15/06/2023
L I T T L E D A R L I N G
Every morning and every evening I have a mantra that I say to the boys. “You are special, you are loved. You are amazing. You are intelligent. When you are feeling sad and blue, always remember mummy loves you. Go to bed/school/XX knowing you are loved.”
It is something that always makes them smile and I just know it will stay with them- but I do wonder is it enough? I have always done this because I didn’t want them to have low self esteem and or say negative things about themselves. The funny thing is, if I heard my babies or people I care about saying some of the abhorrent things I have said about myself I would be mortified!
Self deprecation is something that has always been easy for me. I would rather do this than ever look at myself in a positive light.
I recently came across a video that talked about putting a picture of yourself as a child on your mirror and each time you find yourself thinking negative thoughts to go to the mirror and talk to that picture of baby you.
As crazy as it sounded at the time I gave it a go and as confronting as it can be it works. You just would never say those things to a kid, especially you as a kid. Simply having someone compliment you is lovely but not if you don’t truly believe it.
Give it a go- it takes time but it is powerful. I’m still a work in progress believe me, but as far as your own babies, or loved ones, I now know the best thing for their self esteem is to see you comfortable in your own skin. 🤍