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Raise your daughter to have that edge- you know the one. Where she questions you Where she questions them, all of them, ...
18/03/2024

Raise your daughter to have that edge- you know the one.

Where she questions you

Where she questions them, all of them, out there

Where she isn’t afraid to have it out with you, tell you like it is

Where she sees the line, she know exactly where it is, but instead of walking it she chooses to skirt around and over and under and just on the other side of it like a dance you’ve never seen but are in absolute awe of

You can’t look away, it’s both mesmerising and chaotic… all at once

Where her sass is so impressive, you can’t even be mad

Raise her to have that edge, where she knows exactly how capable she is

Where she knows so unequivocally her divine place in this world, it’s impossible for anyone to sew a single seed of doubt in her mind

They can try, and they will, but their efforts will be pitiful and comical and they will come up short…every time

Because she is not one to be fooled

Raise your daughter to have that edge, and she will stand not only for herself, but also for and beside those who can’t stand for themselves

Three things to say to these people….F* YOU- because, well….WTF!?!THANKYOU- Because being treated in such a way taught m...
10/02/2024

Three things to say to these people….

F* YOU- because, well….WTF!?!

THANKYOU- Because being treated in such a way taught me that I deserved better, and really- if it wasn’t for them I wouldn’t be as self aware as I am today

I FORGIVE YOU- Because to hold onto hate or resentment isn’t my style nor how I want to move through life, whether they are sorry or not is irrelevant because this one’s for me, not them. I also recognise that the way they were toward me had nothing to do with me, and everything to do with their OWN bu****it.

Do you resonate?

Are there people you need to say these three things to, even if to yourself?

It’s important to honour how it made you feel (hence the F U).

It’s just as important to find a way to move through it, and move on from it.

How you have been treated in the past is valid, but it does not determine your future….YOU DO

Holding onto hate or resentment is living in the past, it’s giving way too much energy to those who never cared….

Let’s get back to NOW.
Let’s get back to YOU.

You don’t NEED anyone else to come and find you, or to save you. The reality is, no matter how much you might hope and w...
07/02/2024

You don’t NEED anyone else to come and find you, or to save you.

The reality is, no matter how much you might hope and wish, no-one is coming.

And you will waste SO MUCH TIME waiting, hoping, wishing, for things to just be different or for things to miraculously change- for someone else to “make it all better”

But darling, It’s YOU

It was always you and it will always be you.

YOU can make a different choice
YOU can reach out for support
YOU can start saying no
YOU can start saying YES
YOU can take that step
YOU can!

You can spend your entire life waiting…. they will never truly find you.

Because the truth is- you are the only one who knows where to begin looking.

You CAN do hard things
01/02/2024

You CAN do hard things

Daaayyyyymmmmmnnnnnn- I’ll have what she’s having! 🤩
20/01/2024

Daaayyyyymmmmmnnnnnn- I’ll have what she’s having! 🤩

There’s no easier road- just depends which one you are going to choose to walk down.Credit
06/01/2024

There’s no easier road- just depends which one you are going to choose to walk down.

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Not easy, but worth it Credit:
11/12/2023

Not easy, but worth it

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There has never been a more perfect day ✨✨
05/12/2023

There has never been a more perfect day ✨✨

To build up the relationship you have with yourself, to the point you can confidently look into your own eyes in the mir...
30/11/2023

To build up the relationship you have with yourself, to the point you can confidently look into your own eyes in the mirror and say “I Freakin’ Love You” is no easy feat.

And I have come to learn, this is one of the most necessary factors in living an alcohol free life- especially when life used to be anything BUT alcohol free.

So if you are still on your journey toward self love, and you aren’t yet at the level you need to be to make the change for YOU- then do it for them.

Do it for the people who look up to you, Do it for the people who watch your every action, Do it for those you love

The love you have for you will come, if you work at it, and when that day comes there is no better feeling.

But until that day, and if your relationship with alcohol is not a healthy one, you can still make a different choice.

Until that day, do it for them.

The one question I asked myself that sealed my sober fate was simply….“Do I want this?” Do I want this glass of wine tha...
23/11/2023

The one question I asked myself that sealed my sober fate was simply….

“Do I want this?”

Do I want this glass of wine that will turn into 2 glasses that will turn into 2 bottles?

Do I want this headache I now have, after waking up hungover for the 3rd time this week- foggy, irritable, impatient, depressed?

Do I want this influence on my kids, and see them grow up thinking that everyday drinking is totally normal?

Do I want this for my life, to not be striving to be better, to not be facing the issues that were causing me to drink, to not be allowing myself to feel all the feels so I could figure myself out?

The answer was just as simple…yet incredibly profound.

No.

The moment I was honest with myself, the moment I was at my most authentic was the moment the bu****it that came with trying to be someone I wasn’t- fell away.

And that feeling, oh girl, that feeling is worth so much more than the temporary escape drinking brings….

So don’t give up.

You’ve got this

FEBRUARY 1ST 2023Will always be one of my proudest days It’s the day I decided I no longer wanted to feel controlled It’...
03/11/2023

FEBRUARY 1ST 2023

Will always be one of my proudest days

It’s the day I decided I no longer wanted to feel controlled

It’s the day I decided I no longer wanted to drown out the issues

It’s the day I decided to make a better choice for my life

It’s the day I decided to become a better role model for my kids

1.2.23 is the day I became Alcohol Free

✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨✨

Here’s what I’ve learned since that day;
- I am enough, just as I am
- I don’t need to rely on something to make me feel good or relax
- I don’t need to rely on something to have fun or to “be fun”
- I don’t need to do what others are doing just because they’re doing it
- Those who truly respect me and don’t have their own agenda or insecurities will not make me feel “less than” or guilty for my choice
- To do all the things I did before WITHOUT the hangover the next day is Straight Up Epic
- Life is pretty amazing without it

So FOLLOW ALONG if you are curious about a sober life or ready to change tack- be inspired by my journey and find comfort in my message

𝘐𝘵 𝘢𝘭𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘴𝘦𝘦𝘮𝘴 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘰𝘴𝘴𝘪𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘭 𝘪𝘵’𝘴 𝘥𝘰𝘯𝘦- 𝘕𝘦𝘭𝘴𝘰𝘯 𝘔𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘭𝘢

Eyes on the prize(You, the prize is You ✨)
28/10/2023

Eyes on the prize

(You, the prize is You ✨)

It’s not about having the most friends. The quantity of your circle is not what determines a happy and fulfilled life.It...
19/10/2023

It’s not about having the most friends.

The quantity of your circle is not what determines a happy and fulfilled life.

It’s not about needing to keep up appearances and engaging with people who are the “in crowd” but leave you feeling worthless

The popularity of your crew is not what determines a content and empowered life.

Given that humans thrive on connection- it’s interesting that we would choose to connect with people who bring us down, and are….let’s face it….simply not our people!

It’s kinda counterproductive, don’t you think?

That one friend who really gets you, the one where your energy just clicks and you feel safe with them…can take the place of 100 “friends” who don’t really care and who aren’t really there

So it’s not about striving to have the numbers, or about striving to be liked….it’s about pouring into and cherishing those few genuine friendships that you know will last 200 lifetimes over.

Your ride or die.

Your ride at dawn.

Your comfort.

Your people.

Tag someone who is part of your cherished few ✨✨

Either way, you’re 100% correct Which one would you prefer to be right about?
17/10/2023

Either way, you’re 100% correct

Which one would you prefer to be right about?

𝘈𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘦𝘹𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵, 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘯𝘰𝘸. 𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘪𝘵’𝘴 𝘨𝘰𝘯𝘦. 𝘚𝘰 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵, 𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶.𝘓𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘯 ...
14/10/2023

𝘈𝘭𝘭 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘦𝘹𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵, 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘯𝘰𝘸.

𝘛𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘪𝘵’𝘴 𝘨𝘰𝘯𝘦.

𝘚𝘰 𝘪𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵, 𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘰𝘴𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶.

𝘓𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘵, 𝘭𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘯 𝘵𝘰 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘶𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 (𝘪𝘯- 𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘳, 𝘵𝘶𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯- 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸𝘭𝘦𝘥𝘨𝘦 = 𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘳 𝘬𝘯𝘰𝘸𝘭𝘦𝘥𝘨𝘦) 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘥𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘯𝘦𝘹𝘵 𝘮𝘰𝘷𝘦 - 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘮𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘰𝘸𝘴 - 𝘣𝘢𝘴𝘦𝘥 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵.

𝘚𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵 𝘥𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘢𝘵𝘤𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘳𝘨𝘺 𝘢𝘳𝘰𝘶𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘧𝘵. 𝘞𝘢𝘵𝘤𝘩 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦.

𝘉𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘢 𝘞𝘰𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴𝘯’𝘵 𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘺 𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧.

~𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘞𝘪𝘭𝘥𝘦𝘳 𝘞𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘯

📸 The Creators Daughter Photography

Go and greet the world, she’s been waiting for you. She’s been saving a space for you, the perfect fit, sitting as a voi...
10/10/2023

Go and greet the world, she’s been waiting for you.

She’s been saving a space for you, the perfect fit, sitting as a void amongst the smooth lines and rugged edges that is her authentic beauty.

And when you finally go to meet her, you will find that right there in that space she’s been saving is where you are meant to be- it’s home.

It’s home because you are there, in all of your own smooth lines and rugged edges, in all of your authentic beauty.

You are now one with her, your smooth lines meet hers, your rugged edges fit perfectly into hers like a missing piece of a puzzle. And together you are beautifully chaotic. It falls into place. It just makes sense.

So go and greet the world, she’s waiting for you

🦩MOTHERHOOD🦩Fun Fact: Flamingoes lose their pink pigment right after breeding because this phase is so intensive and so ...
08/10/2023

🦩MOTHERHOOD🦩

Fun Fact: Flamingoes lose their pink pigment right after breeding because this phase is so intensive and so much of their food is used to help raise their chicks….

Sound familiar?

As mothers, we pour a mother f* lot of ourselves into raising our kids….so it’s no wonder we are left feeling strung out, exhausted, flat, blah, meh and basically colourless through these intense years.

So if you’re in the thick of it, just remember….Flamingoes always get their Pink back, and you will too🌷

🩷Let us know in the comments ways that you energise or “Pink” your life as a busy Mumma?

✨Tag someone that this quote reminds you of✨
06/10/2023

✨Tag someone that this quote reminds you of✨

Tag someone who needs to hear this today ✨
04/10/2023

Tag someone who needs to hear this today ✨

Amongst the chaos~ Be the calm
04/10/2023

Amongst the chaos~ Be the calm

In an all knowing world, be the unexplainable
02/10/2023

In an all knowing world, be the unexplainable

Before I started on my own empowerment journey, the ONLY way I could be comfortable in a crowd was if I had a few drinks...
02/09/2023

Before I started on my own empowerment journey, the ONLY way I could be comfortable in a crowd was if I had a few drinks under my belt.

If I couldn’t drink I would grin and bare it, hating every second of it- waiting for the first opportunity to leave

This is what it came down to- I was constantly thinking about what everyone else in the room was thinking about me. It was all consuming 🤯

It became very clear to me, through my self-healing journey, that I was making up stories in my head. When I pulled it all apart and analysed every layer- there was no truth to the notion that “they all think things about me”.

Zero, Nilch, Nada

So then I thought “what a huge waste of time to go somewhere and be totally consumed by complete lies”

So I began to tell myself a new story

I told myself this new story so many times, that it became less a story and more the truth.

That story was- No one cares

Simply- No one cares

In the best way possible- No one cares

This way of thinking pretty much eliminated those feelings of social anxiety

I came to learn that people care about one thing most in this world- themselves. So if they are all only caring about themselves, then no one is caring enough to think aaaaalllllll the things about you. In fact, they are most likely thinking the exact same things as you are!

Do I look OK?
Did my words come out right?
Did I come across friendly enough?
Do they think I’m a weirdo now that I told that story?
Is that group of people talking about me?
Is there something on my face?
Is there something in my teeth?

The list goes on

I also came to learn that I VERY RARELY put much thought at all into what other people are doing, saying, acting- so why should I think others are putting much thought into what I’m doing, saying, acting?

The fact is, they aren’t.

The feeling of being out in a crowd- alcohol free- and not being anxious, is incredibly freeing.

So if you are someone who struggles with this, just remember these key points;
1. No one cares (in the best way)
2. People only care about themselves
3. You are badass

And as always, if you are struggling with this and want more support- I’m just a DM away 📲

THIS is what I do I help women to unlearn everything they thought they knew;About themselves About others About life By ...
29/08/2023

THIS is what I do

I help women to unlearn everything they thought they knew;

About themselves
About others
About life

By sharing my exclusive formula that unlocks their Wilder side.

That version of themselves that is their ALL TIME FAVOURITE.

That part of themselves they wish they could introduce to the world, but never feel confident enough to do so.

This unique program is so much more than just any old coaching journey.

It’s real, raw and unfiltered

It breaks down the boundaries of what you have always been taught to believe

It brings together Women of the same frame of mine, building each other up and linking arms in the face of adversity

This program is fu***ng epic- and I can’t wait to meet the next gorgeous soul that makes the life changing decision to join

The best time to start was yesterday, the second best time is right now.

So Let’s Fkn GO! 🔥🔥🔥🔥

➡️Link in bio to book a call, or send me a message to get started!

You might be in a rut, but it doesn’t mean you have to stay thereTake that brilliant mind and conjure up a way to change...
28/08/2023

You might be in a rut, but it doesn’t mean you have to stay there

Take that brilliant mind and conjure up a way to change your situation

It might not be easy, but girl- if there’s anyone who can, it’s you

You have the power to make it happen

So make it happen

One thing I fu***ng LOVE about my coaching business (aside from all of the amazing women I meet and have the honour of s...
26/08/2023

One thing I fu***ng LOVE about my coaching business (aside from all of the amazing women I meet and have the honour of supporting) is that it allows me to express my creative side

I love to express through written word
I love to express using colour
I love to express through music

This business allows me to do all of that, while also reaching the women out there who are wanting support in changing their lives

Win Win!

I have never before been so passionate about a goal, a dream of mine

The best part is none of it feels like a chore or an obligation- only straight up joy and bliss

So I put it to you- where are you finding your joy and bliss?

What could you be doing more of that really lights you up?

Sometimes we have to put aside the adulting, even just for a moment, to be in our bliss. Sometimes we have to take that scary step to move closer to living a life that feels natural, joyful, full of laughter

No one is handing that to you, but you

So many times I’ve heard the same thing, over and over 👇🏼I’ll wait until I’ve lost some weight to wear that bikiniI’ll w...
23/08/2023

So many times I’ve heard the same thing, over and over 👇🏼

I’ll wait until I’ve lost some weight to wear that bikini

I’ll wait until everyone else is happy before I do something for myself

I’ll wait until I have all of my ducks in a row before I start living the way I’ve always wanted to do

I’ll wait until I meet that person who meets all of my crazy high standards and doesn’t have any flaws before I give someone a chance

I’ll wait

I’ll wait

I’ll wait

And then one day, in your future, you stop and realise you waited too long

And you can’t go back and unwait all the waiting

And all that’s left is regret for all the “not doing”

So F**k waiting.

F**k it.

✨Go on that second date

✨Live each day how you want to

✨Take that time for you

This earth- she needs your boldness. She needs your wild. She needs your sass.

So go show her what you’re made of.

And Girl…wear that damn bikini 👙

No idea where to begin? Wondering what steps to take to work toward living this life free of stress, worry, heaviness an...
11/08/2023

No idea where to begin? Wondering what steps to take to work toward living this life free of stress, worry, heaviness and angst?

First step- admit there’s gotta be a first step

Second step- Reach out for support! You don’t have to try and work it all out on your own ✨✨

DM me, comment below, book a call using the link in my bio- whichever method you use to take that first step, could be the door to changing your life

Nel ✨✨

Hear me out The only (and I mean only) reason someone is able to repeatedly treat you like s**t, is because you let them...
09/08/2023

Hear me out

The only (and I mean only) reason someone is able to repeatedly treat you like s**t, is because you let them

By tolerating the bu****it

By accepting the half assed apology

By not speaking up because you don’t want to be labeled as “dramatic” or “crazy” or “the problem”

By “letting it go” because it’s easier than having a confrontation

By staying silent because you don’t have the energy

It’s through these actions that you are telling them it’s ok.
You may not be actively saying to someone using your verbal communication “its ok to treat me that way” but you sure aren’t telling them not to!

We put so much emphasis on the as***le, what THEY did, what THEY said.

Yeah! Sure! People can be dicks!

And Yeah! Sure! We can be blindsided by their s**tty behaviour!

One can be forgiven for being tricked by someone once, that’s on them. But if it happens twice? That’s on you

Bring the focus off them, and back onto you and your next move

If you find yourself in this space- let me ask you…

Are you setting boundaries with that person?

Are you calling them out and holding them accountable for their actions?

Are you having conversations about how their words or actions made you feel?

Are you making hard decisions to protect your peace?

The responsibility falls on you to draw the line, to decide what you will and won’t allow into your life

The responsibility falls on you because this life is YOURS to create, and not theirs to dictate

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