02/01/2022
Who else completely lost sight of their dreams and identity when becoming a parent? ๐โโ๏ธ
Becoming a mother was the biggest shift I have ever gone through in my identity, and I owe my daughter everything for allowing me to become her mother and evolve in this way.
Despite of this, I had phases of complete ego death. I often felt as if I was hidden behind this tiny innocent shadow.
Just 9 months before Indys birth we were travelling full time, living out of a backpack and never wearing shoes. Life had been spontaneous, albeit largely irresponsible. To be honest I hadn't really set goals before her birth, but we always had a destination we were heading to, a financial goal to hit to move on and travel more.
Yet suddenly I was sharing my body with my tiny future best friend and my whole world suddenly evolved around her comfort, peace and happiness. Most parents don't think twice about this, and I gladly gave, gave and gave, until I started to feel empty.
Six months passed after Indys birth and I had become a shell.
The transition from woman to mother is beautiful, but there is often a need to reclaim part of who you were before, a merge of both identities.
I realised the best thing I could do for her, was for me to remain happy, attentive, calm and at peace. I had to learn to invest in myself again. I had to learn to take care of myself so I could stay well for her.
I invested in my health and a business. I put time into writing my goals and determine what would make me feel joy again, what would make Indy feel joy in the future. I established long term hopes and dreams that incorporated all of us.
If you ever felt like I did, you're not alone.
The best thing you can ever do for your children is invest in them and yourself. You are your greatest asset and every ounce of time, money and energy you put in, you will receive tenfold.