28/07/2025
She’s not toxic… you made her this way. And now you sit back and call her “crazy”… but the truth is, her actions are just a reflection of everything you did. The distrust, the insecurity, the overthinking, the guarded walls.....it didn’t come out of nowhere. It’s the product of the games you played, the lies you told, the promises you broke, the times you made her question her own reality.
You want to call her toxic? But let’s be honest....before she met you, she wasn’t like this. She was soft. Open. Loving. Trusting. Willing to give you the benefit of the doubt, willing to believe in your words, willing to build a future with you. She handed you her heart without hesitation… and you mishandled it. You took advantage of her kindness, her loyalty, her patience. And slowly, you chipped away at her peace.
Now she checks your phone. Now she asks questions she never used to ask. Now she’s distant, guarded, suspicious. Now she doesn’t believe your explanations at face value. And instead of seeing the role you played in breaking her trust, you call her “insecure.” Instead of acknowledging how your actions changed her, you label her “dramatic.”
But the truth is… she didn’t wake up one day and decide to be difficult. She didn’t want to be this version of herself. She didn’t choose to harden her heart or doubt your words. She became this way trying to survive the love you gave her. She became this way because she had to protect herself from the pain you kept causing.
She’s not toxic… she’s reactive. And her reactions are tied directly to your behavior. Every time you lied, she learned not to trust so easily. Every time you hid something, she learned to look harder. Every time you invalidated her feelings, she learned to stop opening up. You taught her not to trust you. You taught her not to feel safe with you. You taught her not to believe in the love you claimed to give.
And now you sit there, frustrated, blaming her for the chaos in the relationship, when in reality—you planted the seeds. You watered them. You let them grow. And now that the consequences are blooming, you’re shocked at what’s been created.
Take a look at yourself. Before you point fingers, before you call her “crazy” or “toxic,” ask yourself:
—Did I create a safe space for her to trust me?
—Did I give her reasons to doubt me?
—Did I stay consistent with my words and actions?
—Did I make her feel like a priority… or just an option?
You don’t get to mistreat a woman and then label her as difficult because she no longer tolerates the bare minimum. You don’t get to gaslight her into thinking she’s the problem when she’s simply reacting to the pain you caused.
She’s not toxic. She’s not crazy. She’s not overreacting.
She’s tired. She’s hurt. She’s disappointed. She’s trying to hold onto a love that keeps slipping through her hands while pretending it doesn’t break her every time.
And eventually? She won’t be reactive anymore. She won’t be emotional anymore. She won’t be questioning anymore.
She’ll be gone.
Because a woman can only fight for something that keeps wounding her for so long before she realizes she deserves peace. And once she chooses peace over chaos, once she chooses herself over the version of her she became to survive you…
you’ll realize she wasn’t toxic.
She was just a woman trying to love a man who didn’t know how to love her back. ❤️
