Introducing LOVE BYTES ❤️ 🧛🏻♀️ 🎧
True, bite-size stories about the cost of your love
Take a listen to this one from most excellent writer, improviser & TV producer Kiran Benawra ... who shares a tale about the cost of trying to impress a date by taking him to a fancy sushi restaurant and ordering oysters.
💋 💌 If YOU have a great story about the cost of love, WE WANT *YOUR* LOVE BYTE. Head to: https://www.thecostoflove.co.uk/lovebytes to send us a 30-60 second audio recording.
Need some help getting started?! Here are some suggestions to get you going. Tell us about...
💸 a stupid amount of money you spent in the name of love
✈️ a bonkers trip you took in the name of love, or
🎁 the weirdest thing you still have from an ex
The juiciest LOVE BYTES will be shared here on the Cost of Love Instagram and social channels, our newsletter and maybe even featured in Season 2 of the podcast.
You can submit your LOVE BYTE anonymously if you wish. Just let us know!
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SOUND ON! 🎧💔✨
In the latest episode of The Cost of Love, real life couple Haley McGee and Robert Moutrey let us in on the hilarious and touching process of first working together to make the Cost of Love jingle!
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From the giddy highs of making something with a lover, to the gutting lows of uncovering clashing working styles; surface level tiffs to differing conceptions of love; laughing at our foibles to when it just can’t be funny -- no detail is spared.
Listen to the whole episode via the link in our bio.
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💋 GIVE US YOUR LOVE BYTES💋
We’re calling on you, our faithful listeners and our fellow love idiots and sensitive souls, to give us their LOVE BYTES — short and true stories about how love has cost you, in the form of a 30-60 second audio recording.
So, if you have a story about…
💸 A stupid amount of money you spent in the name of love
✈️ A crazy trip you took in the name of love, or
🎁 The weirdest thing you have from an ex
… Record a 30-60 second voice note and upload it via this website: thecostoflove.co.uk/lovebytes
The juiciest LOVE BYTES will be shared on the Cost of Love Instagram and social channels, our newsletter and maybe even featured in Season 2 of the podcast.
You can submit your LOVE BYTE anonymously if you wish.
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🎧💔✨ OUR NEW EPISODE IS HERE!
WHAT CAN HALEY AND THE COST OF LOVE TEAM TEACH US ABOUT THE COST OF LOVE?!
Follow the link in our bio to hear Haley's candid reflections on a season’s worth of @thecostof_love and interviews with her team (including her boyfriend!) 🎧💔✨
In this episode, we leave the traditional structure behind and Haley lets us in on the physical, financial, emotional costs and benefits of making the podcast.
Interweaving interviews with her own experience, we meet; master of mixing and mastering, Robert Moutrey; Editor & Producer, Maddie Haynes; and Assistant Producer, Eliza Cass to get their insights on where the personal and professional collide in the making of The Cost of Love.
In three interviews, we cover:
❤️Haley's original motivation for making the podcast and larger COL project
❤️Haley introduces us to Robert -- in charge of Music and Audio Production and also happens to be her boyfriend
❤️They explore how Haley and Robert embedded working together early on in their relationship
❤️Their efforts to marry their different working styles, and the pain of when this doesn't go as planned
❤️Haley introduces Eliza, her long term Assistant and Assistant Producer on the podcast
❤️They get into the effect of The Cost of Love project on Haley's dating life over time, and what it's like putting The Ex-Boyfriend Yard Sale in your Hinge profile
❤️The emotional cost of passion projects and when big dreams get reduced to brass tacks
❤️Haley comes back to Robert to discuss their relationship on Hinge, the disparities in their experience and Haley's disregard for app etiquette
❤️Their different ideas of love and marriage-- "the continuum" versus "the soup"!
❤️Whether you can you love someone and be totally incompatible and whether we can talk about love in a purely intellectual way
❤️Haley introduces Maddie, Producer & Editor of the podcast to go o
The Cost of Love wants to hear from you. We’re calling on our fellow love idiots and sensitive souls, to give us their LOVE BYTES — short and true stories about how love has cost you, in the form of a 30-60 second audio recording.
So, if you have a story about…
💸 A stupid amount of money you spent in the name of love
✈️ A crazy trip you took in the name of love, or
🎁 The weirdest thing you have from an ex
… Record a 30-60 second voice note and upload it via this website: thecostoflove.co.uk/lovebytes
The juiciest LOVE BYTES will be shared on the Cost of Love Instagram and social channels, our newsletter and maybe even featured in Season 2 of the podcast.
You can submit your LOVE BYTE anonymously if you wish.
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#loveandmoney #costoflove #costoflovepodcast #quantifylove #haleymcgee #exboyfriendyardsale #newpodcast #relationshippodcast #braninyandcathartic #datingapps #onlinedating #loveadvice #datingadvice #divorce
SOUND ON! 🎧💔✨
In the latest episode of The Cost of Love, Haley and DJs and activists Q***r House Party talk about how they’ve managed the meteoric success of the radical online party and the huge amount of work it became -- doing all of this while trying to make money and take care of each other in a global pandemic.
Listen to the whole episode via the link in our bio.
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The Cost of Love wants to hear from you. We’re calling on our fellow love idiots and sensitive souls, to give us their LOVE BYTES — short and true stories about how love has cost you, in the form of a 30-60 second audio recording.
So, if you have a story about…
💸 A stupid amount of money you spent in the name of love
✈️ A crazy trip you took in the name of love, or
🎁 The weirdest thing you have from an ex
… Record a 30-60 second voice note and upload it via this website: thecostoflove.co.uk/lovebytes
The juiciest LOVE BYTES will be shared on the Cost of Love Instagram and social channels, our newsletter and maybe even featured in Season 2 of the podcast.
You can submit your LOVE BYTE anonymously if you wish.
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#loveandmoney #costoflove #costoflovepodcast #quantifylove #haleymcgee #exboyfriendyardsale #newpodcast #relationshippodcast #braninyandcathartic #datingapps #onlinedating #loveadvice #datingadvice #divorce
SOUND ON! 🎧💔✨ OUR NEW EPISODE IS HERE!
WHAT CAN a real life couple of DJs who work together TEACH US ABOUT THE COST OF LOVE?!
Follow the link in bio to hear Haley's fascinating and deeply relevant conversation with Nik and Seren of Q***r House Party. 🎧💔✨
First up, in part 1, we tackle ‘Everyone’s a Love Idiot’ and Haley grills the couple with questions that attempt to quantify their romantic history; from how many relationships they've been in, how many heart-breaks they've had, to how much compensation they deserve from an ex who did them wrong. Expect to be shocked at the price of a synthesiser.
In part 2, ‘Brains Over Braun’ they apply Nik and Seren’s expertise to the concept of the cost of love. We explore:
❤️How and why Nik, Seren and Harry came to found Q***r House Party, and the first signs of its success
❤️Their relationship as a couple with QHP -- how it started and how it's going
❤️The progression from following a financial need to serving the need for radical, q***r online spaces
❤️How they learned on the job, took advantage of gaps in experience and have been there for each other
❤️Beat by beat, what it’s like to go to an online QHP event
❤️The relationship between passion projects and burn out
❤️Boundaries and the real cost of glitter curtains
❤️The price of social media on our wellbeing and motivation
❤️The fragility of unfunded projects and the incredible support that can come from our communities
❤️How QHP have divided the labour, and stayed away from gendered stereotypes
❤️The experience of starting something from scratch and the effect of imposter syndrome on work ethic
❤️The value of gathering, and the healing power of music for themselves and for their q***r communities; getting to enjoy being seen in a safe way.
Then, in part 3 they give out 'Free Hugs' and answer YOUR questions.
SUBSCRIBE, RATE AND REVIEW THE SHOW. ❤ 💸❤️
And if you
TW // abusive relationships
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In the latest episode of @thecostof_love, Haley and s*x educator Evie Fehilly talk about how she managed her journey from a “terror” at the idea and practice of s*x, to a joyful, wholesome, exciting, and nourishing relationship with it that allows her to not only embrace her own s*xuality, but help others to do so too.
Looking at how our language and the conversation around s*xual abuse has changed over recent years -- we dig into how adult s*x ed can help ignite these kinds of transformations for survivors and anyone who’s been intimidated out of asking questions.
Listen here:
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-cost-of-love-with-haley-mcgee/id1551790566.
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SOUND ON! 🎧💔✨ OUR NEW EPISODE IS HERE!
WHAT CAN AN ADULT S*X EDUCATOR TEACH US ABOUT THE COST OF LOVE?!
Follow the link in bio to hear Haley's delicious, in-depth conversation with Evie Fehilly. 🎧💔✨
First up, in part 1, we tackle ‘Everyone’s a Love Idiot’ and Haley grills Evie with questions that attempt to quantify her romantic history; from how many relationships she's been in, to the "hundreds" of times she's fallen in love. We go further into celibacy and s*x in healing, the ratio of fun to misery in her most significant relationship and the impact of COVID-19 on those stats.
In part 2, ‘Brains Over Braun’ they apply Evie’s expertise to the concept of the cost of love. We explore:
❤️How she came to work at Sh! and falling into adult s*x education
❤️Why we feel so anxious asking questions about s*x, what happens when we get them answered, and when we get to answer them
❤️Moving from abuse and a negative relationship with s*x to a joyful one!
❤️Haley and Evie’s shame and what they did to understand it
❤️The importance of a holistic view of s*x and how it can help us to be more conscious in our relationships
❤️How abuse, stigma and shame thrive in secrecy, and the value of breaking taboos and starting conversations
❤️Evie answers some of the most common questions she gets asked as a s*x educator at Sh! including: “Why oh why can't I or**sm?”
❤️The value of continuing adult education on s*x
❤️What a S*x Clown is, and why it's better that we're all in it together
❤️Evie's drag king character, Louis F.***.K. and the way in which making art in the time of #MeToo can provide us with communion and catharsis
❤️The cost of being disconnected with our own pleasure
❤️The enormous scale of the #s*xtoy industry, and the most exciting trends
Then, in part 3 they give out 'Free Hugs' and answer YOUR questions.
SUBSCRIBE, RATE AND REVIEW THE SHOW. ❤ 💸❤️
And if you
SOUND ON! 🎧💔✨ OUR NEW EPISODE IS HERE!
WHAT CAN A REALITY TV PRODUCER TEACH US ABOUT THE COST OF LOVE?!
Follow the link in bio to hear Haley's fascinating and dishy conversation with Alice Varma. 🎧💔✨
First up, in part 1, we tackle ‘Everyone’s a Love Idiot’ and Haley grills Alice with questions that attempt to quantify her romantic history; from how many times she's been in love, the difference between love and high school obsession, to the lessons we learn or don’t learn from our parents about money.
In part 2, ‘Brains Over Braun’ they apply Alice’s expertise to the concept of the cost of love. We explore:
❤️The ins and outs of casting, story & location planning in unscripted TV
❤️The pressure to get the story you want out of contributors and the prevalence of manipulation in particular TV markets
❤️BTS intel on the challenges with dating shows
❤️Why we love reality tv or love to hate it
❤️The danger of viewers focusing on the drama and forgetting to watch with an analytical lens
❤️The nitty gritty of remuneration in reality tv and the ethics of payment
❤️The practice of "frankenbiting" and the ethics of removing actions from context
❤️The cost of taking part in reality TV for contributors
❤️A cost-benefit analysis of working BTS on reality TV, including taking on the responsibility of others' emotional health and wellbeing
Then, in part 3 they give out 'Free Hugs' and answer YOUR questions.
SUBSCRIBE, RATE AND REVIEW THE SHOW. ❤ 💸❤️
And if you like it, share and repost!
🙌 Maddie Haynes, Eliza Cass, Eva Lunny, Robert Moutrey for creating this episode with me, Haley McGee 🙌 🤗
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🎧💔✨ SOUND ON to listen to Haley & her therapist of 10 years, Mary Ellen Mahoney, talk about the importance of maintaining a degree of separateness with your partner - especially when it comes to $£$.
ICYMY, catch the whole episode here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-cost-of-love-with-haley-mcgee/id1551790566
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SOUND ON! 🎧💔✨ OUR NEW EPISODE IS HERE!
WHAT CAN A COUPLES’ THERAPIST TEACH US ABOUT THE COST OF LOVE?!
Follow the link below to hear the second part of Haley's fascinating, honest and revealing conversation with her therapist of 10 years, Mary Ellen Mahoney, RP. 🎧💔✨
This episode is PART 2 of The Cost of Love and THERAPY. Focussed on therapy when you’re in a relationship. (Last week we focussed on therapy when you’re single - if you haven’t listened to that one yet, we recommend you do that first!)
We tackle ‘Everyone’s a Love Idiot’ and grill Mary Ellen on her love life in the previous episode, so here -- we get straight into it with part two, ‘Brains Over Braun’. We apply Mary Ellen’s expertise as a couples’ therapist to the cost of love…
We explore:
❤️Why people resist therapy
❤️The difference between doing therapy for crisis management or for personal deep dives
❤️Defining limbic presence and what role it plays in happy romantic relationships and good therapeutic relationships
❤️Mary Ellen lets us in on the two most important questions to ask yourself when dating and the danger of over-inflating the importance of coupling
❤️The kinds of issues that might bring couples to therapy
❤️How ‘mirroring’ can improve communication between a couple
❤️Why couples' fights are often the same fight, over and over
❤️Why we might lose s*xual interest in our partners
❤️The decision to have children, the effect on couples and when therapists might be able to give advice
❤️Finding love later in life, and what could happen if we lived in a world where it was okay for relationships to end
Then, in part 3 they give out 'Free Hugs' and answer YOUR write-in questions. Like, what to do when you might feel resentful of the ratio of your spending to your partner's …
LISTEN HERE: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-cost-of-love-with-haley-mcgee/id1551790566
SUBSCRIBE, RATE AND
🎧💔 SOUND ON🎧💔
Listen to Haley's therapist talk about, what we can do for ourselves when we know, somewhere deep down, that we're not in the right relationship.
ICYMI -- Follow the link below to hear Haley's intimate, and uniquely vulnerable discussion with her very own therapist of 10 years.✨
This episode is PART 1 of 2 - this week, focussed on therapy when you’re single. (Next time, we continue the discussion with couples therapy.)
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-cost-of-love-with-haley-mcgee/id1551790566
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SOUND ON! 🎧💔✨ OUR NEW EPISODE IS HERE!
WHAT CAN A THERAPIST TEACH US ABOUT THE COST OF LOVE?!
Follow the link in bio to hear Haley's intimate, and uniquely vulnerable discussion with her very own therapist of 10 years (AAHHHH). 🎧💔✨
This episode is PART 1 of 2 - this week, focussed on therapy when you’re single. (Next time, we continue the discussion with couples’ therapy.)
In part one of this ep, ‘Everyone’s a Love Idiot’, Haley grills Mary Ellen with a series of questions that attempt to quantify her romantic history and the value of love in her life.
In part two, ‘Brains Over Braun’, Mary Ellen’s expertise on psychotherapy and the value of therapeutic relationships is applied to the cost of love…
We explore:
❤️ What psychotherapy is, and how this relates to Mary Ellen's mission as a therapist
❤️ Mary Ellen and Haley’s relationship and how it has grown over the last decade
❤️ How we're programmed, imprinted on and subconsciously taught patterns by our primary caregivers
❤️ The "hell" of modern dating, UTIs and the need for connection in a rapidly moving society
❤️ The purpose of therapy in constructing a secure base -- in order to make decisions determined not by attachment styles, but by our best interest
❤️ What might be underneath knowing you need to break up with someone, but feeling like you. Just. Can't.
We’re saving our 'Free Hugs' for part 2 of this conversation, dropping in 2 weeks. But we leave you with an extra special note on the value of being on your own and holding onto integrity when afraid you’re running out of time to find the love you so badly want.
SUBSCRIBE, RATE AND REVIEW THE SHOW. ❤ 💸❤️
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-cost-of-love-with-haley-mcgee/id1551790566
🙌 Maddie Haynes, Eliza Cass, Eva Lunny, Robert Moutrey for creating this episode with me, Haley McGee 🙌 🤗
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OUR NEW EPISODE IS HERE!
WHAT CAN AN ETHICAL HEDONIST TEACH US ABOUT THE COST OF LOVE?!
Episode 7 of The Cost of Love IS HERE!
Follow the link to hear Haley's conversation with ethical hedonist, creative producer, workshop facilitator, DJ and founder of Pinky Promise -- Jared Philippo.
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-cost-of-love-with-haley-mcgee/id1551790566
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In part one, ‘Everyone’s a Love Idiot’, Haley asks Jared a series of questions that attempt to quantify his romantic history and the value of love in his life.
In part two, ‘Brains Over Braun’, Jared’s expertise on ethical hedonism and the curation of safe spaces for vulnerability is applied to the concept of the cost of love… We get into:
❤️ Jared’s journey into creative producing, organising parties and community events
❤️How and why he came to found Pinky Promise
❤️ What ethical hedonism is and the difference between creating an environment to connect playfully, sensually and s*xually vs. a traditional s*x party
❤️ The paramount importance of agreement and consent in sensual spaces, and how event producers can support the balance of being your most vulnerable self while feeling totally safe
❤️Where shame might live inside prudes and hedonists alike
❤️Am I too vanilla? Does monogamy make me boring?
❤️ How lockdown has provided an opportunity to realise that s*xuality and sensuality can be a solo pursuit, and how Pinky Promise is facilitating and supporting this from afar
In part three, 'Free Hugs', they answer listener questions about love and money, like what to do when the person you're dating is in a different tax bracket to you… Oh, and they don't know *you* know!
SUBSCRIBE, RATE AND REVIEW THE SHOW. ❤ 💸❤️
And if you like it, share and repost!
🙌 Maddie Haynes, Eliza Cass and Robert Moutrey for creating this episode with me, Haley McGee 🙌 🤗
ICYMI, on The Cost of Love Podcast love
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WHAT CAN AN EXPERT IN THE HISTORY OF DATING TEACH US ABOUT THE COST OF LOVE?!
Episode 4 of The Cost of Love has DROPPED. Follow the link in the bio to hear Haley's conversation with brilliant journalist, broadcaster, author & co-host of Bis*xual Brunch Podcast - @nichihodgson.
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This episode is all about The Cost of Love and DATING.
In part one, ‘Everyone’s a Love Idiot’, Haley asks Nichi a series of questions that attempt to quantify love and its value in her life.
In part two, ‘Brains Over Braun’, Nichi’s expertise in the history of dating is applied to the concept of the cost of love. We cover...
❤️ What led Nichi to write ‘The Curious History of Dating’, and the impressive research process for the book
❤️ How to game the dating apps based on Nichi’s experience as a matchmaker
❤️ The advent of "Lonely Hearts ads" in 1662
❤️ The historical accuracy of #Bridgerton
❤️ A cost-benefit analysis of having a mistress in the Regency period
❤️ How Queen Victoria changed how we view romantic love
❤️ Why we need a code of conduct for dating today
In part three, 'Free Hugs', Haley answers listener questions about love and money, like how to broach financial conversations with a new partner who has a a bad relationship to money...
SUBSCRIBE, RATE & REVIEW THE SHOW. ❤ 💸❤️
And if you like it, share & repost!
🙌 @itsmaddiehaynes, @elosercass & @robertmoutrey for creating this episode with me, @yeshaleymcgee 🙌 🤗
❤️ ICYMI, on The Cost of Love, love idiot Haley McGee is talking to a wide range of experts to try to figure out if the cost of love is worth it. Each episode features a conversation between Haley and someone in the know, to dig into that strange juicy place where love and value collide.
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