Baggage Reclaim

02/12/2024

When I talk to people struggling in the aftermath of a breakup or fallout, often what blocks them from beginning to heal is the story they’re telling themselves about what happened or making out like the other party was perfect 👀 Rejecting the truth leads to self-abandonment and self-criticism.

24/11/2024

Excited to be featured as a November ebook deal on Amazon Kindle. The Joy of Saying No is on sale—this month only—for $1.99! 💃🏽🔥❤️📖 Check it out here: https://a.co/d/hOgSDsG

04/11/2024

We co-create our relationships and they represent the sum of the actions and intentions of each party.

03/11/2024

My brother joined me again for the latest episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast 🎧 We talk about something that so many people grapple with: that feeling that there’s ’something about you’, that you’re ’not good enough’, why it’s there, and how we’ve challenged these painful notions. Listen to the episode wherever you get your podcasts https://pod.link/1032835304/episode/e56e88f80814e9251f6ce197423f6abf

29/10/2024

When we’re in a cycle of breaking up and getting back together or staying in an unfulfilling or shady relationship long past its sell-by date, getting compassionately honest with ourselves is crucial. Becoming more aware of the emotional baggage driving our pattern and what isn’t truly right for us puts us on a path to setting ourselves free and enjoying more loving, intimate relationships.

28/10/2024

The likes of therapy and coaching can be invaluable in helping us process our past, understand and know ourselves, and cultivate healthier relationships and choices. Healthy boundaries are critical as a result. Part of the reason we might work with a therapist or coach in the first place is precisely because we’re struggling with boundaries so the therapeutic relationship needs to help facilitate that. And if that’s not possible and, in particular, not being encouraged, we’ll do ourselves more harm than good if we continue that relationship.

Read the full post here: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/how-to-find-the-right-therapist-while-having-healthy-boundaries/

26/10/2024

You’re allowed to grow.

25/10/2024

It’s not about whether you’re ’good enough’. You’re plenty enough already. Acknowledge the relationship pattern so you can break it.

23/10/2024

Don’t let someone be the proverbial dog in a manger in your life: hogging up your bandwidth, blocking you from moving on… but not actually willing and able to step up and be the partner you need and want in a mutually fulfilling relationship with love, care, trust and respect.

19/10/2024

Relationships help us heal, grow and learn… if we allow ourselves to recognise what they’re trying to tell us.

18/10/2024

The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast 🎧 is BACK after over 20 months with two new episodes - one solo with me catching you up on what’s been going on in my world and another with my brother on secrets and lies. It’s really good to be back. 🔥🔥🔥🔥 Please listen to the episodes and subscribe wherever you get your podcasts https://pod.link/1032835304

13/10/2024

You’re allowed to say yes and no, and you’re allowed to live by your values and honour your needs, desires, expectations and, basically, your boundaries.

11/10/2024

Take care of you and your relationships.

10/10/2024

Whatever frustrated you about a relationship offers a window into understanding what you need and how you need to show up to advocate for that in your current and future relationships.

More on the blog: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/your-relationships-provide-a-window-into-understanding-what-you-need/

09/10/2024

Set the standard.

Read 12 Signs You’re Settling for Crumbs in Your Relationships https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/12-signs-that-youre-settling-for-crumbs-in-your-relationships/

08/10/2024

Those feelings of unworthiness, of not being ‘good enough’ track all the way back to childhood. We internalised certain events, maybe a sense of neglect, lack of connection, attentiveness and feeling genuinely wanted and cared for as something we provoked. Like if we’d just been a better kid they’d have been a better parent. Emotional baggage is real. Let go of the fantasy that we can make people, including parents, spontaneously combust into someone else if we’re ’pleasing’ enough. Set yourself free.

Read the full post: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/some-parents-couldnt-be-who-we-needed-and-we-need-to-forgive-ourselves/

03/10/2024

When we worry that someone else will get a better version of our ex in a better relationship, that in itself acknowledges that we accepted less than a mutually fulfilling relationship with love, care, trust and respect.

Read the original blog post here: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-keeps-you-up-a-night-pondering-whether-theyre-a-better-person-in-a-better-relationship-without-you/

28/09/2024