Chatty Matty Aves

02/01/2024

Yeah in it

18/08/2023

Bridge over troubled waters lol

04/08/2023

Love it

11/07/2023

10/07/2023

Hi to all that reads this having a.d.h.d or o.d.d bipolar spergers syndrome autism ,Depression the list goes on but there's a list what you get in ways of supporting you /us having been given this diagnosis what support do you get medication are you getting any other support I know I ain't a diagnosis doesn't open up anything you get given tub of pills and that's it if someone tells you otherwise there lying
Medication is your support and there support to be able to deal with you cos un medicated they ain't got chance in hell but that's it
no follow up appointments no support groups nothing
I got diagnosed at 50 yrs old and in 4 years I've not seen anyone apart from when i sent to be psycho analysed to prove to someone i was capable otherwise I've seen no one I ways of being supported about my adhd
I have custody of my son he's in my care he also has o d d and adhd and proved I can look after my son. But my son isnt getting any support I had to get him his educational health plan i had fight the courts even with the diagnosis of o d d and adhd to make them understand he was struggling and his hyper activity was the cause of his learning difficulties I had to get him in a special school many mainstream schools later couldnt cope with his melt downs and learning difficulties but I didn't know what I was talking about I was told so many times And now he's in the special school fully trained teachers with kids with all sorts of problems can't support him anymore than they are doing mo one can change him or could they change me theres no extra support for training him and theres not no one person supporting me either with len or with my adhd so they just text on the school app about how good or bad he's been that day like I don't know what he's like this is not slating anyone so ive been throu 30 years with out a diagnosis and was always alienated and singled out the hyper chatty but never got any help not even from physiatrist I was seeing as a kid over the years my main change ischaracteristic is that my adhd makes me talk very fast so I'm hyper verbally !! So to them I soon become annoying I can see there facial expressions change as im talking and i get so much hassle from people everyday which causes anxiety in me as they make fun of me and so on and cos of this most of them thinks im on somthing first impressions last..... I didn't ask to be this way !! But I am like this and so is my son! i understand my boy why hes like he is but he doesn't understand why he's like he is
So here's an example Right
So how I get treated on daily basis but this is how I got treated from social services!! Now surely they have equal rights and i should be treated fairly same as police officers correct
So someone had stolen from our house either someone I'd let in one if 2 people or they broken in my house my sons clothes and stuff missing and property damaged so I called the police and they turned up un announced and so meeting me chatty matty being my nickname and I'm upset about this so im even more hyped up bearing in mind everyone who meets me when im hyperactive for the first time i useally get same reaction as I've said so the looks of he's gonna take a breath in minute not getting a word in kind of gets people annoyed anyway
there's a sign on the door!! Warning occupant is on the autism spectrum, And I told him numerous times as well autism passport to police officers ambulance doctors etc so if im acting differently talking fast .totally ignored it infact they mocked the officers were talking the p**s out of me rolling there eyes at wash other there was no proof of the crime just my word for it they didn't care about the crime that had been committed
no they just said no proof and left so that should of been that but no !!
Wait for it ?
They put a referral in to social services once they left UN BEKNOWN TO ME ! didnt even tell me they was gonna do it so im the victim and this is the support you get I wasn't taken seriously because of my disability and then to top ut off i had 6 months of being grilled by social workers ! Made to prove I'm a good father to my son There aim was not to support my son but trying to find something in way of evidence that would prove im not looking after my son properly so how is that being treated equally but what upset me was that they put him my son on a protection plan i said protection from what ?? Hes been in my care for 6 yrs social services knew I had him and had been in contact to check in, so no previous wrong doings so no hic ups in 6 years and they never listened to me either or believed a word I said accused me of being all kinds of things they dragged me to hell and back my family feuds ex partners and my kids !! None of this is about my son and his needs I got discriminated for having a disability and from day one "oh ive heard your a chatty one" pretenting to put tape over my mouth as she said it!! This is social services and police officers and I can't do naff all about it so please how is this supporting someone helping the community my arse!! I'll tell ya there ain't any support for soneone or people like me So like i said we get judged alienated disrespected cos they know they can do it and get away with it!!!
I'm 54 and in 4 years I've had a one yearly medication review thats it not oh how you doing anything we can do ?? We are just left to deal with it by ourselves
So after protection period 6 months I proved beyond a shadow if a doubt im capable of being a parent to my son... but he was meant to go on child in need plan
ha ha really i ain't seen or heard of social worker since so I say again and again what support do we get sorry they did offer one thing go to parenting classes and that was only another way to prove I can look after my son
Hes 8yrs old and if he's naughty it's oh it's dad's fault ......and what makes me laugh is they get my son medicated at school he's different child medicated he's a good lad so easy to deal with !! If he's under weight oh dad's fault not feeding him even though his medication stops him from eating but hey dad's fault none the less
So they don't get kicked punched swore chairs and toys thrown at them
when his meds worn off they might see it maybe once or twice a month temper melt downs but I get it daily and I cope with him sone days better than others not a problem to me !! Cos i know him!! i know he doesnt mean it!!! He dont know why he does it!! And when over sorry daddy i love you dad cos I was the same at his age but no such thing as odd and adhd bavk then so my life was hard as hell I didn't have understanding from my parents cos no one knew what was wrong with me but they do now though. but nothing has changed they still no support for either if us
I know I can't change the parts of me I hate!! The same parts people don't like about me
And they say learn to love yourself before you can love some one else
so you see my point that's never gonna happen
I can't change my past the past when i didnt know any better I know I'm the total opposite to the person i was back then
Abd Ive learnt from it and I've not been in trouble for over 30 years but that don't matter I'm still looked at and treated as though I am that same person
so what chance has my son got In life if you can't change people's way of thinking towards people like us

you can't change or cure us either . And yet ??
We didn't ask to be this way ! AlI i can do is be there for my son when people treat him the way everyone has treated me over the years

Some People need see what problems there actions cause
Just for being judgemental sarky comments towards someone who's hyper or slow wh doesn't quite fit in your the ones who make us feel different and cause that anxiety when its you who needs to change. Change other people is what's needed in this world especially when most people looking for who criticize and blame next
So if you see me out and about and my boys playing up don't judge me with your criticism stop the gossipping resolving the problem is whats needed ,so if you ain't got any helpful advice dont say nothing ? social doctors schools there professionals and they cant help us so what help do you think you can offer
They Give us medication to sonk you out so we are easly controlled that's all they got and all were gonna get !!
There are no answers there is no plan for the future for for adhd and o.d.d other mental health diagnosis because we are to unpredictablle so they cant/or won't put plans in place to someone who's difficulties change from one day to the next anxiety hypertension, hyperactivity depression are never the same due to people's reactions so they cant support us so there you have it people

23/12/2022

Still don't get excepted so if you hav nothing nice to say just be kind and say nothing

The path to self-acceptance is long and treacherous for adults with ADHD, many of whom mistake their symptoms for personal faults. Here, ADDitude readers share the moments they realized that they weren’t broken at all — and that their wild, wonderful ADHD brains didn’t need fixing.

23/12/2022

I do this everywhere we go not just holiday gatherings

Sometimes having a child with ADHD can make get-togethers stressful. Follow these strategies for peaceful celebrations.

14/11/2022

Yeah don't I know it

“When I reflect on my childhood, I see a distinct correlation between suppressed hyperactivity, brought on by shame and guilt, and squashed potential.”
👉 https://www.additudemag.com/authentic-self-woman-adhd-hyperactivity/

01/11/2022

Additude ADHD awareness if only I knew 4o years ago

25/10/2022

Don't I know it ??? I'm starving but hardly eat much crazy crazy

"Patients with ADHD have a three-fold risk of eating disorders." - Roberto Olivardia, Ph.D. https://www.additudemag.com/eating-disorders-adhd-research-treatments/