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19/01/2023

25/11/2022

Anyone else relate to these? ❤️

09/11/2022

For all of us who are doing the best we can. You heroes.

The people with the best self‑control are typically the ones who need to use it the least. It’s easier to practice self‑restraint when you don’t have to use it very often. So, yes, perseverance, grit, and willpower are essential to success, but the way to improve these qualities is not by wishing you were a more disciplined person, but by creating a more disciplined environment.

Read more in Chapter 7 of Atomic Habits. Get a copy at atomichabits.com

05/10/2022

“Get into the habit of asking yourself
honestly, “Does this support the life I am trying to create?” If not, release it.”

What are you releasing?

Credit: on IG

29/09/2022

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Posted • What are your helping and fixing tendencies about? Just an invitation to reflect on what's happening underneath what you show and consider how your form of helping actually affects others.

A few more questions to consider**
Does your attempt to help actually help?
Do people want you to fix or solve what they are going through?
How does the person receiving your help experience you?
Who are you outside of your helper role?

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If you are looking to work through your tendency to always be the helper, fixer, and giver in your relationships, reach out to our team to get support to soothe your anxieties, balance your give and take, and learn to build deep connection with those you love.
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Credit: on IG

23/09/2022

Anyone else? lol

Comic for the week of September 19, 2022
read more at www.comics.angrylittlegirls.com

22/09/2022

Be your blobbiest you. 💗
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Posted • .mentalhealth You do not have to “fit” into the idea of what someone else wants you to to be or expects you to become 🗣🔥

This post is inspired by please go check out his page!
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06/08/2022

Yes!!! Untigering

Personal story: I recently got back from giving the keynote speech at a conference. For months leading up to it, I was stressed and nervous because I had this script running through my mind: "I'm not a public speaker!" The thought of giving a speech in front of hundreds of people freaked me out.

But I cared enough about the message to say yes. I prepared and practiced. I focused on serving the community. I trusted that the audience was supportive and eager to learn, not judgmental or critical. And I did it! I survived! It went so well that I might even consider public speaking again. 😁

The whole experience made me question these self-limiting ideas I have about myself--ways that I'm still healing from internalized (school) wounds. I'm not good at sports. I'm not a good public speaker. My voice doesn't matter. I don't belong. Instead of allowing myself to stay stagnant and trapped by these beliefs, what if I questioned them?

I may not be good at something, but if I want to do it, isn't that reason enough to do it?

I may not be good at something, but maybe I'm just not good at it YET! Should I let my fears and wounds keep me from growing and learning?

As an unschooling parent, I'm realizing that deschooling is a lifelong process that is as much (if not more) for the parent than for the child. As I recognize my own school wounds, I’m learning to question the lies and narratives I believe about myself. I’m learning to model for my children how to be a brave lifelong learner.
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What school wounds are you healing from?

05/08/2022

Hey y'all! If you're a compassionate parent with neurodivergent kids, or if you're a parent with neurodivergent kids, check out - - the Executive Function Online Summit! Happening NOW from August 5th to August 7th. Register today for FREE!

And I'll be on as a bonus speaker on Monday! https://adhddiversified--sethperler.thrivecart.com/tefos2021/

21/07/2022

Yep.

Seen on a friend's timeline 👍

21/07/2022

Let's not "should" on ourselves!

“Shoulds” are about standards, judgments, and expectations.
“Shoulds” breed comparison and shame.
“Shoulds” are attempts to try to control how we feel about ourselves or how we are perceived by others.

I grew up living by “shoulds.”

I did whatever was expected of me… and then some, whether the expectations were about grades (straight A valedictorian), character (absolutely annoying goody-two shoes), spirituality (read the Bible through at least 20 times), manners (never cussed), or relationships (didn’t date until college like a good Asian girl).

But inside I was filled with shame and insecurity. I lacked self-knowledge, self-compassion, and boundaries.

Part of my healing has been to quiet that critical, demanding voice so that I can actually HEAR MYSELF. To stop living according to other people’s expectations so that I can consciously choose a path that is right for me.

How about you? What “shoulds” are you recognizing and letting go of, whether for yourself or your child?
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Posted • I've never really been one to care about societal expectations, but recently, I've been catching myself saying "should" a lot...⁠
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🕸"I should be earning more by now"⁠
🕸"I should know how to take care of myself more"⁠
🕸"I shouldn't be so tired"⁠
⁠.. And on and on it goes.⁠
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It's interesting because each and every "should" essentially points to some kind of story or expectation that comes from an external perspective. And when I can pause and examine these stories, I feel a greater sense of agency in not only how I feel, but how I choose to live my life.⁠
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📝What are some "should's" that you're telling yourself these days? And what stories and expectations do these "should's" connect with?⁠
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Credit: Shapes and Sounds

18/07/2022

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It’s easy to create negative narratives and labels based on the challenging behaviors of our children. We begin to see them as difficult, disobedient, clingy, dramatic, etc. Frustration builds and we start losing our joy and delight in them.

But when we take a step back and also recognize the corresponding strength to the challenge, we develop a much more supportive and compassionate attitude toward our children. We don’t pretend that the challenges don’t exist, but we have a more balanced and wholistic view of our child and their humanity.
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Posted • When faced with challenging behaviors, look for the corresponding strength and focus on nurturing that gift while providing gentle guidance and coping skills for the challenging areas.
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Quote: L.R. Knost
Image: Annmarie Bowman - Raise Parents

13/05/2022

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Oh, to love ourselves for being human. 💗

📸 • Allyson Dinneen, Therapist

01/04/2022

Oof, that masking though!

ADHD-alien.com

27/03/2022

Give yourself and your child the gift of “not doing.”
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Posted • ✨Repeat these affirmations if you find it difficult to unplug. ⁣
✨ ⁣If you’re used to being “on” the practice of rest can be challenging. It’s important to remember that learning how to honor rest as an integral part of our well-being is a practice & a process.
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✨✨“There is no glory in the grind that grinds you all the way down.”-Elaine Welteroth⁣
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HT The Mindful Corner

19/03/2022

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