Friends Abroad Relationship School

16/08/2025

03/06/2025

Exit Relationship Competitions

Relationships should be safe, not a contest. If your partner is seeing others, you’re forced to compete for their affection, draining your self-worth. Respect yourself by walking away from this toxic dynamic.

Understanding the Competition
Competition arises when your partner dates others, making you feel like you must “prove” yourself. It stems from their fear of commitment, selfishness, or lack of boundaries, often fueled by dating app culture or insecurity. This breeds jealousy, distrust, and self-doubt, undermining your emotional well-being.

Valuing Your Worth
Self-respect means refusing to fight for someone’s loyalty. You deserve a partner who chooses you fully, not one who keeps you as an option. If their actions—flirting or dating others—make you feel disrespected or anxious, it’s time to leave.

Steps to Walk Away
Reflect on whether their behavior respects your need for exclusivity. Set boundaries: “I expect commitment, not competition.” If they don’t comply, say, “I’m done competing,” and cut contact. Stay firm. Heal through self-care, therapy, or friends, rediscovering your passions to rebuild confidence.

Building Better Relationships
Seek a partner who prioritizes you and respects boundaries. Watch for red flags like evasiveness. Know your worth—you’re not an option. Walk away from anyone who makes you feel otherwise. You deserve unwavering commitment.

19/04/2025

Assessing Whether You Ignore Red Flags

Ignoring red flags—whether your own or your partner’s—can perpetuate unhealthy patterns and prevent growth. Recognizing when you overlook warning signs is crucial for addressing underlying issues.

Step 1: Recognize Signs of Ignoring Red Flags
Reflect on whether you tend to dismiss or minimize problematic behaviors:
Do you make excuses? For example, “They’re just stressed” when your partner repeatedly lashes out.

Do you avoid confrontation? Staying silent about hurtful behaviors to keep the peace.

Do you downplay your own role? Ignoring how your actions (e.g., enabling or tolerating toxicity) contribute to the dynamic.

Do you fear change? Staying in an unhealthy situation because you’re afraid of being alone or starting over.

List one or two behaviors (yours or your partner’s) you’ve overlooked in the past. Write down why you ignored them and how it impacted the relationship.

Step 2: Understand Why You Ignore Red Flags
Ignoring red flags often stems from emotional or psychological factors:

Low self-worth: Believing you don’t deserve better or that you can “fix” your partner.

Fear of conflict: Avoiding tough conversations to maintain harmony.

Optimism bias: Hoping things will improve without addressing the root issues.

Attachment issues: Clinging to the relationship due to past abandonment fears.

Actionable Tip: Reflect on a time you ignored a red flag. Ask yourself, “What was I afraid of facing?” Journal your thoughts to uncover patterns.

Step 3: Address Ignored Red Flags Constructively

Once you recognize ignored red flags, take steps to address them:

Acknowledge the issue: Admit to yourself (and, if appropriate, your partner) that a behavior is problematic.

Set clear boundaries: Decide what you’re no longer willing to tolerate and communicate this calmly.

Seek support: Talk to a therapist, friend, or mentor to gain perspective on addressing the issue.

Evaluate the relationship: If red flags persist despite efforts to address them, consider whether the relationship is healthy.

Choose one ignored red flag to address this week. Have an honest conversation with your partner or set a personal boundaries

06/03/2025

Why allow someone who doesn't respect you access to your most intimate parts or to your body!

05/03/2025

Good morning

Thankful for this day!

Your life gets easy when you let go of control. Anxiety comes from wanting to control, what they're doing , the outcome and the future.

Let life unfold
Ready yourself with tools to manage yourself whatever hsppems6
Appreciate the present moment
Selfsoothe the anxiety
Be present in your interactions
Have a good day !

04/03/2025

Why would you allow someone who doesn't respect you in private or public access the most intimate parts of you or your body?

03/03/2025

Loving someone too much puts pressure on them. Excessive love often comes with expectations, even if they’re unspoken.