14/05/2024
Be Yoga | Be Love | BeYou
Sharing this post from half a decade ago…
It feels like yesterday 🥹
One reason because time is moving very quickly 🫥
But also the values & principles we hold at Anavrin still flow from the same place: Love.
Corny? 😅 hear me out.
It’s MHA week. And for the most part most of us struggle because we lack the connection to the small four letter word carrying a behemoth amount of meaning.
It doesn’t haven’t to be romanticals, we may have the wrong relationships we call friendships, we may not love our job, something about ourselves.
All of these and more can be improved. With Love. Self Love that is.
Our programming to only feel validated by being wanted, desired by another is cruel and unacceptable.
We do not feel beautiful if another rejects us based upon their programming. Of course we should feel aversion to people. That my friends is nature, biological anthropology. The circle of life of attracting a mate to populate the Earth.
If we lived in another part of the world from this westernised bombardment of how to look perfect, even now, how to have the most perfect menopausal journey 😤 in the name of commercialisation, we would love our big 🍑.
It’s all about Being You.
It’s tough. I know this. And believe me when I say this confidence has been hard won and I wouldn’t wish how I found my roots in self love on anyone.
However, we are all afforded lessons to break free, unfortunately we have been reverse engineered to see these times as reasons to believe me are not worthy of the love we give away, there is something wrong with us that’s why we don’t fit in, look good enough. People pleasing becomes a base line to be accepted only to make us feel worse because deep down we know it’s being fake wanted.
I haven’t watched the news, tv especially with adverts for a loooooong time. The agenda driven method to influence how you feel is very clever. From charities with footage to break your soul over breakfast when you’re most suggestible when setting the tone for the day ahead to selling credit cards right after ‘LOOK AT THE AMAZING HOLIDAY YOU’RE NOT ON’ ad to get this pre packed 250calorie meal delivered to you door right before models selling ♥️ on a perfume ad or clothes designed to suit a body type only available in a catalogue you can access at your fingertips tips and pay off over the next 3 years.
Once you see the pattern you can’t unsee it.
🌸 Detox your viewing:
Newsfeed, tv viewing, where you spend your time
🌸 Trust how you feel:
January is the worst time to begin a new exercise regime, feel good programme, start that stuff in May/June and carry it through the winter.
🌸 Who are you?
Get to know you, a best friend. Speak to yourself as you would someone you love Find the self lov. It’s not corny. It’s essential. Reset those programmed parameters and set flexible ones to evolve as you do.
Our mental health is our most precious commodity. When this is in order the rest falls into place. So as much as you’ll hear about this week, told to ‘Bet or drink sensibly’ it’s all just there so you feel like a sack of 💩 without even realising it.
Being body positive doesn’t mean you have to love all your curves or be told you’re super lucky you’re ‘skinny’. How we feel about how we look is a very personal journey manipulated by the external world.
I am 13st 7.
I love my body the same as I do at 8stone. I laugh, sing and dance the same. I have fabulous b👀bies, bouncy 🍑 and a love of life.
Why?
Because I’m thankful. I stay away from the advertisements, I don’t care how anyone else look, I don’t want to fit in.
Don’t do anything because I say it’s good for me. Voices out there will call out it’s unhealthy to actively put on weight, to promote who I am. They will regurgitate knowledge, facts through their lens of existence but ultimately I don’t give an ounce of f👅ck for any of it.
That’s an awesome sauce mindset too 😘
I choose to feel good over battling what is only the words of others inside your head when you allow yourself to negatively judge your soul.
Is this easy?
Well it wasn’t. I used to hate myself. Yes hate.
Felt unloved, unwanted…I was unaware.
Unaware none of this mattered and as long as I strived to be what was acceptable I would remain unaccepted.
Unaccepted by myself, the only one who actually decides what to love and be loved means.
I accept myself. I’m not always kind to myself but now I will have a ‘management meeting’ to discuss grievances and get proactive instead of reactive.
The past 4 years to note up to today:
-Motherhood
-Being a wife
-Grief
-Loss
-Restarting in business
-Menopause
-Break down & Build back up
-Physical & emotional changes
I’ve never hidden anything from the light. I’m a real person.
I share with you so you can hopefully find a way to love yourself too. My faith & yoga are my healers. Yogasana simply restorative, meditation, scripture - yin and calm. I’ve tended most to my mental health: Ahimsa, Santosha.
In keeping with going where I flow, I’m beginning to change once again. Not all my ducks are in a row, but they are enough that I can start opening my mind once again to focusing on more than just being in this self preservation space.
I’m trusting the journey with moving back into a more constructive Ayurvedic lifestyle, my yogasana actively venturing back to my natural state of Yang, vinyasa. I’m still working on the wanting to be outside, the anxiety is still very powerful but here I am taking it step by step.
I’ve tried taking the step forward into now a few times but to no avail, but this time the urge is strong, definitely the best way to evolve instead of trying to live by a plan of expectation.
Will I lose weight?
Of course, I’m moving more, eating as per my faith & yoga.
Life isn’t about living perfectly, it’s about living your best life…
And that will look different in every day.
Some days it could be 12 mile hikes others it’s staying in bed.
As long as you’re kind to you, that’s all the body positivity you’ll ever need.
Be kind to you.
Do me ( and you) a teenie tiny favour?
Observe for a week or so what you see and hear from tv, media. Look for silent the conversations being had between you and the ads, the narratives. Let that lightbulb 💡 moment happen.
Never fall folly to the nonsense again.
You are the CEO of you.
Start with small changes, Love Big
♥️ YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL & ALWAYS WORTHY.
xoxo
Mental health Awareness week 💗
Build your own sense of self. Don't be someone else. Be you 🙏 You see it so often these days. People unable to be themselves. Either through self doubt, feel they're not enough, insecurity based on fear of failure. Striving for what you think is beautiful is a losing game. Your unique and wonderful self is what the world needs. No one is you and that is your power. Believe 💛
When people try to bring you down...Rise 🧡
Beautiful - Christina Aguilera
Don't look at me
Everyday is so wonderful
Then suddenly
It's hard to breathe
Now and then I get insecure
From all the pain
I'm so ashamed
I am beautiful
No matter what they say
Words can't bring me down
I am beautiful
In every single way
Yes words can't bring me down
Oh no
So don't you bring me down today
To all your friends you're delirious
So consumed
In all your doom, ooh
Trying hard to fill the emptiness
The pieces gone
Left the puzzle undone
Ain't that the way it is
You are beautiful
No matter what they say
Words can't bring you down
Oh no
You sre beautiful
In every single way
Yes words can't bring you down
Oh no
So don't you bring me down today
No matter what we do (no matter what we do)
No matter what we say (no matter what we say)
We're the song inside the tune (yeah, oh yeah)
Full of beautiful mistakes
And everywhere we go (and everywhere we go)
The sun will always shine (the sun will always, always, shine)
And tomorrow we might awake
On the other side
'Cause we are beautiful
No matter what they say
Yes words won't bring us down
Oh no
We are beautiful
In every single way
Yes words can't bring us down
Oh no
So don't you bring me down today
Oh, oh oh
Don't you bring me down today, yeah
Don't you bring me down, ooh
Today
Mental health Awareness week 💗
Build your own sense of self. Don't be someone else. Be you 🙏 You see it so often these days. People unable to be themselves. Either through self doubt, feel they're not enough, insecurity based on fear of failure. Striving for what you think is beautiful is a losing game. Your unique and wonderful self is what the world needs. No one is you and that is your power. Believe 💛
When people try to bring you down...Rise 🧡
Beautiful - Christina Aguilera
Don't look at me
Everyday is so wonderful
Then suddenly
It's hard to breathe
Now and then I get insecure
From all the pain
I'm so ashamed
I am beautiful
No matter what they say
Words can't bring me down
I am beautiful
In every single way
Yes words can't bring me down
Oh no
So don't you bring me down today
To all your friends you're delirious
So consumed
In all your doom, ooh
Trying hard to fill the emptiness
The pieces gone
Left the puzzle undone
Ain't that the way it is
You are beautiful
No matter what they say
Words can't bring you down
Oh no
You sre beautiful
In every single way
Yes words can't bring you down
Oh no
So don't you bring me down today
No matter what we do (no matter what we do)
No matter what we say (no matter what we say)
We're the song inside the tune (yeah, oh yeah)
Full of beautiful mistakes
And everywhere we go (and everywhere we go)
The sun will always shine (the sun will always, always, shine)
And tomorrow we might awake
On the other side
'Cause we are beautiful
No matter what they say
Yes words won't bring us down
Oh no
We are beautiful
In every single way
Yes words can't bring us down
Oh no
So don't you bring me down today
Oh, oh oh
Don't you bring me down today, yeah
Don't you bring me down, ooh
Today