You Don't Own Me

20/03/2024

🎉 I've waited a long time to do this.....

🎧 Season 4 Episode 3..... 🥁

"You've got a friend in me" with Sarie Taylor, Founder of Worldwide
Well-Being https://www.worldwidewellbeing.co.uk/

👭The friendships we have in life are some of the most precious things about life!

✨ They bring us happiness, comfort and loyalty. They are with us through the good days and the bad days.
They give us strength.
So what can a friend do if they think someone they care about is in an abusive relationship?

Sarie Taylor is a trained psychotherapist and coach who works with so many people to help them reduce their anxiety in order to live a life they deserve. 💫

Sarie and I cover so many topics in this episode including anxiety, domestic abuse and the difficulties for those friends who want to help and support someone experiencing domestic abuse but are not sure what the best approach may be.

I have known Sarie Taylor since we were 11 years old and I can honestly say when she talks about her work, you know she is speaking from a place of authenticity and honesty.
💫 This episode will make you feel as though anything is possible!

Thank you Sarie 💛

Full Episode:
Website https://ydom.co.uk/podcasts/
Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/3TggcSQj1vaBPzRWzCXXni
YouTube https://youtu.be/WI2pqWNFY6o

Intro and Outro Music:
Look At Me
Words & Music by P.J. Denton
Performed by - Elrose

https://youtube.com/clip/UgkxA0PsSZmbMHkIKJ-_8OGozzXOuM_1Hi7K?si=n45qXJHGR1kNg1Ew

Sarie is a trained psychotherapist and coach who works with so many people to help them reduce their anxiety in order to live a life they deserve. Sarie and ...

01/03/2024

🎧 Season 4 Episode 2 - Ruth Dodsworth ITV broadcaster, journalist and weather presenter shared her story... 🎙

I had the privilege of sitting down with Ruth Dodsworth to discuss her story which hit the headlines in 2021. Ruth talks about the abuse she experienced during her marriage and so much more....

"So many support networks are available and there is no deadline. I almost need the support more now than I did in the very, very beginning."

Thank you Ruth Dodsworth for recording this episode with me and for speaking out! 🌟

You can find the full episode:

Spotify 👉 https://lnkd.in/eHYEh66G

https://ydom.co.uk/ 👉https://lnkd.in/ecsHk3vk

YouTube 👉https://lnkd.in/eeQZw5fU

Intro and Outro Music:
Look At Me
Words & Music by P.J. Denton
Performed by - Elrose

I had the privilege of sitting down with Ruth to discuss her story which hit the headlines in 2021. Ruth talks about the abuse she experienced during her mar...

26/01/2024

Can't wait to be there CrimeCon UK 🎧

25/01/2024

New Episode 🎧 🎙 Season 3 Episode 6 - with Nick Gazzard, founder of the Hollie Gazzard Trust and the Hollie Guard App.......

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Hollie Gazzard was murdered by her former partner, in February 2014. Her father, Nick Gazzard felt strongly that something positive should come out of Hollie’s death and so created the Hollie Gazzard Trust and The Hollie Guard App.

The App is a next generation smartphone app that provides enhanced levels of protection.

In this episode, Nick and I talk about how much has happened in the last 10 years and how many people have been helped and supported through the Trust and App, since Hollie's death.

Beyond grateful to Nick Gazzard for joining me in this episode 🙏

You can find the episode 👇

YouTube 👉https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eBoW9y1AVUE&t=3s
My Website 👉 https://ydom.co.uk/podcasts/
Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/3TggcSQj1vaBPzRWzCXXni

Intro and Outro Music:
Look At Me
Words & Music by P.J. Denton
Performed by - Elrose

20/01/2024

I did something this morning I’ve never done before…..

I went to collect my first pair of glasses.

I’ve always been very fortunate to have good vision and it’s only as I’ve hit my mid forties that I have found myself in this position.

Everything was getting a “bit blurry.” I’m not complaining in the slightest, I’m lucky to have gone this long!

But sitting waiting for my glasses, it made me think about the parallels with domestic abuse.

Bear with me on this.....read the blog here 👇

https://ydom.co.uk/domestic-abuse-seeing-clearly/

28/12/2023

For all those who are without their children this Christmas and are experiencing post-separation abuse. I hope you know how amazing and incredible you are. Keep going ✨️
My website is here to help and support you https://ydom.co.uk/

18/12/2023

🎧The Family Court System🎧

I am beyond proud of what we discussed Richard Port MBE!

Navigating the Family Court System can be one of the most difficult, worrying and devastating times for victims and survivors of domestic abuse.

In this TWO part episode, I sit down with the incredible Richard Port MBE to discuss the Family Court and all that it entails!

This two part episode gives hope and a light at the end of the tunnel.

Please watch, listen and share!

YouTube 👉 Part 1 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8y3SO5phsr0

YouTube 👉 Part 2 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gq9urig11xM

You Don't Own Me Podcast Page 👉 https://ydom.co.uk/podcasts/

Spotify👉 https://open.spotify.com/show/3TggcSQj1vaBPzRWzCXXni

*This episode was originally, Season 3 episode 3*

Intro and Outro Music:

Look At Me

Words & Music by P.J. Denton

Performed by - Elrose

Listen to DIP in and out with Lucy on Spotify. Bringing the conversation around Domestic Abuse out of the shadows and into the light of day. Ask yourself honestly, would you feel comfortable talking about domestic abuse or even know where to look for support? This podcast opens up the discussion and...

15/12/2023

2 part episode of DIP in and out with Lucy out on Monday 18th December! You can find the podcast on Spotify YouTube and my website https://ydom.co.uk/podcasts/
Out on Monday! 🥳

13/12/2023

I want to talk about saying goodbye.....

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Saying goodbye is part of everyday life.

We say goodbye to our loved ones when we head off to work and school.

We say goodbye after spending holiday time with family and friends.

But what we don’t talk about enough is the effect and impact that a goodbye has on a child of post-separation abuse......

https://ydom.co.uk/saying-goodbye-and-psa-at-christmas/

08/12/2023

CrimeCon UK the ULTIMATE True Crime event, returns to London on the 21st and 22nd September, 2024!

CrimeCon UK is the world’s leading true crime event and is partnered by TRUE CRIME, the expert led channel previously known as CBS reality, available on your platform of choice

From fascinating sessions with some of the biggest names in true crime, to raising a glass with your favourite podcasters, CrimeCon UK is an unforgettable way for you to really immerse yourself into the True Crime community.

I will be there so come and join me, quote LUCY for your special 10% discount.
Head to crimecon.co.uk to book your tickets today! 🎉🎉🎉🎉

01/12/2023

🔊 Season 3 Episode 3 with Sue Atkins The Parenting Expert talking Children, Divorce & Domestic Abuse.

"There's no one size fits all, all these small things that you might listen to here today might just guide you on another little path, add it to your toolkit and over time you might change situations, and your mindset and your thinking, perhaps."

Join me and Sue while we navigate the complex world of divorce and children. Add domestic abuse to the mix, and it's a whole other situation....

You can find this episode and more here:
👉 https://ydom.co.uk/podcasts/
👉https://www.youtube.com/
👉https://open.spotify.com/show/3TggcSQj1vaBPzRWzCXXni

Thank you Sue Atkins The Parenting Expert for joining me in an episode of DIP in and out with Lucy!

Intro and Outro Music:
Look At Me
Words & Music by P.J. Denton
Performed by - Elrose

27/11/2023

Very proud and grateful that PEGS - Child to Parent Abuse Support is shining a spotlight on You Don't Own Me today as part of the ❤

On day 2 of the 16 days of activism we are shining a spotlight on You Don't Own Me. Victim – Survivor – What comes next? - https://ydom.co.uk/victim-survivor-what-comes-next/

19/11/2023

🗓 This International Men's Day 🎉

I wanted to share the amazing episode I recorded with Mark Brooks OBE earlier this year.

My aim is to ensure ALL those who have experienced domestic abuse know that there is HOPE and there is HELP out there.

We just need a helping hand sometimes to know where to look!

https://youtube.com/clip/UgkxC0Avnfs6LcZEmqrbZPGTHXFuEuTch4Es?si=qvNg9ZPyM_4us-VP

15 seconds · Clipped by Domestic Abuse Support - DIP in and out with Lucy · Original video "DIP in and out with Lucy Podcast Season 1 Episode 4 - Mark Brook...

17/11/2023

Season 3 Episode 1 "It's about becoming the most YOU version of you." Anna Knight 🥰

I cannot begin to explain how much I admire and respect Anna's philosophy on life.

AND her Audacious And! Anna coaches cycle-breakers and change-makers, she's a trauma-informed coach for activists, survivors and supporters who want to create real change AND live a liberated and joyful life.

This episode will resonate with so many of you - enjoy!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DHMx3I-HJco

Intro and Outro Music:
Look At Me
Words & Music by P.J. Denton
Performed by - Elrose

22/10/2023

https://chng.it/jqwmQWprw9
Domestic Abuse isn't a marginalized issue. It will effect all of us directly or indirectly at some point in our lives whether through family, friends or work colleagues. Domestic abuse does not discriminate.

The systems that are meant to protect those who have experienced domestic abuse, are failing families every day.
I've signed.

678 signatures are needed, let’s get there by the end of the day?

13/10/2023

Have ypu heard the rumour about 🗣🗣🗣🗣https://ydom.co.uk/rumour-has-it-let-them-talk/

12/10/2023

🌟 I created You Don't Own Me https://ydom.co.uk/about/ and the podcast DIP in and out with Lucy https://open.spotify.com/show/3TggcSQj1vaBPzRWzCXXni earlier this year.

I wanted https://ydom.co.uk/ to be the first online “one-stop shop” for EVERYONE impacted by domestic abuse. A “one-stop shop” helping people find useful resources, support services and access to knowledge shared by professionals around domestic abuse.

Anyone who knows me knows my passion for talking about domestic abuse and making it a conversation we can ALL be part of - it not only effects the victim/survivor but also those nearest and dearest to those with lived experience of abuse.

I write lots of blogs and I'm proud to say I get some incredible feedback. 💛

🌟 However, I did not write the blog below.

🌟 Someone else did.

It is raw, it is real and I couldn't be happier to include it within the safe haven that is https://ydom.co.uk/blogs/

* Let me just put this into context....*

✍ The author was a specialist in domestic violence law. And this is her story from the perspective of a best friend.

I encourage you to read it. It is an incredible blog around a topic we don't discuss enough - how those who care and love victims and survivors of domestic abuse have to navigate their own emotions when they see someone they love being abused.

💛 A Best Friend’s Love – Fighting Demons 💛

"Every week I go to boxing training and I imagine my best friend’s ex partner is the bag I’m punching.

I hit that bag like I’m Muhammad Ali fighting to be the heavyweight champion of the world.

This is my weekly anger management. Because in real life it’s illegal to punch him in the face (and I know violence isn’t the answer) but it’s what anyone that loves a survivor of domestic abuse wants to do.

To make the perpetrator hurt, really hurt and for you to be the one that causes that hurt. So that the perpetrator knows that you can hurt them and you’re doing it out of love and loyalty.

Of course, hurting the perpetrator will not help the survivor, it will only make things worse. Which is why the punching bag helps.
It’s an outlet for the rage.

Over time you may think that my punches have had less ferocity, not true.

I’m not more angry about the past. It’s literally years since I ‘found out’ about him.

The problem is that he keeps behaving like the narcissist, misogynist sociopath he is. He won’t learn, because he doesn’t feel that how he is behaving is anything other than ‘normal’.

There won’t be an epiphany moment where he changes- so my best friend faces new forms of abuse – so the rage carries on and I keep punching.

Don’t get me wrong so much has changed.

My best friend has moved forward with her life, despite and because of the struggles that he caused, not moved on. I don’t think it’s possible to entirely move on. The history is there, tangible and palpable in every decision that she makes.

Every decision is fueled by the history that has taken her to the place she is now.....
🌟 Read the full blog here 👉 https://ydom.co.uk/a-best-friends-love-fighting-demons/

06/10/2023

My daughter said something this week - and I wasn't prepared for it 😲

It took me a minute to digest what she said.

On a typical Thursday evening in the Wade household, while I was organising her packed lunch, sorting washing, making dinner and doing the usual 50,000 other jobs that need to be done.....

She told me she was proud of me.

It was that simple.

But from an 11 year old, it meant everything.

In a world where children and young people are besotted with influencers on social media.

They spend their time striving for that ever changing ideal of whatever they think perfection may be.

I am quietly (without realising it) inspiring my daughter and making her feel proud of her Mum 🙌

I see her growing and changing almost daily now.

Watching her and listening to her trying to help others, not judge and treat everyone as equals makes me so happy!

I have never given much thought to what my "legacy" would be when I'm no longer here.

But looking at everything that You Don't Own Me and DIP in and out with Lucy Podcast has achieved in such a short space of time, I'm excited to see how that legacy will play out! 🚀

Enjoy this FABULOUS Friday and strut into this weekend, feeling proud of yourself and all that you are❤️

💻 You Don't Own Me https://ydom.co.uk/

🎧 DIP in and out with Lucy Podcast https://lnkd.in/e5R44q2B

03/10/2023

Domestic Abuse Awareness isn't just about an image in a campaign for one month out of the year.

It's so, so, much more than that.

It's about the thousands of images that make up a person's life.

The images over the years from the good and the bad days.

The Birthdays, Christmases, Christenings and every life event they experience.

The days they felt like they'd turned a corner......to the days where they felt all hope was lost.

One single image can't possibly convey domestic abuse.

Because it effects all of us in some way or other.

Directly or indirectly.

It's a collage of emotions and a rich tapestry which no ONE image could ever do justice.

Every piece of a victim and survivor's life at some point, comes together.

And eventually we see the whole picture.

I’m Lucy and I’m the creator of ydom.co.uk
(You Don’t Own Me)

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02/10/2023

Walking a mile in someone else's shoes......
..will only give you blisters!

But eventually, you'll forget the pain.

For those friends and family who are trying to support loved ones who have or are experiencing domestic abuse. Trying to understand, or know what to say can be painful.

ℹ Victims and survivors of domestic abuse don't want you to walk a mile in their shoes.

⚠ They wouldn't wish it on you.

ℹ Instead, try to be there as quiet comfort and support.

💟 There is a greater chance of that person opening up to you if you do.💟

And you never know how much good it could do!

You Don't Own Me is a “one-stop shop” helping people find useful resources, support services and access to knowledge shared by professionals around domestic abuse.

👉 https://ydom.co.uk/about/

27/09/2023

NEW PODCAST EPISODE! 🎧 🎙
Children and Young People. Will we ever learn?

We all worry about our children at the best of times. So when we think of children and young people who have been impacted by domestic abuse, can we even comprehend the challenges they face?

In this episode, I sit down with Sam Hallam, Education Mental Health Practitioner to discuss those challenges and learn more about how we can support children and young people who have been impacted by domestic abuse.

You can find the full episode 👇
https://youtu.be/1Jh02VaJstQ
https://open.spotify.com/show/3TggcSQj1vaBPzRWzCXXni
https://ydom.co.uk/podcasts/

AND......I'm am excited to say, DIP in and out with Lucy now has Intro and Outro Music 🙌🎶🎸🎤
Song ➡ Look At Me
Words & Music by ➡ P.J. Denton
Performed by - Elrose

Pete James Denton I can't thank you enough 😁

When I get 5 minutes, I'll be updating all the podcast episodes with the music. I say me. I actually mean my extremely talented husband!

Bringing the conversation around Domestic Abuse out of the shadows and into the light of day.No statistics, no intimidation…..just conversation!

19/09/2023

🔥 There is something about getting wrapped up in the evening and sitting in front of the firepit, mesmerised by watching the flames dancing.

Most of us learn at a very young age, the saying, "if you stand too close to the fire, you'll get burned."

It may look charming and warming, but it's more dangerous than you can imagine.

And it made me think.....

For those domestic abuse victims and survivors who have been mesmerised and love bombed by an abuser, it has devastating and lifelong effects.

So, the more we can educate children and young people about the importance of having boundaries and understanding in an age appropriate way, the complexities of domestic abuse, the more chance there will be of creating informed individuals in the future. ❤️

AND....🥁

🎧🎙I'm excited to say, I'll be recording an episode of DIP in and out with Lucy with Samantha Hallam, Educational Mental Health Practitioner, focusing on the complexities and impact domestic abuse has on children and young people.....and I can't wait 🌟

17/09/2023

An absolutely amazing weekend CrimeCon Glasgow 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

I was fortunate enought to be able to say a few words about my Podcast, DIP in and out with Lucy https://lnkd.in/e5R44q2B

continuing in my mission to raise awareness around Domestic abuse and all its complexities.

I was extremely proud to be emblazoned with my website logo, You Don't Own Me https://ydom.co.uk/ 🤩

I was also very privileged to introduce the hit podcast, I am not Nicholas. 👏

Meeting some incredible people in Kacey Cult Vault and Wendy from Foul Play, along with some familiar faces in Charlotte Marie Hooper and Sarah Ferris! 🫶

If you haven't yet attended CrimeCon UK , I can highly recommend it as one of the best events I've ever had the pleasure to attend!

Thank you Nancy Baughen for the opportunity 🌟