Sylwia Pupek - Coach, Mentor

25/11/2024

We tend to celebrate things that are sublime, known to everyone, recognized by the community.

We do not usually celebrate those events that have happened and changed our lives extremely, which are either covered up by what others consider more important, or are hidden under our shame and guilt.

So we rarely celebrate the day when we first became a mum or dad.

The day when your whole life changed completely, because from that moment on, you could never again say that there was ONLY I, from that moment on, you were always „WE”.

And even less often, or not at all, we tend to celebrate moments that we see as our failures.

Moments that we called mistakes, life dramas, bad choices, traumatic experiences.

Not only we do not celebrate these moments, we do NOT want to REMEMBER them.
So we push them away, hide them from the world out of shame, guilt, and embarrassment.

November 25th is a very special day for me…

9 years ago, on this day, I spent my first night in a homeless hostel…
For the next few months, that day was a nightmare for me, a drama, a life trauma, the worst event that had ever happened to me.

For the next dozen or so months, this event was one big SHAME for me and the biggest failure of my life, where I lost my sense of dignity, face and my pride…

But with time, during my personal journey, I did understand how great blessing it was, how much it influenced my entire life and me.

Today I celebrate it not as a failure, marked by shame, but as a day of my success, when my biggest TRANSFORMATION started,
The beginning of my new life,
The BIRTH OF THE NEW ME.

Today I help people like me turn their failures into experiences so that they can grow from them and COMPLETELY CHANGE their lives.

Today I help others by showing them that what seems like a drama today is in reality just a hint to stop and change the direction of their life paths.

And today I guide those who have the courage and strength to say YES to themselves and start a new life in accordance with the desire of their hearts.

With love,
Sylwia Pupek

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14/11/2024

The LIGHT and The SHADOW in our HD charts
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Each Energy Center in your Human Design contains duality, a light side called the True Self and a dark side, called the SHADOW.

What is the light side of the undefined Emotional Center (Solar Plexus)?
It is a deep wisdom of “knowing” other people’s emotions, energy and vibration of the place where you enter in.

And what is the SHADOW side of this undefined Center?
It is the avoidance of truth and confrontation… Often at all costs, because the price, as it turns out, very often is life.

We may react to such behaviour with laughter or try to change it by „force” when we talking about little child’s behaviour,
But in a case of adults it looks completely different and often leads to misunderstanding, deepening conflicts, anger, violence, and to breakups.

This avoidance... It is so great that instead of relieving the tension between you, it makes the one of you, whose Emotional Center is defined, even more furious.

Meanwhile, what happens in the body of a person with an undefined Emotional Center is a real battle - physical pain that pierces the body through.

No one teaches us this and no one explains that we can be so different from each other.

We take many things personally, assuming that someone behaves in a certain way because:
…doesn’t love us enough, because if they loved us, they would want to explain the situation and make it up
…ignores our needs and emotions, because if he/she cared, they would sit down and listen to what we want to say
…maybe they’re cheating on us because “clearing” the situation isn’t important to them
…

It is time for our internal work, to meet with our little self who, terrified of possible punishment, acts for us.

With love,
Sylwia Pupek
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08/11/2024

“Oh… no! This is not where I wanted to be! Why does it always happen to me??”

If that’s one of your saying let me help you something what’s hidden under and discover why it all happened in your life…

Read carefully below:
In one of his lectures Neville Goddard said:

“If I am fully imagination, I must be where I am in imagination.”

But… Are we always where we want to be in ours imaginations?

What if we imagine that we won’t have enough money?
What if we imagine that we will lose someone? Or we will be abandoned?
What if we imagine that we will never get out of this hole we are in in our lives?
What if we imagine (ourselves) that we won’t get better?

What is imagination in those scenarios?

It’s our fear…., and before that fear are our thoughts and words we say to ourselves.

When I am afraid of something, I have to know (mind) what I am afraid of and then what it is that I am afraid of, how it tastes (body and emotions) in order to deny it and say that this is EXACTLY what I do not want.

BUT FIRST I NEED TO IMAGINE IT…
So precisely, until I feel it in my body…
Within my whole self.

Isn’t that how it works?

We are imagination, so we are exactly where our imagination is, where our thoughts and words and emotions are.

With love,
Sylwia Pupek

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07/11/2024

ADDICTION is a way to your father
It’s looking for that way

„Daddy, I prefer you.
If I could choose, I would choose you.”

When can a child NOT go to his father?

When the father is not present
When he’s absent because he works, e.g. abroad
When he’s absent because of he’s own addiction
When the mother thinks she is better than the father
When there is no place for masculinity in the family
When the mother takes over this role
When the father is excluded
After a divorce or separation
Or illness

When does a father have a place in the family?
When the mother respects him and when his masculinity is respected and whatever he brings with that masculinity
Regardless of what that masculinity is

Roles’ disorder in the family will always lead to strong consequences for children in their adult life.

How was it in your family?

Did your father have an equal place with the mother?
Have you been you to get (emotionally) to your father?

With love,
Sylwia Pupek

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30/10/2024

We can always wait for better and there’s always a chance for better.

But between this "better" and the "now" there is a small gap...

What we do and how we feel while we are in this gap determines whether "better" will come and what it will look like,
whether it will really be "better" or "the same" but stronger.

Every second of our lives our bodies vibrate with energy.
The Energy of blessing, joy, feeling loved or energy of frustration, anger, sadness, regret and complete breakdown.

We can only have more of what we vibrate.
Nothing else… Nothing less.

Simply more and stronger of what we already feel inside.

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With love,
Sylwia Pupek

Intuitive Therapy based on Human Design

I help women discover their true self so that they can start living in accordance with their destiny, achieving joy, fulfillment, happiness, success and freedom

28/10/2024

In our life we ​​only remember the moments...
The ones that were beautiful, full of joy and happiness
And the ones that were bad, terrifying.

Except, that we don’t want to remember the bad ones...

And as much as we don’t want to remember them,
They still come back in our memory.

What do we do whether come back?
We always have a choice…

We can push them away, again, or sit with them and ask,
Why is this memory coming back?
What can I do with it now?
What does it change in my day and well-being today?
How does it affect my day?
Is it something that needs my attention or something that my mind has summoned to sabotage myself in my daily schedule?

With love,
Sylwia Pupek

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09/10/2024

THE NEED TO BELONG TO A GROUP, TO BE LIKE OTHERS

This is a strong need carried over from our childhood.
A need that, when unmet at that time, makes us feeling unsafe, feeling abondend.

We have to belong to survive. There is a saying, that the strength is in a group, that the power is on the group.

The year 2027 will change everything...

From "WE" we will move to „I”

From power "in the herd" we will move to the power in „I”

What will this power be?
It will be equal to the feeling, the thoughts we have about ourselves.

All previous teachings connect people together.

Its say, you are like us, you belong to us, we are in THIS group together, all together, because being together is safe.

Human Design separates us in very specific way. How?

It teaches about individuality, differentiation.

It teaches that each of us is so unique that we do not belong to any groups.

What does the science of Human Design really do when we look at it much, much deeper?

It prepares us for a new earthly cycle, which we will enter in February 2027, when from this sense of community, belonging, from this "WE" we will enter a cycle names „I” - a very individual cycle of human life - Cycle carring the frequency of the Cross of the Sleeping Phoenix with Gates 55, 59, 20, and 34.

And tfeeling within us, this "I" has to be right for us, and we have to feel good, and we have to feel safe with it.

The science of Human Design prepares not only us - adults, but above all it, it prepares our children so that they can feel GOOD about their individuality, with themselves, in themselves,
And not by belonging to any group, because any community groups will stop existing.

What does it mean that groups will no longer exist?

Ask yourself,
How many groups do you belong to now?
What do they give you?
What feelings?
Do you feel inside them „not alone”?
Do you feel there like many, like everyone?

When you look closely, you will see that our entire world is divided into such groups.

Human Design shows the way to feel unconditional love. But not love in the name of community, but self - love, the love for being so different, so unique, so unlike another.

With love,
Sylwia Pupek

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05/10/2024

All those who reject us in adult life belong to a certain movement, the movement of the Spirit.

When we stop at this feeling of rejection, and instead of the guilt seen in the other person, we allow ourselves to feel what this rejection tells us, what it reminds us of, we will reach the source of rejection.
To the moment when we felt it for the first time.
And then the true healing starts in us.

Everything in our adult life is just a repetition…
A repetition of something from our past or something we have taken over.

With love,
Sylwia Pupek

04/10/2024

I learned something in my childhood,
I learned that in order not to be punished, I have to be in a state where no one will want to punish me.

What state is this?

As a child, I only had influence over my health and availability.

I knew that if I was sick or feel unwell, I’ll be protected from any abuse.

As an adult, I had to expand this mechanism. A simple stomach ache or a cold wasn’t enough….

When does a person avoid punishment?

When does the oppressor give up on bullying, harassing, intruding?
When does he give up?

When our state indicates it.
And it can only indicate it when it arouses pity.

Can you see how strong it is…?

Protective mechanisms created in childhood and transferred to adult life.

With love,
Sylwia Pupek

04/10/2024

How it change in us,
The knowing, that the other person is very sick?

How many of us begin to look at him differently?

And how many of us are able to forget about what was bad between us, let go, help, support...?

How many of us suddenly are able to forgive?

…Even if we previously felt angry, hated this person…
…Even if we complained, felt resentment or jealousy towards that person…
Even if the last thing we wanted to do, when she was healthy, was having with her a coffee…

"You should have said you had a cancer. That would have changed everything. I would have helped you and stopped arguing with you about every little thing. You should have said you had a cancer..."

How much does such awareness change?

The feeling that someone is on the verge of death...

When illness becomes a compensation and when it becomes punishment, others suddenly change their attitude towards those of us who are dying.... (Most of the time conditionally, only if they die - that's another layer).

It is very clear who had the most resentment towards the sick person, who, perhaps unconsciously, wished him, her bad and wanted compensation. We can see that in those specific situaltion….

And that’s how I leave that.

With love,
Sylwia Pupek

P.S.
In some of you this post may have stirred something, opened something and triggered something. What was it?
If you feel, leave a comment.

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28/09/2024

Illusion

The illusion we live in
The one we want to believe in
Hoping that it’s true
…Because the real truth is too painful

We pretend that our marriage is not as bad as it sometimes seems to be,
… because others have worse,
…and
…maybe he will change someday

We pretend that our health, maybe not the best, but we don't want to see it truly or what led to this state

Our bodies…. We prefer to pretend, to avoid looking at them, to look away, to avoid the mirrors when we are naked

Illusion allows us to not feel the pain
It allows us to believe in a lie
It allows us to avoid seeing the truth

It allows us not to change anything

We believe that our children are happy,
Even though the situation they are in is extremely difficult

As long as we live in the illusion
We don't have to change anything

And we don't have to feel what is uncomfortable and painful
..it's easier that way
At least for a while...

Have a good Saturday,
With love,
Sylwia Pupek

01/09/2024

To understand why our lives have become what they have become, why we are where we are, why certain things happen, we need to ask ourselves the right questions.

Questions so profound that they begins to lead us to the right answer.

And then the process will begin…
Process of getting out from being unconscious victim.

„Before the event happened, there was a thought.
A thought strong and deep enough to start the energy loop process.”

With love,
Sylwia Pupek

30/08/2024

We seek healing our past in Quantum Energies
Being in high vibrations
Believing that meditations will fix everything

That somehow our DNA will magically change,
The subconscious trauma will disappear,

And one day we will simply wake up as SOMEONE DIFFERENT. And it will stay FOREVER…

Who do we want to be afterwards?

Someone who doesn’t suffer
Someone who doesn’t feel negative emotions
Someone who doesn’t yell at his kids when they drive him crazy
Someone who is always in calm
Someone who is always happy
Someone who doesn’t have money problems
Someone who doesn’t experience collapses and problems

Just someone else.

Why?
Because being who we are snd experience what we’e been through is so painful, so tough, that it is easier to escape than to be with it and let just feel.

Spirituality…
Family constellation…
Healing Family Trauma…
The World of Energy…
The Complexity of the Human Mind…

This all
It is wonderful and magical

But only if it isn’t an escape from seeing our true self.

With love,
Sylwia Pupek

The Mentor, Intuitive Therapist working througout Human Design

29/08/2024

Why do people choose SPIRITUALITY?

Because it is easier to be up there than to experience life on Earth.

Why do they choose to heal the family line?
Because it is easier to look into someone else's pot than into your own. There you find a great explanation of why your live is so miserable, painful or full of problems.
However, this does won’t provide any solution, except a feeling of: "Aha... That's why... Uhmmm... Now I understand."
…and it's easier to have someone to blame.

Why do they choose to work with their minds?
Because they believe they have control over it and can change it… (This is one of the biggest lies…)

They also believe that they have enough willpower to implement this change - such a believe is true ONLY!!! For those with a defined Will Center (EGO) in Human Design. For the rest, about 70%! of people in the world, it is an illusion, an illusion so great that only when we begin to understand ourselves, we see what a lie we have been living in.

Why do people choose to work with past lives?
Hmm… that’s always interesting to me to observe…
Maybe for fun, maybe for entertainment, maybe out of boredom.

Or maybe because they hope that healing their past lives will allow them to magically snap and make an instant change in their present life.

There are so many, so many directions.

How to choose the right one for you?
Which one will lead you to the desired life

The one that you choose not out of fear
The one that you choose not out of escape

…because our life here on Earth already has certain trajectory and challenges that we have to face.

All we need to do is face what is inside us, what we try so hard to avoid, what we fear the most… Our true Self

With love,

Sylwia Pupek
Mentor
Intuitive Therapist working on the Human Design canvas

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28/08/2024

Our lives…
Dictated by circumstances
By the people we surround ourselves with
By the traumas we have been through

All of this creates our non-self

But who you really arę?
Do you know the answer?

Your True Self is hidden
Beneath all the layers you hide under to avoid another trauma

It is hidden under all the masks you decided to put on to not be hurt again

It is hidden under the construct YOU,
Under your shadow

Deep, deep inside

Are you ready to know who you truly are?
Are you ready to start living authentic life?
Are you ready to take a HUGE LEAP?

This is the moment when you make a decision.

I am ready to guide you...
The rest is on your side.

With love,
Sylwa Pupek - TheMentor

27/08/2024

Who we truly are?

Throughout passing days
Throughout meeting others

Our roles
The ones we choosen
Or the ones have been chosen for us

When we are not aware
We jumpe into them
Thinking that that’s who we truly are

And after a while
When we get out from others energies
We wonder
What has happened a while ago

Why did we said certain things
Why did we behave in some way
Why others treated us differently than we wanted to be

The roles
The ones we choosen to be
And the ones have been chosen for us

To feel loved
To feel protected
To be accepted
To have a place

To love us
To be with us
To accept us
For what we are not

But it’s not who we are

We don’t need all of that

And it is so obvious and so clear
When we give ourselves a little of awareness
A little time to look inside

To feel ourselves
To ask…

Who am I

Who I was
Who I became

And why…

With love,
Sylwia Pupek

The Mentor
Human Design Therapist

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25/02/2024

When does our sexuality and identity as a woman arise?

It does not arise during our puberty or later.

It begins to develop around the age of 3, when as children we were curious about the differences between our bodies as girls and those of boys.

It was then, depending on the openness and emotional development of our parents and guardians, that our sexuality could either develop and we could discover what it means to be a girl and what kind of girl we are specifically,
or,
If our loved ones carried strong signs of toxic shame, our sexuality has been blocked, suppressed, harmed or deformed.

If you experienced the second, the seeds of toxic shame began to sprout in you, the shame of being a woman, the shame of having l***a, a va**na, buttocks, breasts, hips and everything that defined femininity, that distinguished you first from boys and then from men.

…Everything that really attracted them became a sign of toxic shame.

You were ashamed not only of your body and the fact that it was feminine, but also of what were symbols of femininity, of monthly bleeding, of days when you felt overwhelmed and needed alone time, of moments of sadness when emotions informed you that it was time to embrace yourself, but also your inner wildness, the desire for freedom, dance, fun, joy….

Toxic shame developed when someone close to you scolded you as a little girl for being too interested in your body, for asking uncomfortable questions, for touching your private parts...

What was your natural instinct and stage of development has been blocked and covered with taboo topics.

How could you be yourself today in all this when you were robbed of your sense of identity at such a young age?

Your identity as a woman is your Sexuality and your sense of who you are and how you want to live your life.

Fele it stroniły insider your body…
It knows…
It remembers…

With love,
Sylwia Pupek