limit to what men will say enticed them into violence against you. You can cover up completely in a king sized bedsheet and they’d still blame you for the violence they commit against you because YOU ARE A WOMAN. Covered or not, their violence persists. Patriarchy exists no matter how dressed up or down you are.

Also, how are you talking about what other women are wearing when you have no drip? Be so fu***ng for real.

09/03/2024

Normalise resting
Normalise taking a break
Normalise not being the societal standard strong woman.
Normalise not being the one carrying the whole household on your shoulders..above all, have no shame about it.

08/03/2024

Happy International Women’s Day to African women, black women, q***r women, women of color, disabled women, childfree women, fat women, depressed women, unemployed women, underpaid women, immigrant women,. Happy IWD to all women

01/03/2024

In memory of the women who were unalived for having a brain and actually using it.

For all women who know that If you existed at that time you'd have been a victim.

Keep being different and defying patriarchal and oppressive social norms.

🕯️

26/02/2024

“Feminism isn't about making women stronger. Women are already strong, it's about changing the way the world perceives that strength."
G.D. Anderson

21/02/2024

Deadbeat parents get super mad when the abandoned kids refuse to bond with their do over families. That’s the only time they remember that “but your half/step siblings are innocent” they conveniently forget that their older kids are also innocent and yet continue to traumatize them by throwing their new family in their face, doing for the new kids what they didn’t do for the older ones, and then acting surprised that this new generation of older kids don’t give a flying f*ck about their do over kids. You’ll never convince a fair person that that parent is right, or that the new kids are entitled to any relationship or consideration from the kids you threw away. If you’re not willing to heal with the older kids, leave them alone or at least have the decency to keep your Do over kids away from the kids you abandoned. Otherwise, any shege you see, take it like that

18/02/2024

TRIGGER WARNING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

AM I THE AS***LE for squaring up with my son and disowning him after his girlfriend came to tell me that he's been hitting her?

I 49M am a single father of three children. My wife passed away of cancer when my oldest was 13. It was very difficult for me to raise them, I would work 12-16 hour shifts and would not be home most of the time. I was thankful that my kids were strong and independent. I would like to give a little background on myself. I grew up in an abusive household. My dad would physically abuse my mom and also beat my siblings and me. I have four younger siblings, three of them being girls. I was the oldest and would try to take the beatings for them. When I was old enough and strong enough I squared up against my father. I did so as many times as I needed to. I never let him put his hands on them. My father ended up going to prison for battery and we moved states.

My kid's current ages are 24M, 21F, 17F. My daughters still live with me since they are going to college but my son has moved out and made his life. My son has gotten a girlfriend and I have met her. She is a sweet, loving, and soft-natured girl and I genuinely like her. She reminds me of my wife when she was younger. I invite my son and his girlfriend over for lunch and dinners quite often. They have now been dating for three years and she would sometimes come over and help my daughters out with college stuff or just come over to hang out with them. I love her as family and have told her so.

Four weeks ago she came over and when I opened the door the first thing I saw was that she had a busted lip, and a black eye, and her eye seemed to be dyed in blood. I immediately took her in and helped her. My daughters were also alarmed when they saw her and when we asked her what happened she told us that my son was the one who did it to her. I cried at hearing that and I hugged her and begged her for my forgiveness. She told us all about it and apologized for not telling us sooner. This wasn't the first time he had hit her. I've asked her if she has told her parents or the cops and she said that we were the first person she felt like going to. I cried. I reassured her that she was safe there and not to worry. I asked my daughters to clean up a spare bedroom for her as she would be staying.

I cannot describe how I was feeling but you guys can imagine it. I spent hours just staring at the black TV screen looking at my reflection. A few days after she came to us I invited my son over for dinner. I had her consent and knowledge to do so first. My son came over and I've instructed my daughters to keep her in their rooms and to pretend they weren't there. She was with them as well in their rooms.

When my son knocked on my door and I saw him again, I felt sick and my blood boiled but I kept my composure and we sat down to eat. I kept looking at his hands and knuckles and they were covered in scraps and marks. I asked my son basic questions trying to seem normal and nice. But the whole time I didn't see him as my son anymore, I saw him as my father and I didn't like that feeling. He acted normal until I asked him how everything was with his girlfriend and he choked on his food for a moment and told me "Everything is fine, she's just busy with work and I haven't seen her in a while" I just nodded and say oh that's nice. Glad she's doing okay. We finished eating and I washed the dishes. I stood right next to him and asked why he was beating his girlfriend and told him "I think it's about time you stop bulls**tting me about your girlfriend," He asked me what I was talking about and I told him to stand up and put his hands up. That I knew everything and I was gonna show him what it's like to be the weaker person. Before he could say another word I swung at him. Told him that this was the real deal.

I did not hold back. I was gonna teach my son what it feels like to get beat since he thought it was okay. I told him to keep his hands up and to defend himself. We fought but I of course was gonna be the last one standing. I asked him how it felt to be weak, to be on the other end of it. He told me to stop but I asked him if he stopped when she begged him to. I didn't stop beating him until his girlfriend came downstairs and screamed at me to stop. He looked horrified at seeing her. I told him that he was lucky she didn't tell her dad because her dad would have made him bury his own grave, that he was lucky no one told the cops because they aren't fond of men who beat women. That he was lucky I am not putting him down like the animal he is.

I told him how disgusting I felt being the father of a man who beats his girlfriend, that at this point on he was no longer part of this family and to get the f**k out of my house. That he was a disappointment to everyone in this house. Seeing how I left him reminded me of how she came to me. I tossed him some napkins and told him to clean himself up on the way to whatever s**t hole he came from. I cried once he limped out of the front door.

I told his girlfriend that moving forward was her choice and I would support her. If she chose to stay here she was more than welcome to, if she chose to continue her relationship with him then I would be doing random welfare checks. I told her how sorry I was that something so horrible happened to her and that it was my fault.

It has been a few weeks and I didn't realize that I had a broken nose but that is okay. She chose to end the relationship with him and she has been staying with us. I feel like s**t. I keep seeing the red stains on the couch and carpet and I keep asking myself if I did the right thing, if there were other options. I no longer had a son and that hurt me. I do not know if I did the right thing. I've just been staring at my reflection on the TV. AITA?

17/02/2024

The current conversation on Twitter/X is whether wives and their kids are obligated to acknowledge, or care for an affair baby or a kid born as a product of an affair during said marriage, as part of their family. It’s funny because last we checked, the wives of philandering men are not engaging in the s*x that produced the affair baby, and the children of said wife wanted a stable, healthy home life which the father disrupted as soon as he stepped out on their mother and them. Confused as to why the baby is the wife or her children’s business, and why it’s even a conversation. But here we are. So, if your man/husband/partner/dad etc had a kid with someone else while he’s with you (or your mum) do you have any obligation to be part of that kid’s life?

17/02/2024

How the whole community will rally behind a single father but will treat a single mother like the problem with the whole world. They're almost being blamed for global warming.

15/02/2024

Choosing a spouse /romantic partner over the well-being of your child will always make you a tr@sh parent. It is what it is.

14/02/2024

Girls/ Women under the age of 30, ask questions. Women 30+ answer them. Let’s gooo


Got this from a TikTok creator named Seta.

13/02/2024

What’s something you think should be free but isn’t?

09/02/2024

Working with Married men as a girl’s girl is such a ghetto, because once you’re even remotely polite to them, they and their wives think you want them. It’s like sis….we actually hear how he talks about you with his “boys” when you’re not around. In fact, we are the ones defending you. We don’t want that man. But since you asked, please keep him locked up and off the streets. Leave us out of it

09/02/2024

YT women in the comments showing their ass as usual. And this is why explaining the layers and nuances of systemic racism to people who have never faced it will always be a waste of time. Roast them and keep it pushing

Beyoncé is previewing a new haircare brand called Cécred.

The global icon posted a short clip on Instagram featuring vintage clips from her childhood as well as a jump-cut montage of women at the salon (including herself) for a new line, Cécred.

Along with the clip she wrote, "Hair is sacred. The journey begins Feb 20."

09/02/2024

Shoutout to all the Moms out there who didn’t walk out on their kids, but instead Stayed, Cared, and Loved Them!

01/02/2024

Be to the girls around you, the aunty you wish you had when you were a girl.

27/01/2024

IN SOLIDARITY WITH KENYAN WOMEN…

10,000 strong. Thousands of Women gathered today throughout Kenya to protest the soaring rates of femicide in the country.

We applaud all the women who marched today the many who cheered from home, or work, abroad and locally. We hear your cries! We hear your fight, we hear your roar, and we stand with you. You are amazing!

Follow Feminists in Kenya for more information on what’s happening in Kenya.

Also see hashtags below for more information and to support their cause.

27/01/2024

The British government (the west in general tbh) must bottle their audacity and put it on sale. Because how is the British museum trying to LOAN back artifacts that they STOLE from Ghana, back to Ghana? Is it crack? It has to be

White supremacy and patriarchy are fueled by delusion and audacity. The parallels are so glaring

27/01/2024

In solidarity with Kenyan women. Being a woman should not be a death sentence. Support our sisters in Kenya by sharing.

21/01/2024

The way patriarchy brainwashes women into believing that men are defacto protectors. Meanwhile, material reality, when a woman is in danger, more often than not, she is going to be facing danger in the shape of a man. 8 times out of 10 a man is the one putting women and girls in danger. Yet they teach us from a young age to expect the predators to be our protectors. The craziest part of it, is that women and girls are most in danger from the men in closest proximity. 7 times out of 10, attackers are going to be men who are family and friends. Yet they teach us that these family and friends are going to be the ones to protect us. They literally set us up to be disillusioned, betrayed, and in a constant cycle of fear, because even as the first ones happen, everyone is still gaslighting women into believing that it’s just a one off, and not the actual norm.

The Patriarchy is the longest running scam in history.

20/01/2024

Let us raise our daughters to decenter the male gaze