Ruby la Rouge

12/11/2024

Wizards Rules by Terry Goodkind

1. People are stupid. They believe things mainly because they either want them to be true or fear them to be true.
2. Harm can result from good intention.
3. Passion rules reason.
4. There is Magic in sincere Forgiveness, both in forgiveness received and given.
5. Mind people's actions over words.
6. Only allow reason to rule you.
7. Life is the future not the past.
8. Deserve victory.
9. Contradictions cannot exist.
10. Ignoring truth is betraying yourself.
11. Embrace life, Strength without hate.
12. Truth cannot be destroyed.
13. There have always been those who hate, and there always will be.
14. In this world everyone must die. None of us has any choice in that. Our choice is how we wish to live.

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11/11/2024

✨ I'm inspired ✨
I will be joining the 4B movement, which consists of these four nos:

- No s3x with men
- No giving birth
- No dating men
- No marriage with men

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X: @ soha_money

07/11/2024

It's taken me too long to learn this.
I think I've been in denial about going through childhood neglect and abuse, but it's time for me to see it for what it really was.
I've been defending and making too many excuses for other people for most of my life.
It's time to see the signs and walk away from those who hurt me and won't take accountability.

Family and friends are supposed to defend you, not talk behind your back.
They're supposed to help not gaslight.
They're supposed to understand not attack.
They're supposed to be there for each other.

I may whine a lot, I may not be very smart, and I may get overly hyperfocused on subjects that interest me, but I am not a horrible person. I don't deserve the silent treatment. I don't deserve to be abandoned.

Both of my parents abandoned me from a young age. My mother neglected and abused me more times than I can count and my father accused me of being crazy for standing up against the injustice of sweatshops.

They nearly broke me, but I am not broken, I am a fighter!

I have a fire in my belly that burns fiercely.
I have a big heart, and I love intensely.
I'm very loyal and I don't let go of grudges easily, if at all.
I won't stay quiet about what's happened to me any longer.

Image credit: Aline Frisch

07/11/2024

It's hard to form into words what I think about what has happened with the election in the US. It's sad. It's disheartening. Hopefully people can try to stick together to help each other. I'm here if you need to talk 🏳️‍⚧️🖤💛❤️

24/10/2024

Now that we've thrown the Nordic Model in the bin where it belongs, we'd like to remind everyone that SW's in SA, and worldwide, advocate for FULL DECRIMINALISATION! ☂️

Nothing about us, without us. Listen to s*x workers!

24/10/2024

15/10/2024

Are people still calling complaining customers Karen? Isn't that a bit old?
I enjoy good customer service, I suppose that makes me a Ruby-Karen, although I do hate complaining 😅

Did you know Kharon, in ancient Greek mythology, was the ferryman that carries us across the rivers of the underworld? Cool huh?

15/10/2024

I saw someone use 'female' in their advertising and immediately ruled them out. I'm not doing business with people who see me as a specimen.

13/10/2024

I want to get a haircut. I think I want a somewhat drastic change.
I don't want to dye it, but I've been looking at the long wolf cut, also called a s**g cut.
I'm considering Rock Retro Scissors as the salon to get it done, as I hear they are neurodivergent/LGBTQIA+ friendly.
I just wish haircuts weren't so damn expensive 😫
Here's some pics of the long wolf cut:

10/10/2024

World Mental Health Day - October Ten 💛🩷❤️‍🩹
How are you feeling today?

Take care of yourselves, be gentle, you deserve love, you are enough 🌌

I've been going to therapy and had about 3 sessions so far. We have only just touched the tip of the iceberg metaphorically speaking ✨

I've got PTSD, severe anxiety, depression and I'm quite stressed. I also have ADHD (hyperactive) which is a whole extra thing on top of all the other stuff.
Going forward we will be doing some more tests to check for intellectual disabilities and autism.

With other health matters I will be seeing a dietician/nutritionist hopefully in the future for IBS because I probably also have that 😅
I wasn't aware but I possibly have the ability to get a chronic disease management (CDM) plan which means Medicare covers the cost of some appointments to help with these things. If that's true then that will help immensely.

I'm so grateful that I've finally been able to get some much needed help 🙏🏼
Thank you as well to my friends and supporters all over the world, you mean the world to me 🌏🫶🏼✌🏼
Of course thanks to Beyonce as well 😂💐🍀🤞🏼🌠

04/10/2024

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01/09/2024

Someone asked me this really insensitive question. This is the kind of question that comes from someone who thinks it is the victim's fault.
Blaming the victim is harmful.

I got out of a DV relationship 5 months ago and I am still experiencing flashbacks, insomnia, nightmares, panic attacks, heart palpitations and it feels like my whole body is shaking.

While I was going through the verbal abuse and stalking I had very little support, the place I worked was letting him see me, despite my telling them about what he was doing to me, and I should have said no, but I didn't know what else to do, I needed the money.

I was constantly frantic, using everything as an escape to not think about the abuse, but when people started to show their true colours, withdrawing their support for me, I felt more and more alone.

When the management at the place I worked completely flipped their opinion of me, it made everything so much harder. I wanted to help them improve their social media presence and upgrade their dated website and marketing, but someone there didn't want that, they wanted to stay outdated and sloppy looking. So I was cast out for complaining too much and trying to save their Instagram from being closed down, with screenshots as evidence.

When you are alone, have no support and are fragile, you make poor decisions. As my mother used to explain to me, I got myself into this situation, so I only have myself to blame, so I don't need outsiders to further invalidate me by asking me why I didn't leave if he was hurting me.

I did leave! The moment he became physically violent I was out of there. Guess who did that? Me! No one else. I helped myself by going to the police station and reporting what he did to me. No one told me to do that. I saw the injustice and stood up for myself. He choked me and tackled me to the ground, he went to punch me multiple times, he blocked me from the front door and held my arms so that I couldn't make him leave my home, and he told me that he was going to kill me! I did not deserve any of that! No one does! Asking me why I didn't leave is so incredibly insensitive and rude that I will be blocking anyone who asks me this again!

01/08/2024

Just a quick heads up for the clients who are still wondering where I am. Don't expect my return 💋

29/07/2024

Since can't do astrology I thought I would make one of these for myself. are doing villains in astrology and their picture for Virgos was a massive fail if you ask me.
Above I have Poison Ivy, Rachael from American Psycho 2, Chanel Oberlin from scream queens and Maleficent.
Their attempt was Samara Morgan crawling out of a TV from The Ring, an iPhone with 20% battery, Ursula from the little mermaid and anxiety from Inside Out 2.
Their attempt is actually insulting and shows they know nothing about astrology, this is coming from someone who was raised by an astrologist.
Where's the perfectionism, where's the attention to detail, where's the immaculate presentation?
Their version is literally insulting lol

15/07/2024

Be careful out there y'all. There are so many people that are addicted to toxic drama, they spread it and try to inflict misfortune on others. Tall poppy syndrome is wild. Small time creators that claim others are doing the wrong thing while they themselves are doing the wrong thing. It's actually quite embarrassing for them, because they make themselves look like power hungry manipulators. Lots of people like to brag about their administrative power over others and bully their way around the community, and it's really sad to watch from the sidelines smh.

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**ta

12/07/2024

Heart break nails 💅💔 😭

24/06/2024

Nails galore!
My last set featuring anarchy and asymmetric crosses and my new space/witchy set 🌌🪐🌠☪️✡️✝️🏴
I am so in love with the blue with white artwork.
The nail artists at Meow Nails are great 😊
The woman I see is Rebecca and she's really good at what she does, I enjoy watching her work. Go check her out if you are in need of a refill
I always book using the app, it's so handy 😊

17/06/2024

I have been having trouble figuring out how to tell people about what happened to me recently because it has been really hard to put it into words. I was in a traumatic relationship with someone who emotionally and physically abused me. I gave him so many chances and I should never have given even one chance. I thought he was telling the truth when he always lied. He was even in prison for 10 years for abusing another woman! I still made excuses for him, thinking he would love me like he said he would, believing all the fantastical stories he told about treating me like a Queen.
He acts nice with most people and was awful around me, calling me crazy for standing up for myself.
I've had to press charges after he became violent and he was arrested but I am pretty sure he is out on bail.
My fear is through the roof and I'm also worried about other women in Adelaide, because he has likely moved on to the next victim already.
I wish I could have my old self back, I can't sleep, can't eat, my head hurts all the time and other weird health problems have been occurring.
I have a special assessment booked in August so I have to wait for that before I can get some therapy and this waiting has been hard.
I have money saved but it's quickly disappearing on bills, etc.
I need/want to work so I can help provide, but I have no energy and I feel exhausted all the time. Not only am I burnt out, I am traumatized and scared of going anywhere alone.
I'm not writing this for advice, or for someone to help me, I just want to be real and forthcoming about what's happening for me and why I have been so absent for so long.
If anything maybe someone else who is experiencing something similar, maybe it will help them.

If you are still here, thank you for being here, I appreciate you 💕

*Edit: the special assessment is now at the end of July rather than August, so that's positive news. Soon I will be able to get some therapy 💛