19/04/2016
The Path I Show You; An Honest Reflection
What I share with you here is a set of practices, viewpoints, tools and skills that will empower you to enjoy the close relationship you want with your children through having a respectful, co-operative coparenting relationship with your ex.
Everything I offer you I know to be effective through first hand experience, trial and error and numerous successes and failures. I have been on this journey for the last thirteen years. What I experience in my own life and family is that when I use these principles, approaches and mindsets, my family works. When I fall back into old, familiar, ordinary patterns of consciousness, speaking and action, breakdowns occur, and I am left dealing with the impact of this; disharmony between myself and my children's mother, and the knock on effect this has on our children.
I'd like to say to you I've mastered everything I share with you here. The truth is, some days are better than others. Sometimes I get to know and experience myself as the father, parent and person I know I can be. Other days I make mistakes, act from my blindspots and generally mess things up.
What I am growing to accept is that this is a journey, a commitment, a practice. The work is never finished. So I now give up any sense of striving to be perfect, accept my humanity and all my flaws and imperfections, and choose to love and accept myself just as I am.
This path is one of recommitting each day, each hour, each moment, to who I choose to be and what I stand for, for myself and others. I passionately believe that it is best for our children to have close, loving relationships with both their parents, and that a healthy relationship between the mother and father is an important foundation for kids to experience true stability and wellbeing.
I am dedicated to achieving this in my family, and committed to supporting you to experience the same in yours. I am honoured to share this journey with you.