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As an example of someone who has mega fun playing golf, and plays the game very, very well, check out my profile of Maze...
26/08/2024

As an example of someone who has mega fun playing golf, and plays the game very, very well, check out my profile of Mazen Kasiss ... he'll hit driver and putt w it on par 3s, goes for every par -five ... all in the name of fun and seeing if he can pull them off.

Who knew golf could be ... fun?

Howard and I also talked about him on Swing Thoughts.

Taking another whack at the question: Can golf actually be ... fun?

I had a chance to guest on this fine man's podcast. If you're a golf nerd, have a listen! (I know, the pictures about 15...
23/08/2024

I had a chance to guest on this fine man's podcast. If you're a golf nerd, have a listen! (I know, the pictures about 15 years old!)

In this episode, Karl Morris invites Howard, a seasoned radio host, comedian, and avid golfer, to discuss the intricacies of the mental side of golf. Are

Hmm, what some people will do for entertainment. I wonder what kind of crowds they got at the main library in Guelph ear...
14/08/2024

Hmm, what some people will do for entertainment. I wonder what kind of crowds they got at the main library in Guelph earlier this month to watch a snake eat some mice? It spurs questions: Did the kids cheer or cry? Did the mice lobby picket the event? Is this a modern day replacement for watching someone get their head lopped off?

It wasn't fashionable in 1978 when M. Scott Peck wrote about it, and it's not fashionable now. In the Road Less Traveled...
05/08/2024

It wasn't fashionable in 1978 when M. Scott Peck wrote about it, and it's not fashionable now. In the Road Less Traveled, Peck said that improving at anything requires discipline. In my latest blog on toconnor.substack.com, I explore this as the key to improving your golf—or at anything. I Invite you to check it out.

https://toconnor.substack.com/p/the-zen-of-staying-with-itpart-ii

The Road Less Traveled is still a great route to take

02/08/2024

You want to know why it takes a long time to go from writing a book to publishing it? You miss things that later appear painfully obvious. Such as the sentence I wrote in today's post re listening:

"I mentioned I've been married 39 years to this young fellow who is engaged."

Ah, no. I have NOT been married 39 years to this young fellow.

I recast it as: I mentioned to this young fellow that I've been married 39 years.

I probably read that original line about four or five times before posting it. And hours later, I read it again and ... really? Time to edit!

BTW, I almost finished the proofing process for My Getting Unstuck: Seven Transformational Practices for Golf Nerds.

29/07/2024

Here’s Update #1,692 on my upcoming book Getting Unstuck: Seven Transformational Practices for Golf Nerds. With the designer--Kim Monteforte Book Design and Self-Publishing Services--we're deep in the proofing process of Draft #2 of the designed inside text.

Proofing seems like a never-ending process of sleuthing, searching, questioning, discovering, checking, confirming, and noticing, and that’s just getting started. Just when you think you've found everything ... there's more. It's also very easy to just read rather than proof, which requires maintaining an extremely high sense of awareness.

This book stuff is slow stuff. You can't rush it. I’m now leaning toward a September release. I'll keep you posted.

16/07/2024

Hi folks. I'm being told by some Facebook friends that they're getting invitations from me. Ignore! I've been hacked, compromised, or whatever it's called. Hell, if you're already a friend, why would I send you an invite? This stuff drives me batty

Gee, you think you know a guy after doing nine years of podcasts together ... It was my privilege to write a profile on ...
19/06/2024

Gee, you think you know a guy after doing nine years of podcasts together ... It was my privilege to write a profile on my friend and SSwing Thoughtspodcast partner, "Humble" Howard Glassman. I learned some cool stuff about an amazing person.

By Tim O’Connor Note: I have co-hosted the Swing Thoughts podcast with “Humble” Howard Glassman since 2016, creating more than 250 episodes.Howard Glassman (left) and Tim O'ConnorMost people wouldn’t claim such an exalted space, but Humble Howard is not most people.Besides, no one else reali...

18/06/2024

With Father's Day behind us, I thought it time to share some bittersweet thoughts on the subject of fathers in a blog on toconnor.substack.com.

In coaching and through men's work with The Mankind Project of Ontario, sadly, I've encountered many men who have strained relationships with their fathers. They didn't want what their fathers were pushing.

Instead, I believe most men want one thing from their fathers:

To be loved.

To be loved unconditionally: to know without question that whatever happens, whether you finish first or last, you are loved.

To be loved compassionately: just for being who you are, including your flaws, mistakes, poor performances, dropped balls, missed passes, failed exams, flubbed putts.

To be loved fiercely: to be held to account, to consider your impact on others, to erect and respect boundaries, to live within structure, and how to be healthy in mind, body and spirit.

To be loved empathetically: to be fully witnessed, heard, seen, and acknowledged.

To be loved wisely: to be directed, protected, and guided not with thoughts of reflected glory, but with respect for your authentic path and desires.

To read the full piece, visit toconnor.substack.com.

Let the bells ring and banners fly ... I sent my book Getting Unstuck: Seven Transformational Practices For Golf Nerds t...
07/05/2024

Let the bells ring and banners fly ... I sent my book Getting Unstuck: Seven Transformational Practices For Golf Nerds to the formatter Monday. I'll keep you updated.

Last week, I realized the book doesn't have six practices. There's seven! DOH! I'm channeling my inner Alfred E. Neuman to remind myself that I'm not a complete ditz.

You can read a book excerpt on my toconnor.substack.com that looks at Scottie Scheffler's dedication to family and faith ... and recalls an interview I did with the late Bruce Lietzke ... who exemplified the wonderful attitude of 'What? Me Worry?'

Some thoughts on why Brad Marchand, Bryson DeChambeau and Phil Mickelson annoy us—well, me in particular—so much: If It’...
27/04/2024

Some thoughts on why Brad Marchand, Bryson DeChambeau and Phil Mickelson annoy us—well, me in particular—so much:

If It’s not the nicest phrase, but most of us have a list of folks we love to hate.

If you’re a Toronto Maple Leafs fan, enemy No. 1 right now is Brad Marchand, an elite player and pest, although every Leaf fan knows if you had a team of them, you’d win every year. I don’t think anyone really hates Marchand; they just find him annoying.

The list of folks who get up my nose includes Flea (bass player for Red Hot Chili Peppers), Aaron Rogers, Pierre Poilievre and Justin Trudeau in equal measure, and Bryson DeChambeau. Donald Trump doesn’t annoy me. He scares the crap out of me.

To read more, I invite you to go to toconnor.substack.com

25/04/2024

The Continuing Trials of Writing a Book Update: Instead of laying awake at 1230 am Wednesday editing my book in my head, I got up and edited from 1230-330. Instead of laying awake at 130 this morning, I scribbled about half-a-dozen ways to make the first few chapters work better until going to back to bed undecided and exhausted. In the words of Stephen King, I think the 'boys in the basement' kept working while I slept. This morning, one way just seemed the right one and the words flowed and—bonus—with clarity. Good work boys!

22/04/2024

This writing a book thing is hard. The experts say all you have to do is sit down and type. But ... I read what other writers have written about writing, and wonder if that's really it. Annie Dillard says she secluded herself in a cold cabin about the size of an outhouse to write a book. Stephen Pressfield said he wrote advertising copy for about 10 years so he could write a book(s). Wayne Dyer wrote that he got up at 330 every day and wrote a book in long hand. I pressing forward with my Getting Unstuck book despite feeling--just about every day--that I'm not writing enough, well enough, and I'm not good enough. I guess there's only one thing to do: sit down and type stuff.

16/04/2024

I believe Scottie Scheffler is a great model: a family-first guy, his faith is his foundation, he's never too high or too low ... and his do-it-his-way swing ... He shows that you don't need to swing 'the' way--do it your way! (Those dancing feet!) ... Trust and learn from ur own experience! .... Howard and I discussed on the upcoming #254 episode of SSwing Thoughts

27/03/2024

I have once again proved the rule that applies to home renovations and big projects—such as writing a books. Take whatever time you think it will take and triple it.

About seven weeks ago, I realized I wouldn’t have my Quiet Mind Golf book ready for publication this spring. It also occurred to me that the last chapter was very, very long.

Then I had a brilliant idea like in cartoons when a lightbulb appears over someone’s head: Put the last chapter out as a stand-alone book on Amazon. I met my self-imposed deadline last week to have my fine edits done.

The working title is Onwards, Upwards: Six Transformational Practices for Golf Nerds. I’m vacillating on the title. I'm open for your suggestions.

I’ll keep you posted on when it will be available. Onwards, upwards, eh?

Surrender? Are you kidding? How an alien concept can be an act of rebellionThat's the headline for my Substack post toda...
23/02/2024

Surrender? Are you kidding? How an alien concept can be an act of rebellion

That's the headline for my Substack post today. I post them to FB every once in a while. If you like my stuff, I invite you to subscribe at toconnor.substack.com for free or pay (if you're so inclined).

Here goes:

It's interesting the reaction you get sometimes when you stand in front of a group of people and deliver a talk. Over time, I’ve learned that a person who looks bored is often just concentrating, and someone who appears to be brooding could be thinking about something I said.

But other reactions are unmistakable. About 10 years ago when I first stepped into coaching, I gave a talk at Glen Abbey Golf Club to a room full of elite junior golfers and their parents in Oakville, Ontario.

One of my core messages was that in tournaments, it’s easy to think about how you might be judged if you choke, and that you need to make perfect swings.

I told the kids not to get caught up in worrying and trying so hard—just let it rip; make the best swings you can. Then I flashed a slide that said in big bold letters: SURRENDER.

The temperature in the room seemed to drop to sub-Arctic. I swear an owl hooted mournfully in the distance. The kids looked confused. The cold stares that came back from the parents, in essence said, ‘Are you kidding? Surrender? Not on your life, pal. That’s for wimps. We go for the jugular in Oakville.’

That was an important lesson in considering the audience for your message.

But the chilly reaction was indicative that the whole notion of ‘surrender’ is alien in a culture that stresses achievement, status, and the accumulation of likes. Surrender? That’s soft. Woke. That’s for snowflakes happy to receive participation ribbons.

You wanna win in this world? You take control, you outwork everyone, you go hard!

After posting my newsletter last week in which I shared the message of my improv coach to “surrender,” I thought about how counter-intuitive that message is. I’m sure a few people stopped reading when they came across my cultural blasphemy.

Surrender? Like hell I will. That’s when you give up, turtle, turn the other cheek, fly the white flag, let the Tesla in front of you, allow your teenager the last word. Weak stuff, man.

How this? ‘Give it up control’ is another way to say the same thing, and it has a slightly less offensive ring to some. George Knudson, the late legendary Canadian golfer, often said: “Give up control to gain control.” A chorus of gurus have said the same thing, although most people I meet literally and figuratively have white-knuckle death grips on their golf clubs, steering wheels, and phones; they’re tight and breathing so shallowly it’s a wonder they don’t pass out.

We’re a culture that demands comfort and control. Why? Because we’re scared.

Do you scoff and guffaw at my premise that we’re afraid? If we weren’t afraid, we wouldn’t micro-manage ourselves. We’d accept whatever happens. We wouldn’t worry about our status and image. ‘What will people say?’ ‘What if I shoot a million?’ ‘What if I screw up?’

We want what we want. This is success. Anything else is s**t.

Consider that, despite its reputation, as many armies, politicians and card players have proven over the centuries, surrendering can be a smart thing, As Kenny Rogers says, “You gotta know when to hold ‘em, and when to fold ‘em.” (I don’t think Kenny found anything that rhymed with ‘discern.’)

Consider the wisdom of surrendering when your drunk uncle starts railing against—or for—religion or a politician. Or when your dog suddenly unburdens his bowels on the neighbour’s lawn while they watch from the porch. Or you overhear the guy ahead in the Timmy’s drive-through order “toasted” sandwiches from a list.

As Amy Johnson writes: “Surrender literally means to stop fighting. Stop fighting with yourself.”

The fight is usually with your own BS: your beliefs and stories that are bolstered by a constant diet of messages that you’re not good—smart, cool, or rich—enough unless you do what the high priests are preaching as you scroll.

Rather than fight, you can maintain your cool, roll your eyes, and roll on good buddy. In many ways, I believe that surrendering is an act of rebellion. It’s another way of saying, ‘Screw it. I’m doing it my way.’

As a golfer, surrendering could be standing on the first tee and letting the swing thoughts float by like wind-blown clouds and ignoring your buddy’s advice. Rather than make a tentative, calculated swing, you let it rip. ‘If this goes into the woods, it’s going deep into the woods.’

Why not? Why be a micromanaging control-freak to yourself? You don’t control your swing or what the golf ball does anyway. You have to accept whatever happens. What choice do you have?

When you surrender control, you can access your talent, kill and experience. You can create flow. You’ve hit some of your best shots when you swung like you didn’t give a damn. That’s fun.

Surrender, give up control, trust yourself, let it rip … whatever you language you want to use, that sounds pretty cool to me.

If you are interested in golf coaching or my Commit to Freedom workshops on improving commitment and accountability in organizations, please send an email to [email protected].

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Check out my latest Substack article which explores how improving your golf swing is similar to a musician or band learn...
05/10/2023

Check out my latest Substack article which explores how improving your golf swing is similar to a musician or band learning a new song—you must patiently invest yourself in deliberate practice before you go at full speed live.

How changing your golf swing is like learning a new song

27/07/2023

FOS David Leadbetter has a new training aid and our other FOS Andy Brumer wrote about it!

Straightaway to Better Play: a look into David Leadbetter’s new training aid, the Straightaway

by Andy Brumer

Sometimes the answers we’re seeking to solve difficult if not seemingly unsolvable problems lie right in front of our eyes, though that’s often the last place people think to look for them. When you think about it, the only portion of the golf swing that lies right in front of our eyes is the takeaway, those first two or three feet that the club moves back from the ball. Even though the takeaway, then, allows golfers to monitor this crucial initiation portion of their swings, too many of them remain blind to the takeaway’s role, importance, and method of ex*****on. It’s for no small reason that the great Ben Hogan described the takeaway as one of the two “crossroads” of the golf swing, the other being the transitional first move down from the top toward impact. Hogan knew that if golfers got this make-or-break movement at the beginning of their swings right, they would have a good chance of completing their backswings and pouring, as he put it, all of their energy efficiently into the ball. Get it wrong, and the chance of playing consistent golf becomes slim and none, and Slim left town last week!
It was just this type of Hoganesque perception that led David Leadbetter, one of the game’s most creative instructors, to invent the Straightaway, his newest (and by Leadbetter’s own assessment, his best) training aid quite literally points golfers in the direction of playing better golf. A small colorful clip-on device that for golfers of a certain age might trigger memories of those small well-crafted Tinker Toys they played with as kids. Indeed, the Straightaway may be just the key golfers need to return the joy of a free-flowing golf swing and solid contact back into their games.
The trainer simply clips on to any golf club shaft just below the grip, where it sits poised to correctly guide golfers through the crucial first part of the backswing. Without physically contacting any part of golfers’ bodies and thus not physically manipulating them into predetermined position(s), the Straightway provides a mental roadmap to a faultless beginning of the swing. Just as you can’t birdie all eighteen holes if you don’t birdie the first one, Leadbetter understands that you can’t make a quality and repeating full swing if the first part of the swing veers immediately off track.
A right-handed golfer has employed the Straightaway correctly when the device’s blue-on-yellow arrow points parallel to that golfer’s swing plane line at what Leadbetter calls “the 9 O’clock position” (and the club pointing at 6 O’clock in its address position). The arrow will also point parallel as well to (though slightly to the inside of) the golfer’s toe line, when he or she has addressed the ball with feet, knees, hips and shoulders all parallel to their swing plane line. Thus golfers will be able to SEE with the help of the Straightaway when they have made a correct or an incorrect takeaway.
As Leadbetter explains on an accompanying on-line Straightaway demonstration, golfers MUST use their core, not just their hands and arms, to move the club back from the ball. Doing so establishes the quality of swing synchronization that they must sustain throughout their entire swings. Unfortunately, it has been Leadbetter’s perception than many if not most golfers fail to do this and this is an underlying principle of his golf teaching practice .
Indeed, it’s because many golfers fail to use their cores to synchronize the essential first stage of the golf swing and instead use their arms, shoulders, and hands to pull and flip and roll the clubhead too sharply inside of the plane line, that the dream of consistent ball striking eludes them.
None other than Jack Nicklaus said that he wanted his clubhead to “maintain a relationship” with his plane line not only at the start of his backswing, but throughout his entire swing. Jack knew that failing to do so required him to make compensating, awkward and energy consuming compensations SOMEPLACE ELSE during his swing to get the club back on plane through impact. Nicklaus’ strategy to keep his club connected to his plane line involved the ex*****on of a unique forward press, where he engaged his core before deliberately drawing his club straight back from the ball.
How important was the correct Corr-Rect-core-driven takeaway to the great Arnold Palmer? In his classic instruction book My Game and Yours Arnie lists moving the club two feet straight back from the ball in a connected core-driven manner as one of his five golf swing fundamentals (the other four being a good grip, a steady head, a compact swing and accelerating into the ball). Sam Snead, whose swing many consider to be the greatest swing ever taught golfers to synchronize their movements away from the ball by moving their arms, hands, and club all together. Snead’s overall philosophy of the golf swing would become known as “the One-Piece Swing,” but Sam knew you can’t move all the parts of the body in a rhythmic unified and fashion throughout the entire swing if you didn’t do so at the start of it.
The great Canadian ball striker Moe Norman understood that the movement of the club for the first two feet away from the ball played such a vital role in a good swing that he did away with his takeaway completely. Moe just started his swing with his clubhead resting on the ground already two feet behind the ball. The heck with the takeaway, Moe reasoned, I’ll start right away from (what would become) Leadbetter’s Straightaway takeaway finish slot! And some have questioned Moe’s mental acuity! Geez!
What about the maestro Byron Nelson, who in 1945 eighteen golf tournaments on the PGA Tour, eleven of them in a row, and is often referred to as “the father of the modern golf swing”? Nelson’s consistent ball sticking was so greatly admired that when the True Temper Golf Shaft company wanted to find a name for their ball hitting/shaft testing robot, they asked Sir Byron if they could name it after him. Thus the Iron Byron was born.
Nelson’s swing breakthrough, which may to us now seems both obvious and conventional, had to do with his conviction that he could achieve his optimum blend of consistency and power by, as he put, it taking the club “straight back and straight through the ball.” In other words, Nelson eschewed the then than strongly rotational pivot-driven swing favored by most of the best players of his day. Nelson’s straight-back-straight-through method may seem simple to us, but it revolutionized the field of golf instruction in the years to come.
Therefore, it wouldn’t be long before we find Ben Hogan advocating a strong pushing strongly off the right foot and leg in an act of initial lateral thrust to begin the downswing. Nicklaus (again!) followed in the succeeding to Hogan’s generation of great players by teaching a lateral shuttling of his knees forward at the initial stage of his downswing before he rotated his hips, which he writes in his book Golf My Way that he did AFTER impact.
Lastly, Lee Trevino, whom along with Hogan and Moe Norman many consider the greatest ball striker ever, and for whom starting the club straight back from the ball was so important that he set up to his shots with a stance thirty degrees open to his target line. Lee’s strategy in doing this was to thoroughly eliminate any tendency his swing might have to in its initial takeaway stage overly pivot away his club from his target line. Doing so, Trevino writes in his book Swing My Way would whip his club excessively to the inside, again, making it unnecessarily difficult to get it back on line through impact.
In conclusion, while David Leadbetter insists that the takeaway, the first part of the golf swing, is today much overlooked, he isn’t saying that the subject is one that has always been ignored. He simply points out that today not enough attention is paid to this vital part of the golf swing. Perhaps too many golfers have become subsumed in an abstract barrage of launch monitor and ground reaction force numbers and data. But what golfer doesn’t long for a straightforward solution to their swing struggles? David Leadbetter’s Straightaway points us to that solution.

Golf Coach Guy weighs in on whether having a putter collection is like having a deep bench or just contributes to a mess...
18/03/2023

Golf Coach Guy weighs in on whether having a putter collection is like having a deep bench or just contributes to a messy rec room. And whether it just perpetuates pesky putting problems.

Don't laugh—serious domestic and psyche ramifications abound

On the latest off-season episode GSL and Coach Tim talk to Mike Romatowski of Mach 3 about a unique way to level-up your...
17/03/2023

On the latest off-season episode GSL and Coach Tim talk to Mike Romatowski of Mach 3 about a unique way to level-up your speed and organize your golf swing. Howard gets out-gunned on the range and Tim gives us a sneak peek at his new book Quiet Mind Golf. Also a tease about a big time guest and new sponsor and as always brought to you by TaylorMade Canada!

On the latest off-season episode, GSL and Coach Tim talk to Mike Romatowski of Mach 3 about a unique way to level-up your speed and organize your golf swing....

Full Swing is like an inconsistent golfer, but supremely watchable, poignant and fun. Here's a sampling of my gut reacti...
17/02/2023

Full Swing is like an inconsistent golfer, but supremely watchable, poignant and fun. Here's a sampling of my gut reactions.

A sampling of gut reactions, projections and twinges

Everyone is always working on something: rotating better, shallowing out their swing, getting their clubface to path to ...
15/02/2023

Everyone is always working on something: rotating better, shallowing out their swing, getting their clubface to path to zero out, ad infinitum.

After reading the book Working on Yourself Doesn't Work by Ariel and Shya Kane, I took a look at whether all this work that we do ... actually works.

The ROI isn't so great

On episode  #220, Coach Tim connects with GSL and his buddy Grant MacDougall in Mexico and talk about—ACK!—feelings and ...
13/02/2023

On episode #220, Coach Tim connects with GSL and his buddy Grant MacDougall in Mexico and talk about—ACK!—feelings and trust. Namely, how when you talk openly about what you are thinking and feeling, you not only play better, but you also make more friends. As always, brought to you by TaylorMade Canada
Canada.

On episode #220, Coach Tim connects with GSL and his buddy Grant MacDougall in Mexico and talk about—ACK!—feelings and trust. Namely, how when you talk openl...

13/02/2023

Here's a beauty: "Experience is the hardest kind of teacher. It gives you the test first and the lesson afterwards." Oscar Wilde

Introducing Golf Coach Guy .. who (well, me) relates a convo w the late Bruce Lietzeke about the dangers of chasing an A...
08/02/2023

Introducing Golf Coach Guy .. who (well, me) relates a convo w the late Bruce Lietzeke about the dangers of chasing an A-game

Introducing Golf Coach Guy ... your online golf answer person

With goals, aren't you supposed to go big or go home? You know, make 'em BHAG. But it turns out tiny is a better way to ...
04/02/2023

With goals, aren't you supposed to go big or go home? You know, make 'em BHAG. But it turns out tiny is a better way to go with goals. Check out my latest on Substack

A newsletter by a coach and fellow golf nerd

Introducing you to Up & Down, the new name for my blog which has moved to Substack. I'm jacked up to write more. Onwards...
31/01/2023

Introducing you to Up & Down, the new name for my blog which has moved to Substack. I'm jacked up to write more. Onwards, upwards

Our episode  #218 is  #1 of 2023 as GSL and Coach Tim welcome the new year with a full round of golf wisdom and nonsense...
11/01/2023

Our episode #218 is #1 of 2023 as GSL and Coach Tim welcome the new year with a full round of golf wisdom and nonsense. GSL talks about sobriety, and how quitting drinking is similar to making changes in your game. Coach Tim reminds us that awareness is curative, and the whole gang is giddy to be back for Season 8! As always brought to you by TaylorMade Canada

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/swing-thoughts/id1072405122?i=1000592922208

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