Kate Curtis - The Carers Coach

07/03/2025

I’m so excited to share with you my bigger vision.
Eves Pathway. A community interest company, non profit to support families on their dementia journey.
It’s going to be a challenge for sure but I’m excited to see where it goes!
I hate to ask for money at such a difficult time for many, but these much needed funds will help me to get started with some community and online projects and services which will in turn provide evidence for future funding. Thank you.

Also if you think you could contribute to Eves Pathway in some way, do get in touch x

04/03/2025

Firstly I acknowledge that its real and that it needs to be managed.

I make sure that I’m putting things in place for me that keep me calm.

They’re not very big, mind blowing things. I don’t have the time for long meditation sessions or the focus for mindfulness right now. I do what I know makes the difference for ME.

I’m taking about things like:
Having clean bed sheets and a made bed to climb into at night.
A playlist on my phone that helps me to chill out and one that is full of songs that I used to sing with Mum.
Keeping an eye on my nutrition - it’s far too easy to eat convenience junk that leaves me feeling tired.
Having very little alcohol.
Communicating my needs and my feelings to those around me.
Walking the dog and listening to podcasts that support my future dreams and keep me looking forward.

They’re are small steps every day that help to keep calm and in control.
They’re are basically the things that stop me losing my s*** and ending up crying in my bed at night.

Whenever I visit Mum in her home, I still give my self my imaginary protective cloak that I’ve used since she was diagnosed. This is an absolute essential for me.
A few deep breaths and the image of that cloak coming over me.
Then I’m ready for whatever I may face - because as all carers and loved ones know - you have to be ready for anything!

what do you need at a base level to keep you calm and in control?
Xx

❤️

04/03/2025

I see you.
The way you put everyone else first.
The sacrifices no one acknowledges. The exhaustion that no one asks about.

Caring is isolating. It feels like the world just carries on while you hold everything together in the background. But you are not invisible.

What you do matters.

If no one has said it today, thank you.

You deserve to be seen, supported, and valued.

Drop a ❤️ in the comments if this resonates. You are not alone.

04/03/2025

Feeling unseen or unheard doesn’t mean your emotions aren’t real.

Caring for someone you love is an emotional rollercoaster.

Grief, frustration, exhaustion, and love all tangled together.

But when no one truly gets it, it can feel like you’re carrying the weight of it all alone.

Just because others don’t fully understand doesn’t mean your feelings aren’t valid.
They are.
And you don’t have to bottle them up.

You deserve space to process, to be heard, and to be supported.

❤️ If this resonates, know that you’re not alone. I see you.
Let’s talk in the comments or book a free call with me from the link in my bio.

16/02/2025

I wish I had heard this at the beginning of my caregiving journey.

16/02/2025

I sat there sobbing to my boss. "I just can't see how I can do all of this anymore"

I remember this day so well. It was that first acknowledgement out loud that something had to change.

I had already changed from my full-time role as an employment coach to a part-time one as a trainer, yet still I was struggling.

Aside from work, I was a carer for my parents, I was married, raising my children and managing a household. I didn’t have time for anything else in my life.

I was exhausted. Completely burnt out and frustrated by the lack of time and flexibility in my life. I was resentful of having to go to work when I was so needed elsewhere.

I felt that no one knew or understood the pressure that I was under.

It wasn’t long after that conversation that my GP signed me off of work with stress.
I used the time to get back to a normal routine at home and for once I started to feel a bit more in control of my days.
But I needed money.

I resigned two months later, deciding that I was going to take a leap of faith and start a business.
We signed up to universal credit on a Joint claim, me as a self-employed person, but with the carers element and my husband as employed. My Mum gave me her attendance allowance.
We don’t get a great deal from these sources, but they help.

I got clear on what it was I wanted to do but also what I could do! I looked at all my previous experience and knowledge and packaged it up. That’s how the Carers Coach was born.

I have been through the transitions, the challenges and the struggles but I also have a coaching qualification and previous business experience.

This all puts me in the perfect situation to help other carers find the flexibility that they yearn for in their caring role.
It also allows me to support them to make their own income, to have choices and freedom.

Sound interesting? Find out more about how I could help you here: linktr.ee/_katecurtis_

16/02/2025

So delighted to be asked to contribute to this report. Scroll down to see more about my story.

FORGET the midlife crisis, women today are caught in a collision of roles, from mother and daughter, to carer and employee. And they’re buckling under the strain… Driving her car out of her mother’…

12/02/2025

Mum and I feature in Business Insider today. So wonderfully written.

Kate Curtis' mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's when she was 71. To take care of her mom and her kids, she had to quit her job.

14/01/2025

Too often I have woken up already exhausted! I struggle to feel fully rested.
kids, parents, work, and chores all swirling in my mind.

Sometimes, taking a deep breath feels like the biggest luxury.

If you're feeling overwhelmed, give yourself permission to pause. A few slow inhales can ground you when everything else spins out of control. It's a small act of kindness you can offer yourself right now.

👉 Hit 'Like' if you've ever felt buried under your to-do list. How do you find calm in the chaos?

08/01/2025

When you're a busy Mum, working and looking after the family it's exhausting!

But when you add being an unpaid carer into the mix - wow wee - that's another level! That exhaustion is in your bones! It becomes a permanent state of being and its physical.

You feel it everywhere because youre constantly thinking about someone else and their needs. Considering what's next to be done on your never-ending list!

Sometimes, taking a deep breath feels like the biggest luxury. Bit MUST be done.

If you're feeling overwhelmed, give yourself permission to pause. A few slow inhales can ground you when everything else spins out of control. It's a small act of kindness you can offer yourself.

Try it right now. If you're reading this post you must have a minute spare.
Put your phone down, sit, relax your shoulders down, close your eyes...deep breaths in and out. Just for one minute.

How did that feel?

It took one minute - that's all. you can do this anytime you need xx

07/01/2025

✨ Have you ever looked in the mirror and wondered, ‘Where did my old self go?'

💥 HERE IS AN IMPORTANT REMINDER FOR YOU!
We’re allowed to be more than carers; we’re still the people we’ve always been, just with bigger hearts and busier schedules!!

This has happened to me a lot over the last couple of years.
I became so used to the feelings of concern, worry and overwhelm being my default setting that it totally overshadowed other parts of me and I forgot what it was that I actually liked or wanted in my own life I even lost my sense of humour at times and became a bit "spicy" as the Husband bravely told me! 🌶️

I’m starting to reintroduce parts of me I thought were lost but it's not as easy as I thought. I still need to remember what life was like before and what I actually want for MY OWN LIFE.

What have you put to one side that you need to rediscover in your life?!





I'm enjoying my dog walks at the moment they give me space to think and just to be on my own for a bit which I haven't had for ages!

07/01/2025

Do you like my new banner?! Pretty snazzy, huh?
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16/09/2024

Regret is far too heavy a weight to carry around with you in life. Who wants to look back on their life and wonder what could have been, if only...
Do you need to start to rewrite your story so that you don't look back on a life of regrets?

So you're in the middle of a really challenging situation in your life? I hear you, I get it.

But, you are responsible for your life choices. You are the only person that you can rely on to give you the life that you crave and deserve.
Start today. Rewrite your future by taking a leap forward and moving one step closer to personal fulfilment, to living the life you are meant to, without regrets.

What do you want to achieve in life and what will you do today to step further towards it?

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15/09/2024

What are you doing each day that is helping you become future you?

I set aside time each day to read, just a few pages but I made it a non negotiable.
I watch Youtube videos when i’m cooking or washing up and I listen to podcasts when I’m doing the housework, walking the dog or driving.

What can you add to your week to enhance your personal growth?

14/09/2024

12/09/2024

Always remember the impact you can have.

It's easy to get swallowed up in the day-to-day and the business of life. But youre also here for something more, something that allows you to be authentically you, for your true talents and knowledge to shine.

Where are you making an impact?







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11/09/2024

Yes - of course it's a myth! Why else are we all too easily getting stressed out and overwhelmed?!

I tried for ages to get this "balance" but what does that even mean?
Who gets to decide what is balanced and what isn't? It's your life right, so whos idea of balance are we chasing?
That's when I realised that work-life balance is indeed a myth and set about finding my own strategies instead to manage my time better so that I felt calmer and in more control of my time and my life.
Instead design a life that works for you! Want to spend all day with your family on a Saturday but work on a Sunday morning - do it!
Want to take out your parents for lunch every third Friday instead of the housework - do it.
Design it all in a way that works for you and that makes you happy and fulfilled.